Mother guilt is often synonymous with motherhood. But have you ever stopped to wonder why it’s here, and why it has such a grip on you?  In this episode we’re going to walk you through getting self-curious on why you’re doing it, and what you’re using it for.  In this episode we discuss: - The eternal game of ‘whack-a-mole’ with guilt - Getting curious with why you carry guilt - Getting curious with what you do with guilt as a strategy  - Recognising your guilt patterns  - Measuring yourself to a fantasy - Using guilt as a strategy to avoid anger - Using guilt as a punishment strategy to keep you ‘toeing a line’  - Using guilt as a way to stay in control - Looking for a more solid self that maybe doesn’t want to be doing ‘the thing’ anymore  - Giving yourself permission to claim more space  - Restructuring family life when you change your identity  - Healthy escapism for regulation vs escapism for avoidance  - Recognising if you have a skill gap versus not wanting to do that anymore 

To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

NTM 437: Two easy steps to release yourself from mother guilt

Mothering can be an inspired journey to our most glittering, authentic, passionate, creative and connected selves. Through the mirror offered to us by our children, we are taken to every hurt, unmet need, and also every joy and excitement we’ve ever experienced. We want every woman and mother to give themselves and those around them the compassion, love and healing they so readily offer their children, but rarely allow themselves. Journey with us as we discuss the many layers of being a mother today, where we have come from and where we want to go.  Learn tools to connect with yourself, offer compassion to those parts we’d rather deny and get back in love with yourself, motherhood and who you are as a feminine woman.

Kids & Family

In deciding the type of mother that we want to be, often that’s informed by our experience with our own mother. The view we have of our mother will shape the view we have of ourselves, and therefore, the fuel we draw on in our own mothering, can be created by what was missing or not met by our own mother.    In this episode we discuss:   - Constantly ‘conscious’ and centering your child is outside the realms of what’s possible for any single human   - The deep shame we feel when we perceive we perpetuate what was done to us   - In moments of stress we regress; it’s why triggers are visceral   - Meeting a collection of moments of deep attunement rather than ‘perfect mothering’  - Holding the polarity paradox and complexities of motherhood and humanity   - Feeling controlled by a tiny dictator   - Letting go of unrealistic expectations we beat ourselves against   - Liberating yourself from judgement   - Your freedom is NOT being the complete opposite of her   - Sometimes your dreams are at odds with your mothering   - Real love is the appreciation of the support and the challenge


To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

NTM 462: Building the capacity to mother the way we WEREN’T mothered - Part 1, Bridget’s lens

It’s held up as the pinnacle of perfect mothering in our culture, but is it really? Often, what you’re over functioning on, is related to what is intolerable for you to be.   The more practiced we can be at examining our subconscious motives ahead of time, the less shock we feel when we get angry.   So let’s go on a self-examining journey into the shadow side of the selfless mother.    In this episode, we discuss:   - Nothing is ever completely selfless or altruistic   - Where there’s selfless, there’s selfish   - Where you’re giving you are gaining   - Often shame is attached to focusing on the self, and receiving   - Whatever is unacceptable behaviour for ourselves, we make sure our child doesn’t behave like   - Overfunctioning and hyper-dedication is often a control strategy   - To change the ‘mother-as-selfless’ narrative would undermine our social and patriarchal structures and systems   - Deriving our self-worth from being in service to others   - Examining where over-functioning is a strategy to mask or avoid something   - True empowerment requires self-service and other-service


To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

NTM 461: Unveiling the shadow side of the ‘selfless’ mother

We all want our children to be pleasant, kind, repair well…and so it’s shocking when we see them as inconsiderate, rude, harsh, or on the receiving end of any of these things. 

As a parent, when do you step in, and when don’t you?

In this episode we discuss:
- When you feel like you need to get involved with your child’s social dynamics
- When your kid’s social situations are normal, vs a problem
- Remembering as parents we’re blinded by our lens on our children
- Building resilience and fostering a courageous sense of self 
- Observing what our kids are learning from their “teacher”; the child they’re currently orbiting with 
- Trusting their ebbs and flows of knowing who they are, and recognising that this will shape who they attract
- Allowing learning through social observation 
- How we see our child becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy 
- Meeting your kids where they’re at, and having conversations around marginalisation, neurodiversity, trauma and struggle 
- The home environment is still the best teacher for relational skills


To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

NTM 460: Your kids and friendships: get involved or not?

The longer you “go without”, the harder it is to get it back. To bring back your intimate vibrancy, and chuck out the ‘roommate vibes’, you need to know what’s blocking you, and why, and what you’re going to do about it. So let’s move beyond obligation, complacency, resentment and neglect, and let’s centre the wellbeing of the self, the relationship and the family unit, to bring back sexual connection.


To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

NTM 459: Roommate vibes? What’s blocking you from connecting?

How do you as a mother embrace the change as your child grows up, but navigate the grief you feel, with grace? This podcast gives you three clear tools and processes to avoid getting stuck when you cling on to particular ages and stages of your child’s development. In this episode we discuss:Shifting your focus on keeping them closeA loss of control can feel like a loss of safetyThe acute awareness of separateLooking back and our tendency to either catastrophise or wear rose-coloured glassesOur children are not committed to us, they’re committed to their own highest valuesWhere there’s loss, there’s gainIf you’re stuck in a story, you need to balance it by the oppositeWe can find ourselves focussing so much on how to ‘become’ the mother and embracing matrescence, that we forget there can be equal pain, suffering and growth in unbecoming that centralised figureThe invitation this can be to find more of you
To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/

To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

NTM 437: Two easy steps to release yourself from mother guilt

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