After 21 years of sisterhood, laughter, lessons, and leveling up, Vernika and Monique are closing out the season of Oh Hey Best Fren with a tribute to the kind of friendship that feels like family. In this best-of episode, they revisit unforgettable moments that define what ride-or-die really looks like—through every baby, breakup, glow-up, and growing pain.

From navigating relationships without losing the bond, to celebrating each other's wins (no jealousy allowed), and holding each other accountable with love, this episode is a masterclass in showing up and staying down. Whether you’re building your own girl gang or just reflecting on what it means to be a real one, this finale is a feel-good reminder that true friendship only gets better with time.

KEY POINTS: 

1: Hey Best Fren! Meet Vernika & Monique, Your New Besties

2: Are You Neglecting Your Best Friend for Your Relationship?

3: Love You, Mean It? Social Media vs Reality

6: A-List vs. D-List Friends: Some People Gotta Go

9: Different Types of Friends: The Real Deal on Your Circle

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This week on Oh Hey Best Fren, Monique and Vernika are getting real real about knowing your worth, breaking toxic patterns, and not settling for the bare minimum—whether it’s in your job, your relationship, or your own damn self-esteem. From learning how to stop selling yourself short to navigating healing after trauma, the besties dive into those honest, hard conversations that most people are too scared to say out loud.

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Whew! This one is for the grown folks. In this bold, honest, and hilarious sit-down, the girls are pulling back the curtain on what sex, dating, and relationships really look like in your 30s—and spoiler alert: it’s giving clarity, confidence, and zero tolerance for nonsense. They’re unpacking everything from why the 90-day rule might be outdated, to how your expectations and non-negotiables change as you evolve. 

This convo dives deep into emotional maturity, communication in and out the bedroom, and why “doing the work” isn’t just therapy talk—it’s real life when you’re trying to build or maintain something meaningful. They touch on redefining intimacy, learning your needs, and owning your pleasure without shame or pressure. Whether you’re single and dating, in a situationship, or navigating something long-term, this episode will have you laughing, nodding, and maybe even rethinking your current standards.

It’s grown-girl talk with heart, humor, and hella honesty—just how we like it. So light the candles, pour a lil’ something, and let’s get into it.

KEY POINTS 

- The new rules of sex and dating in your 30s

- The concept of the 90-day rule

- Preference? Quality and quantity in relationships

- Balance between “waiting” and “trusting” in relationships

- Shifting bedroom dynamics (and preferences)

- The importance of reciprocity and non-negotiable in sex

- Being in 30s – societal influences and pressure 

- Post-intimacy behavior and hygiene 

- Best Friend Mail: My friend seems to be changing… 

QUOTES 

“As I get older, you just kind of like, have a standard about things. You start having a standard, and you look at people like… ‘What are we doing? Like, this has got to be intentional.”

“Confidence comes with age. Now that I'm more mature and I'm in my 30s, I'm very vocal about the things that I like.”

“If it's truth, it's just truth. I'm going to just speak on it, and I'm not going to try to make her feel away – but I’m going to express my concern and try to prevent her from falling or making a mistake if I can.”

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Not all friendships are meant to last—and that’s okay!

Vernika and Monique get real about how life be life-ing, making some friendships stronger while others don’t stand a chance. Just because y’all were tight back in the day doesn’t mean it’s forever—and honestly, that’s just how the game goes.

They break down the squad lineup—your ride-or-dies, work besties, and the turn-up crew—and why keeping boundaries in check is a must. Mixing personal and professional friendships? Risky. Outgrowing people? A hard but necessary move. And let’s not forget how major life changes (new jobs, babies, or even switching teams) can shake things up.

But here’s the real tea—just because a friendship is different doesn’t mean it’s the end of an era. They talk about how to handle the awkward “we ain’t close like that anymore” phase, knowing when to rekindle vs. when to let it go, and why being intentional about new friendships is a game-changer.

At the end of the day, the real ones show up. So, are your friendships thriving, or are y’all just holding onto the memories? Let’s talk about it!

KEY POINTS 

- Different types of friends

- Challenges of maintaining friendships in various life phases 

- The importance of maintaining secrets and confidentiality 

- Disagreements, miscommunications, and misunderstandings 

- History is key in friendships 

- Childhood friendships, significant life changes 

- Having trust in friends with different sexual orientations 

- Career networking, maintaining personal-professional life 

- Protecting yourself while being open in friendships 

- The role of community and family in friendships

- My best friend’s moving across the country for her dream job… 

QUOTES 

“Whether we want to admit it or not, some friendships just outgrow each other.”

“Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Although they're out doing, you know, bettering themselves, when we come back, it's going to be just this.” 

“We like to elevate. I think that helps our friendship a lot because it's not like we're just gonna be sitting in one place for a long time, period. I feel like we're always, constantly growing, evolving, and bettering ourselves.”

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"You Hate Me?!" Let’s talk about jealousy—because we’ve all been there.

Scrolling through social media, side-eyeing that vacation pic, and feeling some type of way. But the real question is: what happens next? Vernika and Monique break down the difference between jealousy and envy—one’s a quick emotion, the other runs deep and gets real messy. And let’s be honest, it's been out here ending friendships. It starts with a little side-eye, turns into low-key shade, and before you know it, your so-called bestie is acting funny every time you win. Social media just adds fuel to the fire, serving up highlight reels that keep us stuck comparing. 

Instead of letting it take over, they’re flipping the script—own your feelings, use them as motivation, and stop letting fake perfection mess with your peace. Sometimes, the best move is to just hit unfollow, log off, and remind yourself that what’s online is just a fairytale version of reality. Clock your emotions, change your mindset, and protect your energy—because being inspired is way better than being bitter. 

KEY POINTS 

- Likes to lowkey jealousy: Comparison culture

- Emotional reactions to social media 

- Difference between jealousy and envy

- The impact of social media on emotions 

- How comparison leads to materialism 

- The concept of “celebration blockers”

- Being authentic on social media 

- Navigating financial differences in friendships 

- Self-validation practices like journaling and reading

- Live in gratitude, be authentic, and own YOUR emotions

QUOTES 

“Gratitude is the antidote. If you want to move away from jealousy, live in gratitude.”

“Social media is a fairy world. It is a highlight reel of my life. I'm only putting my good moments on here. You're not seeing my bad moments.”

“Once you understand your value and worth, you'll never sell yourself short again.”

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Some things should go without saying, but here we are still having to remind people. Vernika and Monique are clocking the violations in this episode—breaking down why the girl code still matters, how social media and celebrity drama have people acting brand new, and why some so-called friends will suddenly claim “we were never that close” the second they slide into your ex’s DMs.  

They get into the messy truth about besties who pull the “oops, my bad” when caught creeping, why dating your homegirl’s ex should be off limits, and how the internet has people moving reckless with friendship boundaries. They debate if guys follow the same unspoken rules, and whether men even care when their boys cross the line. To wrap it up, they challenge listeners to sound off the alarms.

Tap in now for a real talk on loyalty, boundaries, and why some friendships don’t survive the ex factor.

KEY POINTS 

- Girl code hack in modern dating 

- Dating your girl friend’s ex? 

- Is girl code similar to “bro code”

- Girl code: Then vs Now

- Breaking girl code: Jealousy, materialism

- Celebrity influence via social media 

- Girl code – to ALL women or friends ONLY?

- Creating soul ties in relationships 

- Game segment on girl code violations 

- “Dear V and Monique, I've lost all my trust in women…”

QUOTES 

“Girl code only applies if it's your friend. If it's not your friend, then girl code doesn't apply.”

“I feel like women should be building healthy friendships with boundaries and morals and grace and compassion in your girl group.”

“Social media is just not a real place. It's fairy land, for sure, because you think you could be whoever you want to be.”

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Not all friendships are made equal—we’re here to break it down! In this episode, Vernika and Monique call out to the real ones and weed out the roster fillers. They get honest about who actually deserves a spot in your inner circle.

Who’s your 3 AM emergency call? Who’s the low-maintenance but always-loyal bestie? Not everyone makes the A-list. Some friends are just brunch buddies or once-a-month check-ins. And let’s be real—do D-list friends even count, or are they just acquaintances with VIP delusions?

Vernika and Monique spill the tea on Instagram “friends,” fake love, and social climbers who try to skip the line to bestie status. They set friendship goals for 2025—more intentional check-ins, better communication, and protecting their energy from the wrong people.

Tap in now for the ultimate friendship tier list—because not everyone deserves the exclusive!

KEY POINTS 

- The classification of friends into A-list and D-list 

- Some characteristics of A-list friends

- The role of B-list friends in life 

- Handling friendship invitations and exclusions   

- What is a girl code? Friendship expectations

- The importance of authenticity in social media 

- Vernika and Monique’s friendship resolutions 

QUOTES 

"D-list friend is given to me like a vampire. You suck in all my energy. You don't reciprocate my energy. You give bad vibes, and you just around for a good time."

