By Ruan Willow
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Ep 512: Tips for How to Find People to Date that are a good fit for you with Dr. Alison Ash. In this enlightening episode, Ruan Willow sits down with Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, educator at Stanford University, and founder of Turn On Love. She shares her insights on how to find people to date and how to identify who is a good fit for you. This conversation dives into the complexities of modern dating, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of intentionality in relationships.
Topics Covered: Modern dating challenges, the impact of dating apps, intentionality in relationships, the importance of community and social networks, and practical tips for finding the right person to date.
Timeline:
- 00:25 - Doctor Alison Ash is a trauma informed intimacy coach at Stanford University
- 01:27 - Research shows dating apps have harmed our ability to form and sustain long term relationships
- 04:40 - I also think it's helpful to talk about, I think a mixed approach to finding partners
- 10:15 - You should have at least one photo where you're smiling on dating apps, and....
- 16:35 - Research shows that in order to make new relationships, we need regular interactions
- 24:41 - A lot of people are terrified to own what they want
- 25:32 - One of the things that I talk to my clients on is this idea of outsourcing
- 29:34 - What are some warning signs people should look out for when using dating apps
- 35:35 - You teach a course on intimacy and dating skills at Stanford University
- 41:06 - I think couples and long term relationships struggle to keep sexual spark alive
- 44:15 - Is there anything that we've missed talking about that you wanted to mention
- 45:10 - Making sure that you have queer and trans community is so important
Don't miss this episode filled with practical advice and deep insights into the world of dating and relationships.
Guest: Dr. Alison Ash - Turn On Love
PhD (she/her)
Founder of TurnON.love
Intimacy Coach and Educator
Lecturer at Stanford University
Author • Social Media Links
Course:
Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game
4 part course for couples in October — reserve your spot today. On-demand rental also available.
🗣️ Quotes from Dr. Alison Ash
"Dating apps have created an optimization overload dynamic where people are just surface level flipping."
"Nobody's going to be able to meet 100% of your needs 100% of the time."
"Touch is the most regulating thing in the world. And it doesn't make you needy. It makes you human."
"Loneliness is hard and it's pervasive, and we can feel that we're stuck in it."
"Conflict is an opportunity to build intimacy and to deepen trust."
Host: Ruan Willow http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
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Episode 512: Mallory and Derek Attend a New Year's Eve Kink Party, Mallory and Derek's Sexual Adventures Part 2. Triggers and Topics: Consensual Kinky BDSM impact play, MM Sex, FFM, Orgy, PI Role Play. This is the continuation of Mallory and Derek Part 1: Attending Their First Sex Party, Kinky Bisexual Sex, Orgy, Sexual Experimentation, and FWB Unconventional Alternative Lifestyles Relationships, and looking to the future, part 3 will be coming next week. I've added Part 1 again to the podcast lineup in Episode 511, which you may have already heard as subscribers back in episodes 317 and 318, to make it easier for subscribers of the exclusive level of the podcast to access the parts in succession.
In this episode, Mallory and Derek are very excited about returning to the sex party club house for a New Year's Eve party. They both have more excitement than trepidation this time round than they had at their first sex party at the house. They charge right in and assimilate into the 'pile of sex' and indulge their sexual whims! In this episode, Derek explores his bisexual side. In the next installment, Part 3, will be Mallory exploring her heterosexual domination age gap kink where body positivity of all sizes and ages reigns!
Have fun listening to this erotic audio! Exploring erotica fiction and erotic romance are fabulous ways to exercise your self care time, to explore your sexuality and allow your brain to do things you might not be able to do IRL. Enjoy the erotic fiction story and let the erotic romance of a couple expanding their sexuality in a sex positive way together satiate your own curiosities and fantasies. Give your sexual health and mental health a treat and have a listen!
Stay tuned for part 3 coming next week!
Written and narrated by Ruan Willow
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Episode 511: **This is a replay of episodes 317 and 318 to accommodate easy listening for exclusive members/listeners of the podcast as a refresher before Part 2 is released later today.**
Mallory and Derek are an adventurous bisexual couple open to new and exciting sexual situations. They join an alternative lifestyle group who hosts sex parties on a regular basis for their chosen members--like a homemade approved family of friends with benefits. At the party, they lose their last bits of inhibitions as they indulgently slide into the sensual orgy before them. They are in this life together and seeing each other enjoying only strengthens their relationship bond. They reach maximum arousal heights like never before, and this is just their first party!
