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Ep 664: Ever wondered how childhood experiences secretly shape your sexual desires and why most women struggle to ask for what they want in bed?

In this eye-opening episode, Ruin Willow sits down with Tash Doherty (Miss Educated), a London-born writer, author, and sexuality advocate now based in Mexico who's on a mission to make the world "shamelessly sexy." Tash breaks down her three-pillar approach to sexual empowerment: discover what you want, believe you deserve it, and ask for it.

The conversation dives deep into how family and cultural shame impact our sexuality, with Tash sharing insights from her upcoming **Sex Journal** launching on Kickstarter. This beautifully designed journal features 20 poems and themed prompts exploring ecstasy, obsession, longing, and desire—all designed to help women reduce shame and align their sex lives with their values.

From discussing how childhood associations create unexpected fetishes to exploring the healing power of erotic writing, Tash traces sexuality's role throughout history—from Sappho to the Song Dynasty. She shares her journey from teen romance novelist to sex blogger, including viral pieces like "Get a Man Who Loves Your Bush."

The duo also tackles the complex role of pornography in sexual education, highlighting ethical alternatives, and emphasizing the importance of self-exploration through masturbation and quality toys.

Ready to explore your own sexual narrative without shame? Tune in for this transformative conversation about reclaiming pleasure and rewriting your story, thereby also improving your relationships. 

Key Takeaways:

• A simple three-pillars formula—know what you want, believe you deserve it, ask for it—reframes sexual confidence as a learnable practice.  
• Erotic journaling can dismantle familial shame and scaled into a mainstream coffee-table Sex Journal launched on Kickstarter.  
• Stigmatized practices (masturbation, toys, "healthier" porn, open communication) are portrayed as deliberate tools to build self-knowledge, pleasure, and agency.

Chapters Timeline:

00:00:02 - Shamelessly Sexy
00:04:23 - Writing a Sex Journal for Women
00:07:23 - Shame and Sexuality
00:12:37 - Exploring Female Sexuality and History
00:16:09 - Exploring Sexuality Through Design
00:18:12 - Achieving Orgasm Equality
00:28:16 - Consent, communication, and sexual exploration
00:30:56 - Orgasm Equality and Sexual Empowerment
00:38:50 - Sex Tech and Favorite Toys
00:39:38 - Sex Toys: Tools Not Replacements
00:43:32 - Sex Toys Changed My Life, sexual health
00:48:09 - Clitoris Shapes, Stimulation, and Orgasm, libido
00:52:17 - Vulva vs Vagina, female anatomy

Connect with Miss Educated, Tash

http://misseducated.substack.com/

http://tashdoherty.com/

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Ep 663: Spring Break and Stranded with Her Best Friend's Brothers, Layla Gets Raunchy, Excerpt from Chapter 5, erotic romance fiction.  College student Layla finds herself at a cabin with 8 med school students and they begin to hookup to fulfill each other's sexual fantasies. It's a forced proximity romance and they are all at the cabin together for spring break, so, why not? In this excerpt, Layla has decided the men are going to play a cum shooting game, aimed at her, and the winner gets his wish granted by her. It's hot! Scorching hot! This is spicy smut, the full book is an erotic romance fairy tale retelling of Snow White, a why choose romance with lots of sex scenes, plus a love triangle with the two brothers, lots of sexual exploration and empowerment, and ...seriously...it's so hot your ears might start on fire!

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Episode 662: Why Women Stop Wanting Sex and How to Get it Back Even Juicier with Intimacy with Expert Allana Pratt. 

Summary: 

Reclaiming True Intimacy: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Sexual Healing

Discover how intimacy expert Allana Pratt breaks down the barriers between sexuality, self-acceptance, and genuine connection in this transformative episode. From overcoming trauma to embracing personal pleasure without shame, Allana guides us through the essential journey of understanding our bodies and honoring our desires.

The conversation delves deep into how societal pressures often lead women to disconnect from their sexual selves, offering practical insights for rekindling that vital connection. Learn why true intimacy starts with self-love and how creating a safe space for exploration can revolutionize your relationship with yourself and others.

