Ep 472:  Ever wondered about the science behind fetishes and taboo arousal?

Come along on a deep dive into the realms of pleasure, fetishes, and neuroscience with orgasm and neuro-pleasure coach Wendy Perkins of Owning Your O. Discover the fascinating science behind taboo arousal, the biological processes that shape our fetishes, and how our early experiences influence our sexual preferences. Wendy shares her journey of sexual exploration, her extensive research, and her unique insights from working in a BDSM dungeon.
This episode is packed with enlightening discussions on how to regulate your nervous system, the importance of understanding your body, and breaking free from societal shame around sexuality. Whether you're curious about fetishes, BDSM, or simply want to understand more about your own pleasure pathways, this conversation is a must-listen!
Connect with Wendy: http://owningyouro.com/
Yoni Dearmouring https://owningyouro.com/product/yoni-dearmouring/
BDSM & Trauma https://owningyouro.com/product/bdsm-trauma/

00:01:12 Fetish, explains the neuroscience behind taboo arousal
00:01:54 When I separated from my husband seven years ago, I could not find information about pleasure
00:08:16 article about how fetishes develop based on science
00:12:56 By 7, most people have these systems turned on. So that system that turns on is the logical processing
00:17:17 People end up feeling ashamed about some of their fetishes
00:24:34 The sexual arousal that women experience is more tied to internal thought processes
00:33:48 As kids, we're taught to change our behavior to make others happy
00:36:54 One of the most important places to regulate your emotions is in relationships
00:41:28 People need to break the people pleasing behaviors in relationships
00:45:53 Narcissism gets this really bad rap because it's protective
00:49:04 BDSM helps people regulate their nervous system
00:52:15 One way to learn about women's orgasms is to use sex toys
00:55:09 ADHD
Show notes created by https://headliner.app
🗣️ Quotes from Wendy
"Fetishes are not some weird abnormality. The only thing that makes something a fetish versus something society accepts is whether society accepts it."
"Once you get rid of the shame around your fetish, you realize it’s just a biological function."
"BDSM, when done well and safely, is one of the most beautiful tools to help people regulate their nervous system."
"Helping people learn how to regulate and create safety in themselves is astronomical for what it does for your life."
🗣️ Quotes from Ruan Willow
"Are we ashamed that we get hungry? Of course not. But somehow with sex..."
Topics:
Orgasm Coaching, Neuro Pleasure, Taboo Arousal, Fetish Neuroscience, Bdsm Education, Sexual Exploration, Women's Pleasure, Clitoral Anatomy, Sexual Health Research, Fetish Origins, Sexual Trauma, Body Positivity, Sensory Motor Network, Dopamine And Adhd, Bdsm Safety, Pelvic Floor Health, Sexual Shame, Relationship Communication, Nervous System Regulation, Sexual Empowerment, mental health

