Season 6, Episode 714: Building a Sex-Positive Community Through Multiple Ventures with guest Ms. Amanda Websites ⁠www.msamanda.net⁠

Studio ⁠www.kasbhstudios.com⁠

Main swinger page ⁠www.krazykasbh.com⁠

When Ms. Amanda describes her journey from camming to running Full Swap Radio and Kasbh Studio, she reveals something unexpected: excitement, not fear, fuels her work. This multifaceted creator has built an empire around authenticity in an industry often criticized for being artificial.

Throughout the conversation, Ms. Amanda explains her approach to filming adult content with remarkable honesty. She manages her hormones strategically, rarely fakes scenes, and believes genuine reactions matter to audiences. (Her husband films most of her work, creating what she calls the ideal partnership.) She shares what makes someone truly successful in this unconventional career path.

With a swinger event planned for Kansas City in January and legal brothel tours at the Love Ranch scheduled for summer, Amanda's calendar stays packed. Her podcast "Crazy Truth About Swinging" focuses on educational content about navigating the lifestyle community, emphasizing that practices from a decade ago no longer apply today. She's received an ASN award nomination, viewing recognition itself as meaningful regardless of winning.

Despite elaborate consent forms varying across platforms like XHamster, Faphouse, and OnlyFans, Amanda operates her studio to guide aspiring performers through entering the industry. She stresses that chemistry and personality compatibility matter more than follower count or reputation, everyone starts somewhere.

**Listen to discover how Amanda balances multiple business ventures while maintaining authenticity in every performance.**

Topics:

From Camming to Building a Swinger Empire

Discussing Favorite Music and Film Acting

Body Image and Self-Consciousness

Editing Your Own Content and Self-Perception

Communication and Preferences in Adult Content

Career Longevity and Collaboration in Adult Content

Husband Films and Performs in Collaborations

Navigating Consent Forms and Platform Requirements

Giving People a Chance to Grow

Choosing Practical Outfits for Filming

Breathing, Sounds, and Multiple Orgasms

Sexuality Changes Throughout Our Lives

Key takeaways:

• **Authenticity and genuine connection outperform polished production** – Success in adult content creation depends on real human interaction and honest communication rather than technical perfection or unrealistic portrayals.

• **The swinging community is growing in awareness but faces persistent social stigma** – Despite increased visibility, participants still encounter significant judgment, making privacy and discretion critical considerations for those involved.

• **Excitement and live audience engagement drive motivation more than fear or taboo** – Content creators in this space are primarily motivated by the thrill of real-time interaction and genuine connection with audiences, not by transgressive appeal alone.

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Season 6, Episode 713, A Replay: The Coming Home Reclamation, Delicious Sex After Being Gone. An erotic story written and narrated by Ruan Willow. Kevin had been on a work trip, and Jenna was lusting heartily for his return. He'd shown his desire and excitement to return home to her, and his strong passion, by texting her steamy sexts during his travel. He had her on the verge of climaxing just by using his phone, but once he arrived, their foreplay skyrocketed into an intense fiery blaze, and they had the most delicious sex ever. Kevin had made plans to re-establish his leadership in the bedroom, much to Jenna's shock, surprise, and delight. The result was maximal gratification for them both, and a reaffirmation of their love. This is a later in life second marriage spicy romantic story. **Erotica / erotic romance fiction about relationships and sexuality that contains light Dom/sub elements of leadership and dominance/submission as well as playful, and flirty, fully consensual impact play. It's time to think about gifts for your lover for Valentine's Day! Ruan's Top Picks for Sex Toys for women: The Zumo (affiliate link, podcast may receive a commission on purchases, which support the podcast, thank you!) https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1558338&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack= Rose Clit Sucker: https://amzn.to/49iHsBH

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Season 5, Episode 712:

What happens when creativity becomes both escape and healing?

Dean Robert Holmes, a transmasculine author from St. Paul, Minnesota, uses writing to manage schizoaffective disorder and explore identity through fiction. Since 2020, he's written over 350 fanfics and 2.5 million words (that's equivalent to five copies of Stephen King's "It") before publishing his collection "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust." Dean identifies as aegosexual, experiencing attraction only through third-person perspectives, and thrives in a relationship with his fiancée May through roleplay where he never portrays himself.