Key highlights:
- The importance of self-exploration before intimate partnerships
- Breaking free from achievement-based self-worth, and get out of performance mode in the bedroom
- Embracing the divine feminine and masculine within
- Tools for healing sexual trauma
- Creating structures for self-care and pleasure

Ready to transform your relationship with intimacy and self-acceptance? This episode offers the guidance and permission you've been seeking. Tune in to start your journey toward authentic connection and sexual healing.

Timeline (an estimation):

00:00:02 - Understanding Women's Desire for Intimacy
00:08:28 - Exploring Yoni and Sexual Healing
00:11:49 - Exploring Body Awareness and Sensation
00:15:22 - Exploring Sensation and Emotional Release
00:17:11 - Embracing Self-Worth and Pleasure
00:27:00 - Breaking Free from Worthiness Pressure
00:28:25 - Embracing Age and Personal Growth
00:32:27 - Empowering Women Through Boundaries
00:35:03 - Integrating Emotions and Setting Boundaries
00:47:03 - Understanding Trauma and Intimacy
00:53:06 - Finding Alana Pratt's Resources

Allana Pratt is an intimacy expert, relationship coach, author of 6 books, and the host of the edgy podcast “Intimate Conversations”.

Website: www.AllanaPratt.com

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Episode 660: Fancy Gets Spanked on the Beach Erotic Fiction Excerpt written by a pen name of Ruan's, RuAnn Willhoe. Get the full ebook on Kindle Unlimited on Amazon and here at this link https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/fancygetsspannkedonthebeach

Subtropes:

• kinks of degradation, humiliation, BSDM, impact play spanking
• consent is sexy
• age gap
• married couple
• exhibitionism and voyeurism
• second chances relationship, second marriage
• sexy on the beach fun
• sensation play
• power play, Dom/sub consensual power exchange

Story blurb:

Fancy and Keith the Keeper are an adventurous midlife second marriage couple who seek strangers to interact with in spontaneous unions. They desire to enjoy their intimacy without the confines of walls or prudish conventional rules, rather they live by their own mutually agreed upon boundaries. They go on their adventures together, in the public, but with a smart attention to making sure they are always safe.

A foray onto the beach after dinner for some impact play is on their agenda one summer evening, and when they find the perfect spot, they find themselves blessed with even more perfect, and younger, strangers who happen upon them. Then fun really begins!

This is an extra hot short story of wife sharing, male domination, female submission, impact play, humiliation, degradation, and exhibitionism, plus lots of mind-blowing pleasure for all!

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Season 5, Episode 659: From Fantasy Worlds to Dark Romance with a Dominant Female Main Character: A Writer's Journey Through the Pandemic with Author MZ Rylan, an Indie Author who writes about powerful women, why choose,  and enemies to lovers.

Prefer to watch us chat instead of just listen? Catch the episode on YouTube (minus the excerpt, which is only on podcast apps) https://youtu.be/OB5Q7j4K7P8

MZ Rylan:
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Bound by Her links www.MzRylan.com/boundbyher

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Dive into an enlightening conversation between authors Ruan Willow and MZ Rylan as they explore the unexpected creative paths that emerged during the pandemic. MZ shares her fascinating transition from crafting intricate fantasy worlds to embracing the raw authenticity of dark romance, while both authors discuss the delicate balance of writing about sexuality and power dynamics in fiction.

The episode tackles compelling topics including:

• The art of portraying mature, confident characters in romance
• Challenging stereotypes around femininity, masculinity, dominance,  and submission
• The complexities of writing in third-person perspective
• Navigating platform censorship and trigger warnings
• Marketing challenges in the dark romance genre

Their candid discussion reveals how authors blend research, personal experience, and creativity to craft authentic stories that push boundaries while respecting reader sensitivities.

Ready to peek behind the curtain of contemporary romance writing? Listen to this episode for an unfiltered look at the evolving world of romantic fiction and the authors who dare to challenge conventions.

Key Takeaways:

• The pandemic significantly shifted MZ Rylan's writing focus from intricate fantasy to dark romance, highlighting how external circumstances can influence creativity.