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Ep 470:  NSFW Layla's Pussy Store, Spring Break and Stranded with Her Best Friend's Brothers Plus 6 Men, Layla Gets Raunchy: Book 2, Chapter 2. The college aged erotic multiple partner self declared freeuse story continues. Layla, the only woman in a cabin of 8 men, decides she wants to play a sex game of a pussy store.  At her store, the men must offer something to her. If she accepts their offering and agrees to the barter, consensual sex occurs, but it can't be money. Nope! Then there's Charlie, her best friend's twin brother. Charlie is acting sullen, often his usual demeanor, but Layla wants to know why, perhaps it's because his older brother Heath's hand was on her thigh when he came into the cabin after his hike. Either way, she'd determined to find out and bring him back to a level of happiness. She knows just how to do it too, with her sexual guiles. He ends up being the first customer for her store...THEN stay tuned for the next installment where the rest of men visit Layla's open store of pleasure.
Enjoy this erotica fiction, erotic romance smutty story with an underlying storyline of romance with a love triangle growing between Layla and the two brothers, Charlie and Heath. Layla has found herself at a cabin with all men while her best friend is stuck sick at a hotel. Being the only female in the cabin with a bunch of horny men just as sexually adventurous as she is, she's going all out and declared her empowerment to explore her sexuality in ways she never has before, shedding cultural norms around sex and just letting loose!
A story of relationships where indulgence is optimal, and pleasure is maximal, and everyone is doing attaining fantasy entertainment and fulfilment.
Book 2, ch 1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/15194555
Check out Ruan Willow's recent book releases:
In Audiobook, Filthy Fiction: Volume 1 Dirty Daydreams, written by Casey Donatello, a hotwife IRL, podcaster, and author: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/dirtydaydreams
Servicing the College Fence Builders, A Age Gap Hotwife Story in audiobook https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingthecollegefencebuildersaudiobook and ebook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingthecollegefencebuildersanagegaphotwifestory
Servicing the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventures
Anderson Comes Home: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/andersoncomeshome
Workplace Threesomes on Smashwords: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/workplacethreesomes
Same book as above with a different cover: Group Fun at Work: Spicy Unions of Three https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/groupfunatworkspicyhotunionsofthree

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Are you a fan of romantic fiction that spans across different genres? Then you won't want to miss our latest podcast episode featuring the incredibly talented Stacia Kaywood. Stacia is an author who dabbles in all areas of romantic fiction, from historical to paranormal to contemporary, with heaps of fiery spice tossed in to keep readers drooling for more. Her greatest fear? Being asked to pick just one genre and stick with it!

In this episode, Stacia gives us a tantalizing taste of her upcoming Regency romance, "Stealing Annabelle," set to be released in summer of 2024. She reads an intense and sexy excerpt that will leave you wanting more. The story is set in 1822 and features a passionate and complicated relationship between the characters Jack and Annabelle. The excerpt is filled with vivid descriptions and emotional depth, making it clear why Stacia's work is so captivating.

But the episode doesn't stop there. We dive into an engaging interview where Stacia shares her journey as a writer, from her early inspirations to her writing process. Did you know that she started writing seriously during the Covid pandemic? Like many, she found herself with extra time and decided to take the plunge into novel writing. Her first book, "Bathed in Moonlight," is a historical romance set at the end of World War Two and has already garnered attention for its compelling narrative.

Stacia also talks about her love for traveling and how it fuels her creative passion. She finds inspiration in paintings, architecture, and real-life stories, which adds a rich layer of authenticity to her work. When she's not writing, she's either baking or plotting her next series, making her a true creative force.

One of the highlights of our conversation is Stacia's candid discussion about the challenges and joys of being a pantser—a writer who doesn't outline but writes by the seat of their pants. She shares how this approach allows her stories to evolve organically, even if it sometimes leads to unexpected plot twists.

Whether you're a longtime fan of romance novels or new to the genre, this episode offers something for everyone. Stacia's passion for writing and her ability to create vivid, emotionally charged stories make this a must-listen.

So, grab your headphones and get ready for a journey through the world of romantic fiction with Stacia Kaywood. Trust us, you won't be disappointed.

Listen to the episode now and immerse yourself in the captivating world of "Stealing Annabelle" and more!

Ep 464:  A hot and steamy bathtime turns into a paranormal power play time for Jessie when an ordinary rubber duckie transforms into a magical sex toy all on its very own... enjoy the surreal erotica story of magical realism fiction, written by author Frank Noir, narrated by Ruan Willow. It's kinky and fun! Explore your sexuality, expand your boundaries, and enrich your relationships through listening to erotic fiction! Then stay for the author interview!
Thrilled to have Frank Noir on the podcast, an erotica author of Scandinavian descent, currently residing in Berlin, Germany. His writings are graphically sexual, embracing the darker side of carnal urges with hard yet sensual tales of submission and guilty pleasures.
Find Frank Noir's ebooks on Amazon, Kindle, iTunes, iBooks, Barnes & Noble Nook, and Smashwords. Visit his website at Official website: franknoir.com

