NVC Life with Rachelle Lamb

He always. She never. I can't trust you anymore. These aren't simply complaints; they are the architecture of a story. And the degree to which a couple is committed to that story is, in my experience, very close to the degree to which the couple suffers inside it.

Join me in this episode as I explore one of the most consistent patterns I encounter in couples work: the pull toward generalization, and what it costs. When two people become entrenched in the narrative of their relationship, they lose contact with each other and the living, present-moment aliveness unfolding between them. And it's amazing how common this is, and how we'd almost rather stick to the narrative than experience a real encounter, despite the fact that we want so much to connect.

Referenced in this episode: Rumi, “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there.” John O'Donohue For Love in a Time of Conflict, from To Bless the Space Between Us (2008)

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It's been 2 years since my last episode and I've decided to return and revisit the foundations of Nonviolent Communication.

What Nonviolent Communication Was Meant to Be, and What It’s Become

Beginning with the opening page of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg, this episode centers on two defining questions:

• What disconnects us from our compassionate nature?
• What allows us to remain connected to it, even under the most trying circumstances?

I love those questions.

Drawing on the example of Etty Hillesum, this conversation points to a form of compassion that is not sentimental, but instead grounded, discerning, and rooted in a wider understanding of the human condition.

This marks the beginning of a broader exploration into relationships, culture, and what it means to relate, not only from personal needs, but in response to life itself.

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An exploration of the sometimes tumultuous relationship between mothers and daughters

Mentions:

In this episode: different names for the moon, Earth Day mission statement, excerpts from an interview with Martín Prechtel by Derrick Jensen, a poem titled: Where Am I? (Strange World)

https://derrickjensen.org/dreams/martin-prechtel/

Thoughts on yesterday's solar eclipse and the act of people gathering in large numbers for an awe inspiring celestial event.

"Even to think that we're separated from nature is somehow a thought thinking disorder. You can't be separated from nature." These are the words of the great Jungian psychologist James Hillman. Listen to this episode to hear more about how we're going crazy.

Referenced video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tAtDaO8Qdw

Meeting Marshall Rosenberg was life changing for me. It completely altered my way of seeing and understanding the world as well as how I interacted with others.

Nonviolent Communication is often described as a process that, when put into practice, can support people to live in a world where everyone’s needs matter and are met through natural compassionate giving. Is this even possible?

Mentions:

May the one you long for long for you .. and other words of love and longing for Valentine's Day.

Remembering Marshall Rosenberg who left our beautiful planet on this very day in 2015.

To view or purchase Marshall's books:

https://puddledancer.bookstore.ipgbook.com/