Episode Overview:

Today’s episode is personal and powerful. After a string of frustrating public encounters in my (usually peaceful!) Dutch city, I started thinking about bullies—and how very present they are in nursing and healthcare.

If you’ve ever been bullied, witnessed it, or had to manage someone who bullies others, this episode is for you.

We’re talking about:

• Why bullies act the way they do
• What bullying looks like in a professional setting
• How to hold the line (without losing yourself)
• Why rooting it out early matters—for the health of your team, culture, and leadership

• Why bullying is a reflection of their wounds, not your worth
• What workplace bullying looks like (hint: it’s not just “being mean”)
• How a zero-tolerance approach protects your team from dysfunction and disrepair
• What to say in the moment to shut it down with composure
• How to lead through bullying—whether you’re the manager or a team member

• Bullies thrive in silence. Speaking up is a service to your team.
• You don’t need to “fix” a bully—but you do need to hold your dignity and the line.
• You can feel empathy without excusing behavior.
• Boundaries are leadership tools, not just personal preferences.
• Culture is shaped by what we tolerate. If we don't stop bullying, it spreads.

• Where are you tolerating disrespect because it feels easier than confronting it?
• What’s one small boundary you can reinforce this week to flex that leadership muscle?
• How can you be part of a culture where bullies lose their power?

• “It seems like you’re having a rough day. I’m going to need you to handle that elsewhere.”
• “I’m surprised you felt comfortable saying that out loud.”
• “I understand you’re frustrated, but I will not allow you to speak to me like that.”

(These are calm. Direct. Non-negotiable.)

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Welcome back! This week we’re diving into something that high achievers (like me and probably you) struggle with: saying no. If you’ve ever found yourself overcommitted, running on empty, or constantly feeling like the "go-to person," this episode is for you.

We’re unpacking why we struggle to say no, how to filter what you say yes to, and why setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s strategic leadership. If you’ve been stuck in overcommitment mode, let’s shift into something more sustainable.

• The cultural stories that make us feel like we have to say yes—and why they’re holding you back.
• A 3-part filter to help you decide what’s worth your time, energy, and attention.
• Why being overcommitted actually dilutes your impact (and how to stop it).
• How to use the Value Add Spectrum to figure out what’s no longer serving you.
• Real-life examples of how I’ve set (and held) boundaries—yes, even with the COO.
• How boundaries help you shift from a reactive leader to a proactive one who leads with intention.

• Saying no is not selfish—it’s a leadership skill that protects your capacity to lead well.
• If everything’s important, nothing is. You have to filter and prioritize to show up fully.
• Boundaries don’t just happen—you build the muscle by practicing (yes, even when it’s uncomfortable).
• You are your best systems change asset—don’t dilute your power with misaligned yeses.

1. Mission Fit: Does this align with where you’re headed?
2. Capacity Check: Can you do this well without draining yourself or hurting your bigger goals?
3. Fun Factor: Will this bring meaning, satisfaction, or joy to your life? (Not everything has to be a grind.)

• Rate your current commitments from -10 to +10 based on how much value you actually bring.
• Anything below a +5? Reevaluate.
• Anything at 0 or negative? Let it go.

Use this episode as a gut check. What are you holding onto out of guilt, fear, or habit? Grab a notebook, list your current commitments, and run them through the filter. You’ll walk away with more clarity—and maybe fewer things on your plate.

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Welcome back to the pod! Today’s episode is for nurse leaders who’ve ever felt like they’ve lost themselves in the demands of leadership. Whether you're burning out trying to fill every gap for your team, or you’ve drifted too far from the bedside and feel disconnected from why you started—this is for you.

I’m walking you through why this happens and how to get back to yourself, without stepping away from your role. You’ll learn how to realign your personal priorities with your organization’s mission, so you can lead with clarity, purpose, and energy again.

We’ll get practical with two reflection questions you can use today, plus I’m sharing a sneak peek into something special I’ve got brewing for nurse leaders like you.

• Why so many nurse leaders feel like they’ve lost themselves in the role—and how to tell if you’re one of them
• The difference between being dedicated and being depleted, and how to stop sacrificing your own needs for the team
• How to reconnect with why you became a leader in the first place, even in a high-pressure environment
• Two powerful questions to help you realign your personal goals with your leadership responsibilities
• What it means to be a systems thinking leader—and how to show up for your team and yourself at the same time

• Leadership without self-connection leads to burnout. You matter in the equation too.
• You can care deeply about your team and still have personal goals that fuel your work.
• Aligning your organization’s mission with your own priorities will center you and help you lead sustainably.
• Leadership isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about bringing your whole self to the role, strategically and intentionally.