Amazon author page: amazon.com/author/franknoir

In this episode, Ruan narrates a full story by Frank Noir titled "Rubber Duckie," a supernatural and highly erotic tale that will leave your senses tingling. After the story, Ruan and Frank have an engaging interview about writing erotica, the creative process, and their personal experiences and insights into the world of erotic literature.
Frank Noir's book Dirty Cops (affiliate link, podcast may receive a small commission from purchases, which support this podcast, thank you!) https://amzn.to/4bZTC4G
Quotes from Frank Noir:
"The stories of Frank Noir are graphically sexual, daring to embrace the darker side of our carnal urges, hard yet sensual tales of submission and guilty pleasures."
"I think the short story format is perfect for erotica. It's quite difficult to do a plot that makes sense, that also gives way to as many sex scenes as I like to write."
"I think it's fun to push your own boundaries a bit and imagine things that you may not be into."
"I always divide the story into chapters in the outline so I know what happens where. Which means when I get stuck in one chapter, I can start work on another one."

Explore Ruan's books:
Books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Wicked & Spicy Tales: erotic magical paranormal and erotic horror fiction short story collection https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales
Ruan's Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/audiobooksnarratedbyruan
Servicing the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures bundle of books 1-5 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com

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Episode 462: Embracing Self-Love and Masturbation: A Sensual Journey, an 18+ ONLY episode.  This is an improv erotic journey off the top of Ruan's head. Immerse yourself in her sharing her highly sexual brain with you, including discussion and pep talk. Want access to the story only? Subscribe: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/subscribe
"My Clit is my window to my climax."
In this steamy episode, Ruan Willow dives into the often taboo yet universally experienced act of masturbation. She explores the mental and physical pleasures of self-love, encouraging listeners to embrace their bodies and fantasies without shame. Ruan shares a vivid, erotic scenario of a woman indulging in self-pleasure, highlighting how masturbation can enhance intimacy with partners by teaching us more about our own bodies.
Ruan's narrative is both instructional and tantalizing, offering tips on using toys, hands, and even household items to achieve sexual satisfaction. She emphasizes the importance of self-care and the positive impact it has on our overall well-being, urging listeners to explore their desires freely and without guilt.
This episode is a celebration of sexual self-discovery and the joy it brings. Ruan's passionate storytelling and candid advice make for an empowering and arousing listen. Perfect for nurturing self care, sexual health, and mental health for all humans.
00:00:18 " Thinking about Masturbation is an aphrodisiac in and of itself
00:03:16 " Your sexual organs are there for you to use and enjoy. You can use your body for pleasure, do it today and as often as desired to feel amazing, relieve stress, connect with yourself and your partner, fabulous sleep aid
00:10:04 " M oh, it's so arousing to spend time with my lover...fantasize your heart out!
00:12:53 " We rolled together, amorous, our voluptuous curves curling...
00:18:26 " Sucking. Moving my tongue all over, sucking as hard as I can...
00:24:10 " Aftercare is enjoying the wonderful hormones that, we've given each other. Sleep after climax is fabulous aftercare for yourself.
Topics covered:

Explore Ruan's Books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Wicked & Spicy Tales: erotic magical paranormal and erotic horror fiction https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales
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Are you ready to dive into the intriguing world of erotic writing and kink education? In our latest podcast episode, we sit down with Rebecca Blanton, also known as Auntie Vice. Rebecca is an author, podcaster, performer, and kink educator whose work delves into the complex realms of gender, power, and BDSM.

Join us as Rebecca shares her unique journey from policy writing to becoming a renowned figure in the BDSM community. Discover how she overcame severe dyslexia, explored the world of erotic fiction, and found joy in creating stories that challenge societal norms and celebrate marginalized bodies.