This is book 1 in this series of Mallory and Derek's Sexual Adventures. Book contains sexual scenes, LGTBQ, and partner sharing, plus mild BDSM. This story was originally published in the anthology Decadent Erotica published by Pink Infinity Publishing.
Narrators are the author, Ruan Willow, and InMyHandsAudio. Find more on InMyHandsAudio at https://www.inmyhandsaudio.net/
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This audio story is also published in the audiobook Decadent Erotica https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/decadenteroticaaudiobook
In ebook and paperback: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/decadenterotica
Explore your sexuality, health and fitness, sexual health, and mental health while getting entertainment for your libido! Enjoy!
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Season 4, Episode 510: Written and narrated by author, podcaster, and audiobook narrator Ruan Willow. Steamy Coffee Shop Date from the Sexual Bucket List: Mutual Masturbation. It's another installment of the sexual bucket list series. Told in 2nd person so listeners can fully immerse themselves into the story, it's "you" and "I" who meet for a coffee date in the middle of a workday to sneak in some sexy fun. We have no plan other than we want to somehow be a little sexual in public and tickle our exhibitionistic sexual bones! We get it figured out quick, and satiation doesn't just mean a kick ass cup of coffee! Enjoy this erotica storytelling fiction entertainment, erotic romance arts to bathe you in yummy sexy self-care. You have a date--a relationship--with your sexuality & your libido! Come on in and taste the orgasmic bliss!
Enjoy erotic romance, erotica fiction, for your entertainment and self care pleasures. Your sexual health matters, and it's an important part of your mental health, don't ignore it, but pay attention to it, spend time on it, with it. Expand your sexuality and relationships by opening yourself up to sexual and relational exploration through erotic fiction, and erotic audio. Your pleasure, well-being, and enjoyment can explode if you open yourself up!
Listen to all the episodes in this series at this link: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1hzeldaHzbdsSsd22HF5eL?si=ee740cc60eef4d33
Want more erotica fiction books and audiobooks? Find them here: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Filthy Fiction: Volume 1 Dirty Daydreams audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/dirtydaydreams
Ruan's Favorite Sex Toys for women: Sex toys for female pleasure:
The Zumio sex toy (affiliate links, podcaster might earn a commission on sales, thank you!): https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1558338&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack=
Clit Sucker Rose https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2204307&u=3101443&m=65394&urllink=&afftrack=
2 in 1 Clit & G spot https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1842951&u=3101443&m=114935&urllink=&afftrack=
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Boobs and Pizza Everywhere but not a Drop to Eat, A Modern-Day Greek Mythology Tantalus Tale. Charles was seeking a magical lake that the Goddess Zeffra would grant wishes of a nude man with a pure heart. Charles knew he was such a man and he fought long and hard on a trek under the sun to reach this lake. He wanted boob. But just when he gets what he wants, he also gets what he doesn't want. Written and Narrated by author and podcast host Ruan Willow, featuring David Myers.
Explore your sexuality! A paranormal dark fantasy erotic fiction short story, erotica to get you in the mood for Halloween! From the Wicked & Spicy Tales Audiobook https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytalesaudiobook
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Ep 508: Ruan Willow with Marla Renee Stewart, Sexologist, Sexual Strategist, & Author. Join us as we discuss the intricacies of sexual health, the importance of unlearning societal norms, and the ways to foster better communication and pleasure in relationships. Marla shares her insights on sexuality, well-being, seduction, sexual tension, toys, techniques, using dirty talk, and the fascinating world of kinky play. Whether you're curious about squirting, impact play, or integrating sex toys into your love life, this episode is packed with valuable advice and practical tips to enhance your sexual experiences.
Paying attention to your sexual health is a part of your mental health and self care strategies, as is seeking sex education. Alternative lifestyles are valid options. and can give people great happiness and satisfaction.