1. What is the primary organizational priority that your team needs to focus on right now?
2. How does this organizational priority connect to a personal priority you have as a professional?

Start here. Get honest. Then build your leadership plan around BOTH.

This isn’t just something to listen to passively. Grab a notebook or open your notes app and answer those two questions. Come back to them weekly if you need to. When your goals and your organization’s goals are running parallel, you don’t lose yourself—you grow.

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🎙 Episode Overview:

This episode started with a Free Advice Friday question about time management—but the real issue? A much deeper systems problem. I take you through a real-world case study of an ICU nurse floated to an ED observation unit with a 1:7 ratio, and use it as a launch point to unpack the real layers behind “not enough time.” This one’s for the nurses doing their best inside broken systems—and for the leaders ready to do better.

🔑 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why time management strategies won’t fix a misaligned workload
• How to differentiate between sufficient and optimal care
• Practical mindset shifts and strategies for overwhelmed nurses
• What nurse leaders can do right now to reduce team burnout
• The 3 levels every sustainable staffing strategy needs to address

🧠 Key Ideas to Take With You:

• You are not failing—your system might just be misaligned.
• Sufficient care isn’t substandard care. It’s the right care for right now.
• Managing stress is a clinical skill, not just self-care.
• Leaders need to define, communicate, and defend realistic standards.
• Sustainable systems are designed. They don’t happen by accident.

🎧 How to Get the Most Out of This Podcast:

If you’ve ever left a shift feeling like you barely kept your head above water, this episode is for you. Listen with curiosity—not self-blame—and take note of which level (nurse, unit leader, or system leader) you have influence over. Spoiler: it’s probably more than you think.

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🛠️ Practical Actions You Can Take:

1. Reframe your shift with the “Sufficient vs. Optimal” lens

Before beating yourself up for not doing more, ask: What does sufficient look like today? Did I hit that bar? Great—job done.

2. Take a two-minute reset mid-shift

Stress compounds. Set a reminder to hydrate, breathe, and check in with your thinking. Ask: Am I moving fast… but thinking less clearly?

3. Identify your guilt voice—and challenge it

If you’re expecting inpatient-level care on a transitional unit with no tech support… that guilt isn’t yours to carry. Write it down. Release it.

4. Ask leadership-level questions (even if you’re not in leadership)

Is this unit designed for sufficiency? Are expectations aligned with reality? Am I intervening where I have influence?

5. If you’re a nurse leader: get clear, get vocal, and get upstream

Define sufficiency for your team. Monitor the signs of burnout. Coach your people through the hard days—and advocate where you can make change.

🎙 Episode Overview:

In this episode, I’m diving into one of my favorite (and most important) topics: workplace conflict. Whether you’re in healthcare or corporate, conflict is inevitable—and yet most of us never learned how to handle it well. I’ll walk you through a simple framework I use to navigate and coach others through conflict, the hidden trap of triangulation, and how leaders can shift from emotional labor to real coaching.

🔑 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• How to recognize the difference between indirect and direct repair—and why it matters.
• What triangulation looks like in real life and how it quietly erodes trust and team culture.
• Scripts and strategies you can use to navigate hard conversations with more clarity and confidence.
• Why conflict avoidance creates more stress (not less), and what to do instead.
• How to coach your team through conflict without carrying it for them.

🧠 Key Ideas to Take With You:

• Indirect repair might feel easier in the moment, but it weakens relationships over time.
• Triangulation often looks like “processing,” but it’s really avoidance in disguise.
• Direct repair doesn’t have to be aggressive—it’s often soft, grounded, and kind.
• As a leader, your ability to model and coach conflict resolution sets the tone for your entire team.

🎧 How to Get the Most Out of This Podcast:

Think back to a recent moment of tension at work. As you listen, reflect on how you typically handle conflict—then ask yourself what it would look like to try a different approach. If you lead a team, keep your coaching hat on.

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Hey friends, welcome back to Nursing the System. Today’s episode is a bit different. Instead of my usual deep dive into leadership frameworks or strategies, I’m sharing something more personal—a real talk moment from my System Sunday email series.

This week, I’m reflecting on my worst week at work so far—one where I dropped balls, struggled to communicate clearly, and just didn’t feel like I was on my game. I’ll read you the email I sent to my list, and then share some insights on why giving yourself grace during tough weeks is essential for long-term resilience as a leader.