In this conversation, Dean dives into his writing processes as a pantser who daydreams his way through stories. They discuss maladaptive daydreaming as a coping mechanism, the challenges of balancing creativity with social media, and how indie publishing has shattered traditional word count constraints (finally!). Both Dean and Ruan share experiences of losing mothers to suicide, which fuels an urgency in their writing careers.

Dean's upcoming May release, "Treading Water," features a gender-fluid bi man and a plus-size woman with chronic pain navigating romance amid poverty and trauma. The book tackles serious themes while celebrating connection and joy, representation that's desperately needed in romance literature.

Tune in to hear Dean read an excerpt from "Treading Water", his upcoming novel, and learn how writing serves as healing for both author and reader. Excerpt triggers: poverty, homelessness, explicit scene and language, chronic pain, body image issues, panic attacks, and mention of religion.

Author Bio: Dean Robert Holmes (he/him) is an aegosexual, transmasculine author and artist who uses creativity to manage schizoaffective disorder. Like many alphabet porn purveyors, he got his start in the wonderful world of fan fiction. Through his saucy stories, he often explores psychological themes and the power of queer love. As someone who is autistic, fat, and disabled, he makes a point to represent those communities and possesses a strong belief in the healing potential of kink. After writing over 350 fan fics, including almost 200 requests and a feature on the celebrated podcast Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend, he recently self-published his first collection of short stories, "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust," which is available at four bookstores throughout the Midwest. His debut novel, "Treading Water" will be released soon. Currently, he lives on stolen Dakota/Anishinaabe land, also known as St. Paul, MN, and enjoys spending time with his lovely partner, Mae. https://deanrobertholmes.com/ https://www.instagram.com/fandomtransmandom/ Dean Robert Holmes's Book: Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3LKtFxZ

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Season 5, Episode 711: Treading Water Spicy and Caring Sex Scene Excerpt written and narrated by Dean Robert Holmes.

The characters are Susie and Westie. This is an excerpt from Dean Robert Holmes's upcoming book "Treading Water". Triggers with this excerpt include poverty, homelessness, explicit sex scene and language, chronic pain, body image issues, panic attacks, and mention of religion.

Author Bio: Dean Robert Holmes (he/him) is an aegosexual, transmasculine author and artist who uses creativity to manage schizoaffective disorder. Like many alphabet porn purveyors, he got his start in the wonderful world of fan fiction. Through his saucy stories, he often explores psychological themes and the power of queer love. As someone who is autistic, fat, and disabled, he makes a point to represent those communities and possesses a strong belief in the healing potential of kink. After writing over 350 fan fics, including almost 200 requests and a feature on the celebrated podcast Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend, he recently self-published his first collection of short stories, "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust," which is available at four bookstores throughout the Midwest. His debut novel, "Treading Water" will be released soon. Currently, he lives on stolen Dakota/Anishinaabe land, also known as St. Paul, MN, and enjoys spending time with his lovely partner, Mae. https://deanrobertholmes.com/ https://www.instagram.com/fandomtransmandom/ Dean Robert Holmes's Book: Unlocked (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3LKtFxZ

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When was the last time you truly prioritized your own pleasure?

For over two decades, Dr. Stacy Friedman has been helping women understand what many were never taught: basic knowledge about their own bodies. With 26 years in medical practice and 20 years specializing in sexuality, she's witnessed how inadequate sex education and cultural shame leave women disconnected from their anatomy (even something as fundamental as the body organ called the clitoris). The conversation reveals a surprising statistic, only a small percentage of women achieve orgasm through penetration alone, yet this misconception persists.

Dr. Friedman shares her personal transformation from ignorance about her own anatomy to owning an extensive collection of high-quality sex toys, emphasizing that modern toys have become empowering tools rather than sources of shame. Fact: The clitoris contains over 10,400 nerve endings, double that of the penis, underscoring women's significant sexual potential when they explore without limitation.

After experiencing painful sex for six years following childbirth, Dr. Friedman found her purpose: helping others redefine intimacy beyond traditional intercourse. She recently launched The Purple Passion Project podcast and previously authored "Confessions and Lessons of a Sexpert." Affiliate link to the book Paperback

https://drstacyfriedman.com/

Listen to discover how prioritizing pleasure can transform your relationship and break generational cycles of shame and lack of female pleasure with sex.