This episode is packed with insights, humor, and fascinating stories that you won't want to miss. Whether you're an aspiring writer, a fan of erotic fiction, or simply curious about the world of kink, this conversation is sure to captivate and inspire you,

Topics of discussion include:

Find more about the podcast guest Auntie Vice: http://www.auntievice.com/ https://www.loveletterstoaunicorn.com/home
Book: Love Letters to a Unicorn: A Book about Kink, BDSM, Non-monogamy https://amzn.to/3XcWK8A
Fat Chicks on Top Podcast: https://www.loveletterstoaunicorn.com/fat-chicks-on-top
Podcast Host Ruan Willow:
Books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Wicked & Spicy Tales: erotic magical paranormal and erotic horror fiction short story collection https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales
Ruan's Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/audiobooksnarratedbyruan
Servicing the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures book bundle of books 1-5 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com

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18plus. The erotic fiction story continues with Layla and the men at the cabin for spring break. It's a much needed break from college work. But being stranded means they are fulfilling sexual fantasies with each other, but is what happens at the cabin to stay as secrets, or will it be shared? Is it like Vegas? Regardless, Layla isn't deciding yet, but she knows she wants more of what she got from the men the night before. But first the brothers...

Did you miss the first installments of this story? Here are the links:
Part 1: Stranded https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/14679583
Part 2: Charlie https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/14721737
Part 3: The Friends https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/14774354
Enjoy this sexy new adult content of characters of college age enjoying relationships and their sexuality created for your entertainment purposes, self care, and steamy fiction audio storytelling arts.
Ruan's erotica and erotic romance fiction books & audiobooks:  http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Next Door Temptations, Friends to Lovers, The Secret's Out https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/nextdoortemptationsfriendstoloversthesecretsoutbook2
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Hotwife books and the Itty Bitty Vixen https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/hotwifebooks
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Ep 458: Visual Novels for Women: Talking About Stories, Romance, & Spicy Content with GSE Studios! 18+episode.
Learn about the fascinating world of visual novels, a unique type of video game that combines illustrated storytelling with interactive elements. Gwynne Moore, from GSE Studios, shares her journey from being a stay-at-home mom to creating games specifically designed for women, and the challenges and joys of bringing these stories to life.
Discover how visual novels differ from traditional video games, the impact of player choices on the narrative, and the importance of having engaging characters and stories. Gwynne also discusses her collaboration with indie authors, the process of converting books into games, and her future plans for expanding her studio and bringing more romance writers into the visual novel space.
If you're a fiction author interested in converting your story into a visual novel, GSE Studios is looking for new projects!
Game links:
Keepers of Astraela Steam: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2445090/Keepers_of_Astraela/
Keepers of Astraela Itch.io: https://gsestudios.itch.io/keepers-of-astraela-demo
Heart & Soul Steam: https://store.steampowered.com/app/1724160/Heart__Soul/
Heart & Soul Itch.io: https://gsestudios.itch.io/heartandsoul
Studio links:
Discord: https://discord.gg/nARDkBp8yu
Twitter: https://twitter.com/theGSEstudios
Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/GSEstudios/
Ko-fi: https://ko-fi.com/gsestudios
Tik-tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gse.studios?_t=8lZ51jZhECJ&_r=1
Email: [email protected]
Featured Podcast:
"Living Understaffed," hosted by two empowered and witty women, offers candid discussions on the challenges faced by millennial women. From dissecting office politics to navigating modern relationships, the show shares unfiltered stories and diverse book recommendations, all served with sarcasm. Tune in for genuine conversations embracing the complexities of being a millennial woman. Laugh, learn, and liberate your thoughts with humor and sass. Learn more: https://linktr.ee/livingunderstaffedpodcast
Ruan's erotica and erotic romance fiction books & audiobooks:  http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Next Door Temptations, Friends to Lovers, The Secret's Out https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/nextdoortemptationsfriendstoloversthesecretsoutbook2
Ruan's audiobooks https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/audiobooksnarratedbyruan

From Law Enforcement to OnlyFans: Bella Lexi's Bold Journey

In this riveting episode, we dive into the incredible journey of Bella Lexi, a former police lieutenant who transitioned into the world of adult content creation. Bella's story is one of resilience, empowerment, and self-discovery, making it a compelling listen for anyone interested in personal growth and overcoming life’s unexpected challenges.