• How to recover from a rough week at work without spiraling
• The importance of self-compassion when you care deeply about doing good work
• Why taking one small action to repair a mistake can make a big difference
• How to reframe failure and move forward with confidence
• Three reflection questions to help you reset after a tough week

• You don’t have to be perfect to be impactful—own your mistakes, repair what you can, and keep moving forward
• Self-compassion is essential for anyone doing hard work and leading change
• One small act of repair can stop an imposter spiral and help you end your week on a more grounded note
• Reflect and reset—don’t let one bad week make you question your entire professional journey

Think about a time when you had an off week. How did you handle it? Did you give yourself grace, or did you let guilt linger? As you listen, reflect on how you can practice self-compassion the next time things don’t go as planned.

1. Acknowledge the Mistake: Own it without over-apologizing.
2. Repair and Move On: Take one small action to make amends and reduce your mental load.
3. Reflect Without Judging: Ask yourself what you learned from the experience rather than dwelling on what went wrong.
4. Reset for the Week Ahead: Treat Monday as a fresh start—leave last week’s guilt behind.
5. Use Self-Compassion Questions:

• What would it look like to give yourself grace for how you showed up?
• What’s one lesson you can take from the hard moments?
• If you walked into tomorrow guilt-free, how would that change your day?

💌 If this episode resonated, make sure you’re subscribed to my System Sunday emails. They’re short, honest reflections designed to give you clarity and energy for the week ahead. Sign up via the link in the show notes!

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🎙 Episode Overview

Hey there, changemakers! In this episode, I’m diving into a career path that doesn’t get talked about enough for nurse leaders—working at a scale-up. If you’re feeling stuck in a bureaucratic system or frustrated by the slow pace of change in healthcare, this episode will give you a fresh perspective.

I’ll share insights from my own journey into the scale-up world, how these companies differ from startups and corporations, and why nurses who thrive on innovation can make a huge impact here.

• What a scale-up actually is and how it fits between a startup and a corporation
• Why nurses are uniquely equipped to thrive in a scale-up environment
• The types of work you’ll do—from building systems to cross-functional collaboration
• How to know if a scale-up is right for you based on your personality and work style
• My personal experience transitioning from hospital leadership to a health tech scale-up

• Scale-ups thrive on innovation—if you’re tired of hearing “That’s how we’ve always done it,” this might be the space for you
• You’ll see the impact of your work right away—no 18-month pilots or 12-person committees
• Professional development is a priority—leadership growth happens now, not five years from now
• You’re building the scaffolding for future growth—not just brainstorming ideas but making real, scalable systems
• Cross-functional influence is key—you’ll work with diverse teams like marketing, engineering, and product design

Think about your current work environment. Are you feeling stifled by red tape? Do your ideas often feel ahead of your team’s pace? Are you craving a faster, more flexible environment where you can test new ideas? This episode is all about finding the right context to match your energy and innovation mindset.

1. Self-Reflect: Ask yourself if you enjoy fast-paced environments and building something from the ground up.
2. Research Scale-Ups: Look into local and remote opportunities that align with your skills.
3. Reach Out: Connect with nurse leaders working in scale-ups to hear firsthand what it’s like.
4. Explore Professional Development: Seek out companies that actively invest in leadership and innovation training.
5. Take the Leap: If a scale-up sounds like your jam, don’t be afraid to make a bold career move.

💡 Got questions about working at a scale-up or navigating your own career path?

I’d love to hear from you! Fill out the Google form linked in the show notes to share your thoughts or ask questions. Your input helps shape future episodes!

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Today, we’re talking about one of my favorite strategies for avoiding burnout and sustaining long-term productivity: the Deload Week. Borrowed from the world of weightlifting, this concept has become a core part of how I structure my work and energy throughout the year.

Whether you’re juggling multiple roles, running a business, or just feeling like you never get a true breather—this episode will help you rethink how (and when) to pause without losing momentum.

• What a Deload Week is and why it’s essential for long-term sustainability
• How I structure mine around my business and corporate work
• Ways to tailor this concept to your unique life and energy cycles
• Why rest doesn’t mean disengagement—and how to make space for creativity, reflection, and deep learning
• When not to use this practice (yes, there are times it's not the move)

• Rest is productive when it’s intentional.
• You don’t need a full week—even 1–2 days of strategic, structured rest can spark clarity and momentum.
• Bored brains birth good ideas. Giving your brain space helps creativity and innovation thrive.
• Structure + flexibility is the sweet spot. Guardrails help, but so does room to play.
• Deloading ≠ procrastination. Know when you're resting and when you're avoiding.