Bio: Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With 26+ years in the medical field and 20+ years working in the sexuality field, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame. She works with all aspects of sexuality but specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, low libido, and the LGBTQ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering. Her motto: "My passion is to help you create yours." Because at the end of the day, you deserve connection that's honest, exciting, and hot as hell.

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Key Takeaways:

• **The clitoris contains over 10,000 nerve endings** – far more sensory receptors than commonly understood. Direct clitoral stimulation is essential for most women's pleasure rather than penetration alone.

• **Most women don't orgasm through penetration alone** – challenging the widespread myth that vaginal intercourse is the primary or sufficient path to female orgasm, revealing a fundamental gap in sexual education and cultural bias.

• **Sex toys are normalized tools for exploration, not replacements** – reframing vibrators and similar devices as legitimate aids for self-discovery and pleasure, equivalent to using any other tool, rather than signs of relationship inadequacy or dysfunction.

Season 5, Episode 709: Excerpt from Rejecting Queendom, a spicy Romantasy now in ebook, paperback, and audiobook. Rejecting Queendom

Book Blurb:

A love too good. Power and intrigue can't fill a void in any heart but set it searching for something more. Gabriella and Nocter fell in love as most do, but the difference was theirs bloomed in the sea. Their world was surrounded by the magical realm of the ocean, so their hearts were easily lulled into pristine moments that promised to be shining collections of the most amazing golden memories. They couldn't get enough of each other, nor could they steal enough moments to be satiated. Nothing could separate them, nothing but what did. When things seemed too good to be true, the truth shattered their hunger for love and splintered it into a billion cells of heartache that not even the vastness of the sea could hold. Tropes & Triggers: - explicit language and spicy scenes - daring to love - their kingdom at risk - sudden royalty -kinky king - an impossible choice -shrinking woman -kidnapping -betrayal Rejecting Queendom is an HEA Open Door Romantasy, where the romance is first and foremost.

Plus, bonus story replay Presenting Myself.

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Season 5, Episode 708: "Why are men so sexy in gray sweatpants?" she asked. (from the excerpt at the end of the episode from the book "Me + You" by Mallory Glass, coming soon! Narrated by Ruan Wilow.)

What happens when an old friend's challenge sparks a secret writing career that garners thousands of views overnight? Mallory Glass found out!

Twin Cities romance author Mallory Glass didn't expect her foray into sensual fiction to take off so quickly. After initially writing in secret, she published a 75,000-word story on Literotica that consistently earned ratings around 4.7 to 4.8 stars. Her debut novella "Stone Heart" and award-winning flash rom-com showcase her commitment to portraying positive communication and consent in romance, deliberately avoiding the tired miscommunication trope common in the genre, plus adding in humor.

Beyond the page, Mallory shares her home with a surprisingly hostile New Zealand rabbit that roams freely while she works. (The rabbit's personality definitely keeps things interesting.) After medically retiring in 2015, she returned to writing as therapeutic practice, discovering an unexpected passion for revision and editing.

Through her work and upcoming micro press Sloth and Envy, Mallory champions sex positivity and bodily autonomy, transforming once-taboo vocabulary into celebrations of consensual human experience. She believes authenticity and fun should coexist in storytelling, and her writing reflects exactly that philosophy.

Listen to hear more about writing sensual fiction without shame.

Mallory Glass enjoys creating worlds within worlds for her characters to explore. She writes for those who love to embrace a temporary escape from reality.

When she's not engaged in vicarious angst over the antics of fictional characters, she digests too much media and suffers the antics of her hostile pet rabbit.

Her debut novella, Stone Heart, was released March 2025 from Sloth & Envy Press. Mallory's flash rom-com recently won first place in Writing Battle's professionally judged Heart contest. In October 2025, her short story "Wade vs. Roe" was published in Dread Mondays, a workplace horror anthology from Whisper House Press.

Mallory's college romance, Me + You, will be released in spring 2026.

She live in the Twin Cities, MN.

Find her on Bluesky as @mglaz.bsky.social or email [email protected]

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Season 5, Episode 707: Romance Book, Fiction Excerpt with an Older Woman and Virgin Younger Man, First Time Scene from the Book Me and You by Mallory Glass, narrated by podcast host and narrator Ruan Willow.

