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What happens to friendship when people discover a secret part of your life? In this candid episode of the Nutty and Slutty Podcast, Isadora and Janine talk about losing friends because of stigma — Isadora as a former escort and Janine as a woman living with bipolar disorder. Their experiences may be different, but the hurt is painfully similar: once a label enters the room, some people stop seeing the person standing in front of them.
Isadora recalls revealing her sex-work history to a potential new friend, only to be ghosted after what seemed like a warm, honest conversation. She discusses the judgment surrounding escorting, the isolation of keeping her past secret, and the challenge of promoting books based on her own life.
Janine shares how bipolar disorder, hospitalization, mania, and psychosis affected some of her oldest friendships. Friends once showed extraordinary compassion, even staying close during frightening psychotic episodes. Over time, misunderstandings and miscommunications damaged those relationships, leaving Janine to wonder: Am I a credible friend, colleague, or teacher?
Together, Isadora and Janine explore friendship, disclosure, bipolar disorder, sex-work stigma, mental-health awareness, social isolation, and the fear of revealing your authentic self. They also consider how memoir, creative writing, and honest conversation can turn private shame into connection.
If you have ever hidden part of yourself to avoid judgment — or lost someone because they could not see beyond a label — this conversation is for you.
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Welcome to NUTTY & SLUTTY
Where Mental Health, Sexuality and Unfiltered Truth Take Center Stage
NUTTY & SLUTTY is a bold, sex-positive podcast exploring the messy, complicated and often hilarious intersections of mental health, sexuality and real life — without shame, filters or pretense.
Hosted by Janine Noel (living with bipolar disorder) and Isadora O’Boto (ex-escort), this show brings together two radically honest perspectives for conversations that are as raw as they are insightful. From navigating mood swings and medication to unpacking the realities of sex work and desire, nothing is off-limits.
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Isadora O’Boto (co-host) is a Juilliard Drama grad. Under the pen name Sephe Haven, she is the author of two award-winning memoirs: My Whorizontal Life and A Someday Courtesan, and playwright/performer of the solo show: “My Whorizontal Life: The Show!” Isadora co-hosted the podcast My Index to Sex with Lynn Ferguson. Find her at: isadoraoboto.com
Janine Noel (co-host) is creator and host of Bipolar She podcast, where guests sh...