Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow

Season 6, Episode 792: Why Sober Sex is WAY Better: A Chat with Dr. Frank Spinelli. Avoiding alcohol before sex makes a BIG difference, for you and your partner. Being sober for sex can help you be more present in your body, and help you enjoy it more. That's important! Sure it might be awkward at first, but push through that. Why? Because alcohol gives an anesthesia effect, which can alter or lessen your pleasure. Alcohol can also give you fake confidence, and alter your decision making. We also discussed shame and how to shed it in regards to sex, being gay, and even in talking about sex. Be authentic then you can show up in the bedroom (or wherever you may be!) as your authentic self. Your sex life, and your relationship with your partner, will thank you! Sober sex is better sex, and your body will prove it to you! Give it a try!

Guest Bio: 

Frank Spinelli, MD is a physician, certified health coach, and one of 95,000 survivors who filed claims in the Boy Scouts of America bankruptcy case. With over twenty years of clinical experience in internal medicine, he brings unique authority to trauma-informed recovery: medical expertise, lived experience of childhood sexual abuse and pandemic relapse, and active coaching practice implementing the C.O.M.P.A.S.S. framework with clients. Today, he works with hundreds of clients through the Reframe platform, helping individuals apply trauma-informed tools to navigate shame, addiction, and behavioral change. He is the author of The Shame Compass: A Radical Framework for Trauma Healing and Self-Acceptance, as well as PEE-SHY: A Memoir and The Advocate Guide to Gay Men’s Health and Wellness. A former TV host and longtime health writer, Dr. Spinelli brings both clinical authority and media experience to conversations about recovery, resilience, and living with authenticity.

Dr. Spinelli's links and books (affiliate book links): https://www.frankspinelli.com/

The Shame Compass: https://link.amazon/B0ec4s00H

Dr. Spinelli also writes fiction books:

Perfect Flaw https://link.amazon/B0gsUj2vZ

No Angels Wept https://link.amazon/B00T0xV0a

Precious Friends https://link.amazon/B00PdtYSP

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Season 6, Episode 790: Haunted Hayride Erotic Improv, The Secret Meet Up on the Haunted Trail, by Podcast Host Ruan Willow.

Enjoy an excerpt in honor of the new spicy Halloween audiobook coming out, Halloween Spice: Hot Short Stories for Spooky Spiced Listens. Get it on online audiobook sellers.

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Get Ruan's spicy Halloween collection of spooky, spicy, hot and steamy Halloween themed short stories...witches, wizards, magic, enchantment, deception, and so much more! https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/halloweenspiceaudiobook

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Season 6, Episode 791: Finding Spiritual Truths in Sexuality with Suzannah Weiss. What if what has been expressed in mainstream religions by our society and current interpretations of the Bible about sexuality is all wrong? What if we were meant to enjoy our bodies and sexuality rather than hoard it, reserve it, "get" it and "take" it from others, and be shamed by it? If our creator gave us the capabilities and the equipment for pleasure, it's only logical that we were meant to enjoy our bodies, the sensations our genitals can produce, and sexual relations with ourselves and others. We weren't given taste buds to not taste food! This is ridiculous. We need to reevaluate our views and think outside the culturally and spiritually stagnant box we are in. Suzannah discusses alternate interpretations of sexuality from sentences from the Bible and examines them with a new lens, pointing out that perhaps they don't mean what has been propagated at all, but something entirely different, and more positive. She also discusses the idea of multiple messiah figures who are on a mission to save the world, radiating with the core thread of birthing a sex-positive Jesus inspired revolution.

Other topics discussed include: feminism, patriarchy, pleasure, sex, anatomy, cultural views, hook up culture, adult films, sexuality, spirituality, Christianity, religion, relationships.

Find out more about Suzannah's work http://www.suzannahweiss.com/

Suzannah's Books: affiliate links Eve's Blessing https://link.amazon/B0fas0q3l

Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject https://link.amazon/B05ESw2vc

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Ruan's Books mentioned in the episode: Spring Break and Stranded https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/springbreakandstrandedwithherbestfriendsbrothersplus6menlaylagetsraunchy

Neighborhood Secrets: 

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Season 6, Episode 788: Finger Licking Good Threesome Roommate Rendezvous Hookup: Sam and Mariana are dating, and the roommate Jordan is prepping dinner with Mariana while Sam is at the gym. Jordan wants an opinion on his homemade sauce, and he offers his sauce-coated finger for Mariana to taste. She is a horny girl and gets a little carried away. The erotic aura burns out of their interaction and when Sam arrives home, things between the three of them heat up quick!