Discussion Timeline:
00:00:00 " Podcast has hit 1.1 million downloads
00:00:38 " Marla is a sexologist, author, sexual strategist
00:03:51 " Do you meet with individual clients or do you do classes?
00:04:33 " In some of your classes, you have kink classes and non-kinky classes
00:09:22 " Many people don't believe that squirting is a real thing, is it pee?
00:13:05 " Some people don't really know what the clitoris even looks like
00:17:37 " Your class helps femdoms understand their subs better
00:18:47 " One of the keys to driving sexual tension is the planting of sex seeds
00:24:26 " How about give us some tips or advice about people interested in impact play
00:26:15 " Do you find any age groups that are more open to trying new sexual
00:33:14 " Pervertibles are everyday household items that can be used for kinky play
00:34:08 " Now let's talk a little bit about sex toys--have a favorite one
00:37:39 " Do you think there are more toys available to women than
00:42:10 " Some people are scared of sex toys, but you can try them
00:45:15 " Always do the research. Munches are really great for education
00:47:16 " Why is aftercare important?
00:52:19 " Marla Stewart encourages people to try things at least three times
Resources:
- Velvet Lips https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/
- Sex Down South Conference
- Race & Kink
- The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay (affiliate link commission on sales) https://amzn.to/4ewvc3M
Social media: @1marlastewart
Guest Bio: Marla Renee Stewart, MA (she/her) is a sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 22 years and has given over 1000 workshops all over the world. She also has been featured on a variety of media outlets, including Netflix’s Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and Love & HipHop Atlanta. She co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, which debuted in April 2020.
Podcast Host Ruan Willow's books/audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
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Enjoy an excerpt from the audiobook Servicing the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures, The Masturbation Scene with the Sexy Younger Pool Man, Anderson. Laney is overcome with horniness. As she plays, she reminisces about recent sexual experiences with her dominant stag husband, John, and enjoying life as a hotwife while having sex with the trash man in front of her hubby, as she's poolside in her own backyard. When she gets peeping-tomed by their sexy lumberjack of a pool man, her lusty desires get even more satiated, to mega hot inferno levels. Plus, the encounter leads to more juicy, satiating fun to come!
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Enjoy erotic romance, erotica fiction, for your entertainment and self care pleasures. Your sexual health matters, and it's an important part of your mental health, don't ignore it, but pay attention to it, spend time on it, with it. Expand your sexuality and relationships by opening yourself up to sexual and relational exploration through erotic fiction, and erotic audio. Your pleasure, well-being, and enjoyment can explode if you open yourself up!
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Ep 506: Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Lorenzo, The Voice!
A deep dive into the world of BDSM with special guest, Lorenzo. With 45 years of experience in the sexuality, kink, fetish, & lifestyle community, Lorenzo brings a wealth of knowledge and unique insights into extreme impact play, sensory deprivation, and more. He also shares his experiences from over 35 years in law enforcement, offering a rare perspective on how these two worlds intersect.
Discussion includes the allure of BDSM, the importance of trust and communication, and the dangers of diving in without proper knowledge. Lorenzo emphasizes the significance of understanding the anatomy and mental states involved in BDSM to ensure safe and consensual play. The talk also touches on the differences between BDSM acts and a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle, highlighting the depth and commitment required for the latter.
Additionally, Lorenzo shares his experiences as a voiceover artist and his involvement with ASN Lifestyle Magazine, where he recently graced the cover of the August issue and is up for a social media personality award. He also just was an announcer for the annual ASN awards!
Watch the Interview Video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ItNE3ZQSaxc
02:31 What do you think draws people into engaging in BDSM acts?
09:13 Do you think there's a crossover between your interest in BDSM and your work?
12:59 Types of BDSM do you enjoy the most
17:48 Contract?
21:11 What about these people saying, "I'm training my sub."
24:06 There are some fetishes that people like, that you will never see.
25:59 ASN Lifestyle magazine will host its annual awards
27:47 ASN cover
30:45 What are certain people that should not consider going into BDSM?
39:50 How do people find each other if they are interested in getting into BDSM?
43:43 Do you regret anything
54:40 You know, social media has too much control over people, right
57:30 I hear too much about suicides from bullying on Twitter
Connect with Lorenzo:
- Twitter/X: @lorenzo4016
- Instagram: @lorenzoG2920
- Fetlife: Sir Lorenzo
Quotes from Lorenzo
"You have to learn the anatomy of a body before you start playing with a body."