  
• The discussion challenges traditional stereotypes about masculinity and submission in literature, advocating for more diverse and nuanced character representations such as a dominant woman leader, femdom, and female lead relationships.

• Curiosity is emphasized as a critical element in storytelling, reinforcing the idea that real-life experiences are fundamental to crafting compelling narratives.

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Season 5, Episode 658: Enjoy and excerpt from the book Mallory and Derek Attend Secret Parties, Doggy in the Hot Tub and Big Plans. The Winter Ball Continues: the night is winding down, but first for some fun in the hot tub!

An Erotica Romance fiction Story of a Bisexual Couple who join an alternative lifestyle Sex Club where the leaders of the club throw sex parties at their house for their adventurous swinging members. Come on the journey as Mallory and Derek figure out how to have sexy fun with others while still being a devoted couple. This story contains polyamory, the swinging lifestyle, partner sharing, and kinky sex.

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Book blurb:

Mallory and Derek are a young mutually dedicated bisexual couple. They both love adventure and new experiences. It's what drew them to each other in the first place. They desire to explore more together, so they decide to join a swinger's alternative lifestyle club.

Once the initial overwhelm wears off, they dive in to the insatiable group fun at the private parties, and don't look back. Their world opens up and they can't get enough. They have so much fun, their minds, and their climaxes, are blown to new heights. Life can't get any better. They make new friendships, and cultivate deeper ones that enrich their lives, while they work hard at being diligently respectful of their mutual boundaries.

And all the party games, oh, that's mind-blowing and not stopping in its ever-expanding ecstasy! The couple is hooked!

When a photographer is hired for one of the private parties and takes sexy pictures of Mallory with an older man who had become one of her regular play partners, Mallory's life, and career, take a turn for the unexpected. She finds herself lucky to be a huge overnight success as a content creator when she begins to post nude pics and spicy videos online. As she finds herself further entrenched in her life with her devoted partner Derek, her new older millionaire gentleman friend wants to be a permanent person in her life, too. Mallory is lucky, she's got two very supportive partners in her life!

Who comes along for the full entrepreneurial ride she's on remains to be seen. However, one thing is for sure, she's taking this pleasure train for life. And whoever is by her side better hold tight because it's promising to be a wild trip!

Tropes:  erotica, Polyamory love triangle, swinging, BDSM, D/s, multiple partner intimacy and relationships, impact play, intimate scenes, bisexuality, experimentation, and empowerment.

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Ep 657: The Power, Art, and Politics of Erotic Romance Writing with Megan Landon

Dive into a fascinating conversation with linguist and author Megan Landon about the power of language in erotic and romance writing. From the subtle distinctions between word choices to the broader implications of language in storytelling, this episode uncovers the craft behind creating intimate narratives.

Megan shares insights from her workshop "The Allure of Words," exploring how language affects pacing and sensuality in writing. The discussion tackles challenging topics including the stigmatization of erotica, the evolving landscape of romantic fiction, and the political climate affecting authors in the genre.

The conversation extends beyond craft to address crucial industry issues: the changing dynamics of romance conventions, the importance of inclusive spaces, and the role of emotional intelligence in storytelling. Particularly poignant is the examination of how patriarchal structures affect both women and men in the literary world.

Ready to explore the intricate world of erotic writing and its place in modern literature? Listen to this enlightening episode that bridges linguistics, creativity, and social commentary in the romance genre.

*Tune in to discover how language shapes our understanding of intimacy and storytelling.*

Key Takeaways: 

• Megan Landon emphasizes the significant impact of language in storytelling, particularly in the genre of romance and sci-fi fantasy erotica, which is often underestimated.  
• The discussion highlights the challenges writers face regarding word choice due to the stigmatization of erotica, revealing a nuanced struggle for creative expression.  
• The podcast explores the effects of patriarchy on both genders within the realm of erotic fiction, suggesting that it can shape emotional connections and societal perceptions in unexpected ways.