"Girl code — it's a certain amount of loyalty and privacy. If you share something with me in confidentiality, it shouldn't leave the room."

"I feel like whenever girls, women say, ‘Oh, I'm a girl's girl’ - it's a tactic. Proceed with caution."

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Vernika and Monique are calling out the biggest double standards in friendships vs. relationships—why do we let men fumble the bag 47 times, but one mistake from our bestie and she’s canceled?!

They dive into the cycle of "relationship grace" and why intimacy can make it easier to forgive a man—but somehow, our homegirl gets zero room for error. What are the real rules of loyalty when it comes to balancing love and friendship?

With hilarious real-life scenarios, messy confessions, and unfiltered takes—they check their own biases, debate whether to end or evolve certain friendships, and wrap it all up with a convo on how to show up for your girls this 2025—because your bestie deserves just as much effort as that man!

Hit play for the funniest, realest, and most too-close-to-home episode yet.

KEY POINTS 

- Navigating forgiveness between men and women 

- The need for respect in relationships 

- Friendship standards vs dating standards 

- Boundaries 101: Calling a friend’s spouse? 

- The importance of handling difficult conversations 

- Making friendships the main priority in 2025 

- The pivotal role of showing up for your friends

QUOTES 

“The thing about what's different from a man and a friendship is the intimacy. Sometimes intimacy can cloud your your mindset, your judgment.”

“I feel like the person that likes you isn't going to bed without talking to you, or the man that likes you, he's not going to go all day without calling you.”

“Putting time into a friendship is very important, because the more time you put in, the more you understand your friends… I think it's important that we make that a priority in 2025.”

“With the forgiveness pattern, when it comes to our partners and our relationships, it's sort of biased, because, in our friendships, we have, a zero-tolerance policy.”

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“End or Evolve?” Not every friendship is built to last, but how do you know when it’s time to walk away? In this episode of Oh Hey Best Fren, Vernika and Monique get real about the difficult decisions when dealing at the fine line between salvaging a connection and accepting that some relationships are just done.

What ARE the red flags you need to look out for? From constant negativity and gossip to one-sided support and drama-filled interactions. Some friendships fade naturally, while others require a tough conversation or a firm boundary.

Tune in for a candid and laugh-out-loud discussion on navigating the crossroads of friendship—because sometimes, letting go is the best way to grow.

KEY POINTS 

- Friendship deal breakers: drama, gossiping, loyalty issues  

- The importance of open communication and boundaries 

- Recognizing the need for friendship evolution 

- Introduction to the "End or Evolve" game 

- The value of distance and time in rekindling relationships

- Posting about private disputes on social media? 

- The pivotal role of mutual respect in friendships

QUOTES 

“I don't associate myself with drama. And I feel like that is a deal breaker, because you can cause me to lose everything that I have worked hard for, and I don't want that to go down the drain, because I put in blood, sweat, and tears into becoming who I am today.”

“It's easy to walk away, but if it was somebody that was a good friend, and y'all got into a disagreement amongst each other, and things escalated, that's different.” 

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In today’s world, friendship isn’t just about who you talk to on the daily, it’s also about who hypes you up. But is social media warping the way we define friendships?

In this episode, Vernika and Monique get real, raw, and just a little petty about the blurred lines between true friends and social media acquaintances. They break down the fake love, the unspoken rules, and why not every "friend" is really rooting for you. Unpacking the rules of modern friendships and spilling their own tea, tune in as your Best Frens challenge you to rethink what it really means to be a best friend.

Hit play now and get into this hilarious, unfiltered conversation about what friendships really look like in the digital age.

KEY POINTS 

- Differentiating social media friends from real friends

- Key qualities that define a ‘true friend’ vs an ‘associate’

- The role of loyalty in maintaining strong friendships

- Navigating male friendships while in a committed relationship

- The importance of recognizing genuine support 

- The impact of social media on friendship dynamics

- The pivotal role of encouraging positive, collaborative friendships 

QUOTES 

"Social media is a fairyland. I don't take it seriously. I don't make it a part of my life for real."

"Collaboration over competition. Stop trying to compete with your friends. Two heads [are] better than one. Get together with your friends and put your heads together, baby, and we're about to make things shake this year."

"Love and loyalty, that's the key guys for a strong, successful friendship."

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