"A real dominant is not going to brag or advertise. You don’t have to do that."
"Imagine the strength that it has to take to give up everything."
"If you control the mind, you control the body, but when things go wrong with the mind, that’s long lasting, more than a physical."
"Everyone wants everything now. Just take your time. It’s no rush."
Bio: Lorenzo has 45 yrs experience in the kink, fetish, and lifestyle community...Specializing in Extreme Impact Play and Sensory Deprivation. Lorenzo has over 35 yrs of law enforcement and specialized training in hand to hand combat, special weapons, anti terror, prostitution, human trafficking, narcotics, civil disturbance, etc.
Lorenzo is also a voice over artist, working with several organizations in radio, narrations, commercials, erotic readings, websites, podcasts, events.
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Ep 505: Tantalizing Teases Audiobook Four Short Stories for subscribers
Four delectable heterosexual spicy short romance stories with teasing oral sex and more fun! Perfect for his and for her pleasure! You heard them on the podcast, now get all four in one episode and ad free as a subscriber to the exclusive level of the podcast!! Join here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/subscribe
Head in the Woods, Forest Magic, The Strangers Hookup: Logan gets his ultimate fantasy of bumping into a sexy stranger, Meredith, in the woods who is an athletic friendly woman who loves sex. He is elated when she comes on to him. She steps up her game more when she drops to the forest floor for some sensual worshipping. All this hotness explodes as they both launch to the treetops from their spicy spontaneous union.
Head Road Rage: After a party, Shayley and Paul are headed home. Both of their libidos can't wait, and their flirtations erupt into playful banter. The steamy competitive race to edging each other is on as their hormones have them raging to get the other so hot they near explosion. Sexy fun on the road trip ensues and lands them in a prickly situation.
Around Her World: Marlayna and Jason are headed to their favorite hidden away resort for a long weekend of hotel intimacy and reconnection in their relationship. The teasing fun begins when Jason drops hints about a new oral technique he plans to pleasure Marlayna with once they are in the hotel room. Her anticipation runs wild as their flirting reaches inferno levels on the road trip up north. The culmination of their saucy conversation leaves both members of the couple panting heavy with satiated smiles.
Teasing Her Swollen Bean: Josie and Mason both had a long day & planned a steamy intimate session, but Josie fell asleep before Mason got upstairs. When he wakes to her moans, the flirty teasing sexy fun erupts as he enjoys teasing her. Her arousal peaks as they continue to flirt in bed, and their passion ignites! Mason knows just how to get her hot, and it launches them into the juiciest satisfying satiating, and wonderfully gratifying mutual big giant ones!
Erotic fiction, erotica, erotic romance of heterosexual relationships for entertainment and self care enjoyment! Written and narrated by author Ruan Willow.
Give yourself the gift of health and fitness for your sexuality, your sexual health, and your mental health and listen to spicy fiction today!
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Ep 504: Road Head Rage: After a party, Shayley and Paul are headed home. Both of their libidos can't wait, and their flirtations erupt into playful banter on the way to their truck. The steamy competitive race of edging each other to max heights is on as their hormones have them raging to get the other so hot they near explosion. Sexy fun, and a wedgie kink, on the road trip ensues and lands them in a prickly situation, but whew do they have a good time!
Erotic fiction story written and narrated by erotica author and podcast host Ruan Willow.
Enjoy this spicy erotic romance fiction short story audio erotica for entertainment and self care love purposes. Erotic fiction is a fabulous way to explore, expand, and enjoy your sexuality with stories of saucy hot intimate relationships. Exercise your sexuality health and fitness today!
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Some of Ruan's favorite sex toys and recommendations:
The Rose Clit sucker (affiliate link, podcast may receive a commission on purchases, which help to support this podcast being free, thanks for the support!) https://amzn.to/4e6VxFc
Zumio Clit stimulator https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1815950&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack=
Get the toy that was used in this story, Lush: https://www.lovense.com/r/teyxqq
Dual pleasure with Nora! https://www.lovense.com/r/mniiet
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