Bella spent 28 years in law enforcement, a career that came to an abrupt end during the COVID-19 pandemic. What started as a fun and spicy venture into OnlyFans with her husband quickly turned into a full-blown scandal when a former friend reported her activities to her workplace. This led to an investigation and ultimately, Bella negotiating an early retirement from her position at the sheriff's office.

Instead of quietly fading into the background, Bella's story exploded into the media, gaining international attention. Rather than letting this define her negatively, Bella decided to embrace her new path fully. She threw herself into sex work, finding it to be the best thing that could have happened to her. Bella now enjoys her work and has no regrets about making the switch.

Throughout the episode, Bella shares valuable insights and advice for women looking to explore and express their sexuality. She emphasizes the importance of self-discovery, stating, "Only you can decide for yourself. First and foremost, it's about you. It's not about anyone else." Bella encourages women to get to know their bodies and not be afraid to touch themselves, as this knowledge leads to better sexual experiences.

Bella also discusses the challenges and rewards of her new career. From dealing with the stigma surrounding sex work to the support she receives from her husband, who is actively involved in her content creation, Bella's story is a testament to the power of resilience and the importance of having a supportive partner.

One of the most touching aspects of Bella's journey is her relationship with her fans. She shares how her fans have been a source of support and encouragement, and how their positive feedback motivates her to keep improving and delivering better content.

Bella's story is not just about her career transition; it's about mental health awareness, personal growth, and the importance of self-care. She candidly discusses the mental toll her previous job took on her and how she now prioritizes her well-being.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in personal empowerment, the adult industry, or simply hearing a story of triumph over adversity. Bella Lexi's journey is a powerful reminder that it's never too late to change your path and find happiness in unexpected places.

Tune in to hear Bella Lexi's full story and be inspired by her incredible journey. You won't want to miss it!

Quotes from Bella:
"Only you can decide for yourself. First and foremost, it's about you. It's not about anyone else."
"You want to leave the job with your soul; you don't want the job to take your soul."
"I love working and doing what I do now. So in the long run, I think I came out the winner in the deal."
"I always tell women, the more you know about yourself and your body, the better your sexual experiences are gonna be."
"We all have to own our mistakes and things, and, you know, it is what it is."

Ruan's latest book: Servicing the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures https://books.ruanw

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Ep 450:  Celebrating Fantasy for Masturbation May and Self Pleasure Pep Talk. Come along on my ride as I spin a fantasy. This month celebrate your rights to self pleasure. You own your body. Harness your empowerment and play today! Do you get excited about self pleasuring? About self care? I do! Join in my erotic journey where I spun this little tale off the top of my head for an erotic improv exercise. I modeled it for you! You can do this for yourself too. Enjoy mine, but also create your own fantasy for self care masturbation tailored to you specifically! Create an experience for yourself through self pleasuring. Masturbation is a healthy and needed experience to the human experience. It's a necessary experience that is good for your brain and your body, as well as your sexual health and mental health. You own your own sexuality, and you get to decide who and when you share it, or IF you share it!
Self Pleasuring/masturbation is top shelf self care because:

Release your shame, explore your sexual curiosity, and celebrate your adventurous spirit through self curated sexual pleasure by creating your own fantasy in your head to use for your sessions.
Ruan's Content:
Ruan's erotica and erotic romance fiction books and audiobooks:  http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Next Door Temptations, Friends to Lovers, The Secret's Out https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/nextdoortemptationsfriendstoloversthesecretsoutbook2
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