As you listen, think about the natural cycles in your work or personal life. When could you plan a “pullback” period that would set you up for a stronger push forward? If you’re feeling exhausted, uncreative, or like you’re constantly in output mode, this episode will help you recalibrate.

1. Reflect: Where in your year could a deload week (or days) help you recharge?
2. Plan: Choose a period post-deadline, post-launch, or pre-push to give yourself intentional breathing room.
3. Define your guardrails: What are your non-negotiables (email, podcast, client care)? What can you pause?
4. Make it restorative: Use the time to play, read, think, journal, or explore new ideas.
5. Test and tweak: Try a mini deload and take notes on what helped. Adjust for next time.

💡 Have a question or a workplace challenge you want me to unpack on the pod?

Send me a DM on Instagram or reply to one of my System Sunday emails—I’d love to turn your Q into a full episode.

• DM me on Instagram with your Deload Week idea or takeaway.
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Today’s episode is a little different—I’m recording straight from my bed, under the covers, because inspiration struck and I had to get this out of my brain.

I’m sharing a behind-the-scenes look at preparing for and delivering my first big keynote—to an audience of 2,000 at a national nurse practitioner conference. From pre-speech jitters to the moment I walked off stage, I’m unpacking what worked, what surprised me, and the mental strategies I used to keep my nerves in check.

If you’ve ever had to speak in front of a group, pitch an idea, or step into a high-pressure leadership role, this episode is for you.

• How I managed my nerves leading up to my biggest keynote yet
• The "it’s not a big deal" mindset hack I use to keep calm under pressure
• My dad’s genius storytelling trick for instantly connecting with an audience
• Why making friends with your audience in advance is a game-changer for confidence

• Confidence isn’t about eliminating nerves—it’s about managing them.
• Your audience wants you to succeed. Humanize them, and you’ll feel less pressure.
• Stories create connection. A well-placed personal story makes your talk instantly more engaging.
• Growth often feels uncomfortable. The nerves mean you're stepping into something bigger.

If you’ve got a presentation, pitch, or public speaking moment coming up, listen to this episode with that in mind. Think about how you can apply these strategies to show up with more confidence and own the room.

1. Test the “it’s not a big deal” mindset—see if downplaying the pressure helps calm your nerves.
2. Start with a story. Next time you speak, open with something relatable to set the tone.
3. Make audience connections before you speak—introduce yourself, chat with people, and anchor yourself to familiar faces.
4. Reframe nerves as proof of growth. If something makes you nervous, it’s probably pushing you to a new level.

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Today’s episode is a special sneak peek from my private podcast series: The Changemaker Case Files. This private series takes you behind the scenes into real coaching conversations with nurse changemakers — nurses just like you — who are navigating career pivots, leadership challenges, and everything in between.

In this episode, I’m sharing the 8-step process I personally use to navigate roadblocks in my own change work — including the very real tech disaster that almost derailed this entire podcast project. Whether you’re leading a project, navigating a career transition, or just trying to stay afloat in a constantly shifting healthcare system, these steps will help you stay grounded and move forward with confidence.

If you love this episode, you’ll love the full Changemaker Case Files series — and you can access it for free by subscribing at the link in the show notes.

• Why roadblocks are inevitable in any change project (and why that’s not a bad thing)
• The exact 8-step process for handling setbacks without spiraling
• How to emotionally discharge frustration so you can problem-solve effectively
• Why transparency builds trust — and how to share setbacks with your team the right way

• Roadblocks aren’t proof you’re failing — they’re part of the process.
• Emotional regulation comes before problem-solving — always.
• Resilient leaders communicate transparently, even when things go wrong.
• Every challenge is an opportunity to build creative problem-solving skills.
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Listen with a recent or current challenge in mind, and think about how you can apply the 8-step process to your own situation. Even if you’re not leading a big project right now, this framework will serve you in any season of your career — from day-to-day work frustrations to major career pivots.

1. Save the 8-Step Process — write it down or save it somewhere you can easily access when things go sideways.
2. Practice emotional discharge intentionally the next time you hit a snag — avoid jumping straight into problem-solving mode.
3. Reflect on a past project that hit a roadblock — how would this process have helped you navigate it differently?
4. Subscribe to The Changemaker Case Files to hear even more real conversations and coaching moments — the private podcast is free and linked in the show notes.

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