In this scene, the two MCs run into each other in the library on a Saturday night and adjourn to a basement office where they've been fooling around together for the past few weeks. They had planned to have sex for the first time earlier that week but were interrupted. That was followed by tension between the MMC crossed the boundary they had set on the limits of their relationship by inviting her to his apartment. This scene ends up being more spontaneous and unexpected for both of them. Because it's intended to be the MMC's first time, we are in his POV.

About the author Mallory Glass: Come back for the author interview episode!

Mallory Glass enjoys creating worlds within worlds for her characters to explore. She writes for those who love to embrace a temporary escape from reality.

When she's not engaged in vicarious angst over the antics of fictional characters, she digests too much media and suffers the antics of her hostile pet rabbit.

Her debut novella, Stone Heart, was released March 2025 from Sloth & Envy Press. Mallory's flash rom-com recently won first place in Writing Battle's professionally judged Heart contest. In October 2025, her short story "Wade vs. Roe" was published in Dread Mondays, a workplace horror anthology from Whisper House Press.

Mallory's college romance, Me + You, will be released in spring 2026.

She live in the Twin Cities, MN.

Find her on Bluesky as @mglaz.bsky.social or email [email protected]

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Season 5, Episode 706: When Cozy Dubois started writing fiction in 2022, it wasn't about chasing publishing deals or awards. This queer, trans, and neurodivergent author from Minneapolis simply wanted connection during pandemic isolation, and what emerged was something far more powerful: the Confession series, an ensemble romance celebrating chosen family and authentic queer experiences.

Here's what makes Cozy's approach refreshing. They write across the entire spice spectrum, from closed-door romance to books with up to ten intimate scenes, but always with consent and emotional connection at the core (because that's what really matters). Their upcoming 2027 character Esmer, a non-binary queer sex toy designer with OCD, exemplifies their commitment to representing diverse experiences without shame or stereotype.

Cozy approaches storytelling with precision, outlining the entire book series before writing a single word. They batch their drafting, writing three thousand words daily for weeks, then spend considerably more time editing. They emphasize that writing advice is highly individual, and what works for their neurodivergent brain might not work for yours. Writers are all different.

Their Confession books feature vibrant purple branding, and prove that love doesn't cure trauma, it simply walks alongside healing. Characters continue evolving beyond their happy endings through friendship and community support. Find Cozy's books on Amazon, Kobo Plus, and indie bookstores, or grab signed copies through Scribbles Bookshop.

Enjoy an excerpt from the book "Tempting Tara", written by Cozy DuBois, narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow.

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Season 5, Episode 705: Enjoy an excerpt from the book "Tempting Tara", written by Cozy DuBois, narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow, then come back and watch the full interview episode featuring Cozy DuBois!

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Book Blurb published online:

With a former fling now a cherished friendship, Tara secretly longs for more. But is desire enough to bridge two damaged souls?

Tara Sanderson is determined to be a good friend when Lee and Antonio's upcoming wedding means countless hours in close company with Gabe Cooper, the best man and her secret ex-flame. Armed with her many rules and meager emotional resilience, she hides her feelings to protect herself. Friendship is more than enough; the man who unknowingly broke her heart has become a beloved friend.

After years of therapy and seclusion to recover from a string of abusive relationships, Gabe feels whole enough to love again. His obsessive infatuation with the stranger who stole his shattered heart has healed into manageable yearning for the Tara he's come to know. Instead of pining after yet another person who will never love him back—or worse, pursuing her and losing their friendship—he reluctantly agrees to the blind dates his mom sets up for him.

Tara's self-control slips after learning he's looking for love with anyone but her, revealing she's not as content to be "just friends" as she pretends. Ever the hopeless romantic, Gabe tries to show Tara how good they could be together. Tara must break all her rules to accept the happiness she longs for, but her habit of running from her feelings may be more than Gabe's still-fragile heart can bear.

Connect with author Cozy DuBois

Cozy Dubois (they/them) thought writing fiction was a long-lost hobby. A longtime lover of romance novels, Cozy has renewed their love for writing by telling stories for and about LGBTQ+ people. They hope to bring more books into the world that represent the complex and entangled relationships between friends, lovers, and chosen family found in the queer community they love.

Based in Minneapolis, they enjoy life with their partner, two hound dogs, a regal queen of a cat, dozens of houseplants, and a garden that has seen better days. Find them with a beverage in hand on a patio anytime the temp is above freezing or planning their next vacation when it's not.