Special Announcement Giveaway!

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Season 6, Episode 787: You can test for STDs in the privacy of your own home! No more embarrassing visits to the doctor, no shame filled eyes to endure. You don't even have to drive anywhere to get tested! You can conveniently test yourself at home and get the results within hours to a couple of days, which is way faster than going to the doctor anyway! There shouldn't be shame for getting an infection, but our culture has the bad habit of shaming such infections. Your sexual health matters to your sexuality, your fertility, and your overall health. Sexual wellness is important and Better Life Science, aka STD Hero, can help you achieve a healthier body and life. You can also share your results with other people from your phone's wallet.

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I chatted with the owner of the company and we chatted about how this amazing service is the kind of concierge service for sexual wellness that's the future. This is an easy way to get yourself tested and be sure you are healthy, so you don't spread any illnesses/infections around. We had a fun chat! We talked, we laughed, and we brought up how we need to bust the stigma of std infections.

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Season 6, Episode 786: Tarah's Unapologetic Take on Kink and ADHD plus the Pleasure of Sex Toys. Tarah is a Sexologist and Certified Sex Educator & Coach.

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Guest Bio:
Tarah is the founder of Forbidden & Found, where she teaches the kind of sex ed most people never got — medically accurate, kink-aware, and refreshingly free of shame. From communication and consent to the intersection of ADHD and kink, she helps curious humans unlearn the cultural scripts that keep people quiet. As a certified sexologist and sex educator, her work spans kink fundamentals, the neuroscience of desire, and the art of asking for what you want. With equal parts candor and clarity, she makes the taboo feel unapologetically human.

Tarah's Links:
Website: https://www.forbiddenandfound.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forbiddenxfound/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@forbiddenxfound 

Discussion Topics: Sex Education, Kink Awareness, ADHD And Sex, Consent In BDSM, Sex Positivity, Sex Toys, Taboo Topics, Sexual Pleasure, Communication In Relationships, Intimacy, Sexual Health, Neurodiversity And Sexuality, Erotic Literature, Sexual Wellness, Sex Educator, Empowerment Through Knowledge, Open Conversations About Sex, Pleasure-Focused Discussions, Breaking Sexual Stigma 

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Season 6, Episode 781: Madison Murray Embodying Erotic Reality and Sharing It With the World, Despite Censorship. Find Madison Murray on Substack at Pretty, Weird Girl and Instagram mygapingmasshole and madisonmrrrrrrr (that's 7 r's!). Madison is the author of "My Gaping Masshole". We had a great chat! We talked about creating spicy erotic content including images, memes, books, stories, and audio. We discussed about the challenges of being a creator with censorship rearing it's ugly head, and coined the phrase PTP for Puritanical Toxicity Pushers, which we both abhor! Listen in to our amazing and fun conversation if you also like content with sex, sexual innuendo, images, and writing, but HATE censorship. EFF censorhip and EFF the puritanical toxicity pushers!

Madison writes and posts on Substack. She also creates audio meditation, embodies erotic reality, she is an artist, a writer, and a creator. She shares where to find her books and content in the episode, tells her story about the Market Basket and her New England focus (her home in the US), Lady Gunn Magazine, and her other run ins with censorship. Find out more about Madison: https://substack.com/@madisonmurrrrrrr

https://mygapingmasshole.com/

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Season 6, Episode 779: Professional Domme, Educator, and Performer Lady Cinder Shares Domination, Secrets, & Kinks.

The Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow Podcast welcomes guest Lady Cinder!

Guest Bio:

A neon-gothic dominatrix, hypnotic goddess, and fire deity — Lady Cinder is both performer and priestess. Her art fuses hypnosis, mindfuck ritual, and celestial theatre into acts of control and surrender. A master of psychological seduction and ritual performance, who transforms obedience into worship and an art unto itself.

Award-winning, multi-nominated, and born, raised, and based out of Los Angeles, California— yet rarely contained by borders as a touring dominatrix whose presence is as coveted as it is rare. What is offered are not sessions, but experiences: immersive descents into desire, fear, and exquisite surrender.

With years of my own experiences crossing vast spectrum of kinks and ritual, I specialize in transforming indulgence into torment, and torment into transcendence. If you like it, I’ll torture you with it — until the boundary between agony and ecstasy dissolves into something unforgettable.