About Megan:

Megan Landon is an award winning writer of sci-fi and fantasy romance and er*t'ca. Her stories are inspired by nature, science, language, and magic. She has a Ph.D. in linguistics and loves to play with the shades of nuance that exist between magic and science. Megan's work has been recognized by the Seattle Erotic Arts Foundation; Fantasy, Futuristic, and Paranormal Romance Writers; Passionate Ink; Literally Lovesick; All the Filthy Details podcast; and the Golden Pigtails Awards.

AUDIO RECORDING: Excerpt from Botany and Brujeria narrated by Lola Raine. 

meganlandon.com

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Audiobook excerpt Botany and Brujeria can be found at https://mybook.to/botany

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SOCIALS: 

Instagram, TikTok, Bluesky, Facebook: @meganlandonauthor

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Ep 655: Erotic Sensual Shorts and Scenarios Shower, Daddy, Peaking, Sensual ASMR, Ride the Experience Climax to Aftercare. This episode is full of mini erotic scenes, erotic poetry, spicy hot thoughts, scenes, and indulgent pleasure sounds. This is short little space of enjoyment, a pocket of self care, decompression, and a place for self care to destress. Take time for you mental health and sexual health everyday, don't skip. You are a whole person who deserves to exercise that wholeness that was given to you at birth, and that includes your sexuality. Enjoy the sensual sounds and ride the erotica, erotic fiction, spicy romance of this short little podcast episode. Pleasure is your birthright, take it baby, it's yours!

Ways to promote your sexual health:

• think about sexuality daily, set aside time
• romance is important in self play and partner time
• enhance your relationships with audios, toys, lotions, oils, sexy videos, language
• pay attention to your sexual health, sexual wellness sexual wellbeing at every turn, ready books, listen to podcasts
• self love and pleasure are important...always remember that
• give yourself consent for personal growth and self discovery,
• try restructuring your entrenched harmful thoughts by reducing thoughts and scripts of shame in your head while encouraging pleasure. This is sex ed for adults who grew up with loads of shame around sex, give yourself permission to ditch old views and learn new healthier ones.
• celebrate your humanness
• accept and seek pleasure as a regular practice

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Ep 654:  Unpacking Masculinity with Jacob Tobia: Dive into a thought-provoking conversation with gender nonconforming writer and performer Jacob Tobia as they explore the complexities of manhood in today's society. Jacob, a member of Forbes' 30 Under 30 and the voice behind the non-binary character Double Trouble in Netflix's She-Ra, shares insights from their new book, Before They Were Men: Essays on Manhood, Compassion, and What Went Wrong, which releases on August 26, 2025. Affiliate link to the book https://amzn.to/3JuhaoS

In this episode, we discuss the need for compassion towards men, the impact of societal expectations on young boys, and the importance of redefining masculinity. Jacob's candid reflections on their personal journey and the cultural narratives surrounding gender challenge us to rethink our perspectives on manhood and the emotional struggles many face.

Key themes include:
- The harmful effects of toxic masculinity and the need for a shift towards safe masculinity
- Understanding the struggles of young men and boys within the gender binary
- The importance of empathy and connection in feminist discourse
- Insights into the incel phenomenon and the need for compassion

Join us for this enlightening discussion that encourages listeners to foster understanding and healing in a world that often feels divided. Jacob's powerful message is one of hope, urging us all to create a kinder, more inclusive future.

Connect with Jacob Tobia: https://jacobtobia.com/ on Instagram @jacobtobia

Quotes from Jacob Tobia

"It is time I stop avoiding the heart of the work that I owe the world."

"Men and boys are suffering spiritually under the gender binary now."

"The term toxic masculinity is now a game of telephone and it's gone terribly."

"We need to shift our conversation toward compassion for men."

"Learning to have empathy for people who hurt you is not easy work."

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Ep 652: Ruan does erotic improv... Surprise Blow Job at the Restaurant Date Night Story! This story is immersive and hot hot hot! It's told in second person, meaning "You" and "I" are the subjects, and it has ASMR erotic sound elements. Enjoy this erotica fiction, an erotic audio fiction story; it's saucy spicy steamy romance! Stories about relationships with sex in them, because that's how romantic relationships are IRL. Open door and spicy romance subgenres my jam, if it's yours too, then you will love with sensual little date night storytelling experience!

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