Those fortunate enough to kneel before Me understand: this is not play — this is metamorphosis. I infiltrate your mind, lick your synapses, and rewire your hunger until you no longer recognize yourself — only your need for Me.

Fly Me To You is available for the select few who dare to invite danger and luxury into their own domain. Whether in Los Angeles, on tour, or within the sanctum of your choosing, I deliver not just domination — but a life-altering experience you will never escape.

Lady Cinder inks and social media: https://www.ladycinder.com/

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Season 6, Episode 776: The Art of Spicy Narratives: A Chat with Erotic Storyteller Nemo Omnis, plus excerpt from '“Hello Beautiful”, written by Nemo Omnis and narrated by Ruan Willow.

Topics of Discussion:

• Erotic Storytelling, Spicy Romance, Human Condition, Intimacy Exploration, Self-Publishing, Writing Process, Erotic Fiction, Literary Freedom, Creative Collaboration, Author Journey, Character Development, Reader Engagement, Publishing Challenges, Erotic Themes, Genre Definitions, Writing Community, Literary Voice, Emotional Storytelling, Romance Literature, Kink Exploration
• Guest Bio: Nemo Omnis is an erotic storyteller of various persuasions, currently historical and spooky. Nemo believes in the exploration of the human condition through the lens of the erotic. By embracing the playful nature of intimacy, their works focus on freedom, beauty, truth, and above all things, love. Nemo is owned by two cats who grudgingly permit them to eat, work, and sleep. They can be found at www.NemoOmnis.me.
• Links: https://nemoomnis.me and https://eroticneutral.substack.com

From the Podcast Host Ruan Willow: Ruan's books and audiobooks (affiliate links are in this post): http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/

Shameless Summit for Women to explore their sexuality and sensuality, Season 3: Reserve your spot in the FREE Shameless Summit, taking place August 24-28, 2026

Featured books:

Neighborhood Secrets: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsecretssfwcover
Wicked & Spicy Tales: Four short stories of erotic paranormal magic and erotic horror, eerie Twilight Zone-ish... not your typical Ruan Willow book as these stories are mystical, devious, and explore the darker side. These stories are not HEA, but instead are wicked and spicy.
Audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytalesaudiobook
in Ebook and paperback: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales

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Season 6, Episode 774: Could the free eyed monster jealousy work as sexy role play in your relationship? Yes! It can! What could jealousy teach you? Learn how Using Erotic Jealousy, and Jealousy in general, can be a Powerful Tool in Sex, Trust, and Intimacy, Featuring Coach Ally Iseman. Did you know that although jealousy is touted as bad by our culture, and in truth it feels bad, it's just information, and can be used as a tool to improve relationships, trust, intimacy, and even give people ways to role play in their sex lives? It's true! Jealousy can be beneficial! Also, learn the differences between jealousy and envy, plus the types of jealousy. Stay tuned to find out more from this week's podcast guest Ally Iseman!

• Bio: Ally Iseman, CRC is an award-winning creator, author, internationally Certified Relationship Coach and NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional who specializes in modern relationship design, unlocking erotic jealousy, and consent and communication. She speaks on stages and screens of all sizes, and is a featured culture commentator and subject matter expert who has been featured in The New York Times, LADbible, Cosmopolitan, AskMen, and more. Ally works with couples and individuals all over the world who are at transition points in their dating and relation-trips. Whether they want to open their relationship to include more people, explore play parties together, or just open up more authentically to each other about their kinks and curiosities, Ally helps them open up without breaking up. She is based in Los Angeles and London.

• Passport2Pleasure.com: https://www.passport2pleasure.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman
• Take the Jealousy Quiz http://www.thejealousyquiz.com/

From the podcast host, Ruan Willow:

Ruan's books and audiobooks (affiliate links are in this post): http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/

Shameless Summit, Season 3: Reserve your spot in the FREE Shameless Summit, taking place August 24-28, 2026

Neighborhood Secrets: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsecretssfwcover
Wicked & Spicy Tales: Four short stories of erotic paranormal magic and erotic horror, eerie Twilight Zone-ish... not your typical Ruan Willow book as these stories are mystical, devious, and explore the darker side. These stories are not HEA, but instead are wicked and spicy.
Audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytalesaudiobook
in Ebook and paperback: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales
Hotwife book: An alternative lifestyle book of wife sharing called Servicing the Dryer Repairman, Laney Gives a Tip https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingthedryerrepairman

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