Okay, Actually

By Karen Doak

Okay, Actually is a show for people who are competent, well-resourced, and still somehow building the plane while flying it. Each episode is a direct conversation about the problems, decisions, struct... more

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The podcast currently has 7 episodes available.

Okay, Actually episodes:

June 11, 2026 Episode 7: The Wrong Hire Problem (with Jennifer D'Agostino)
Okay, Actually is a podcast for people who are working hard and starting to wonder if the problem is them. It's not.
Each episode, we dig into what's truly broken and figure out how to build a solution that can actually work.
In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer D'Agostino, a fractional HR executive and someone who has been handed more broken hiring processes than she can count. We're talking about where hiring actually goes wrong — which is almost always before the first resume arrives. The job description, the backfill bias, the hiring manager who's too busy to engage, the culture fit that's really just a clone request. Jennifer has seen all of it, and she's direct about what it costs.
00:00 Hiring Clarity Gap
00:54 Meet Jen D'Agostino
02:07 Root Causes Beyond Search
05:36 Fixing Job Descriptions
09:35 Stop Cloning Past Stars
12:13 Neutral Review Market Data
15:18 Engaged Hiring Managers Win
17:27 Bias Culture Add
21:58 Three Questions Before Posting
26:38 Wrap Up & Key Takeaways
About Jennifer: Jennifer D'Agostino is a fractional HR executive with more than 20 years of VP-level experience in corporate HR, most recently as VP of HR and Talent Management at RTI International. She now partners directly with small business CEOs and COOs through her own practice, helping growing companies attract, develop, and retain the right people — starting with an honest assessment of what they actually need.
Connect with Jennifer:
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Purpose HR
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29min
May 28, 2026Episode 6: Urgency Is a Feeling, Not a Fact
Okay, Actually is a podcast for people who are working hard and starting to wonder if the problem is them. It's not. In under 30 minutes, we dig into what's truly broken and figure out how to build a solution that can actually work.
In this episode, I get into urgency: what it actually does to your brain, why fake urgency is so hard to call out, and why fire drill culture costs you more than just your Tuesday afternoons. If you've ever hung up on a work call for an issue at home (or vice versa), this episode's for you.
00:00 A Daughter's Emergency
01:47 What Urgency Does
04:24 Bin Gate
05:32 Real vs Fake Urgency
07:56 Too Many Channels
10:09 Fire Drill Culture
13:44 Holidays Reveal Truth
15:11 Three Filtering Questions
17:10 Recalibrate Your Alarm
Three questions to ask before you respond to something "urgent:"
Whose urgency is this? Did I generate it, or did someone hand it to me? Is this actually mine to own?
What actually happens if I wait? Real urgency has a real answer. Manufactured urgency evaporates, resolves without you, or turns out to be someone else's anxiety.
Is this urgent, or is it just loud? Volume is not severity. The number of channels someone uses to reach you is not a measure of importance.

Referenced in this episode: The High Cost of Fake Urgency in the Workplace — Quartz, April 2026
Find me here:
OkayDoak.com
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19min
May 21, 2026 Episode 5: The Wrong Problem Hire (with Rachael Goldfarb)
Okay, Actually is a podcast for people who are working hard and starting to wonder if the problem is them. It's not.
Each episode, we dig into what's truly broken and figure out how to build a solution that can actually work.
In this episode, I'm joined by Rachael Goldfarb — adviser and former Chief of Staff — to talk about one of the most common ways organizations avoid solving a structural problem: they hire toward it. The Chief of Staff role gets used this way more than almost any other: not because the role isn't valuable, but because it's become the default answer to a question nobody asked out loud.
00:00 Officer of the Day
02:51 The Job Description Problem
10:19 Why This Role Specifically
15:15 The Workaround Problem
16:44 What to Ask Before You Hire
20:56 The AI Chief of Staff
About Rachael: Rachael Goldfarb is the co-founder of The Coul & Gold Group, an advisory services firm focused on leadership architecture for the C-Suite. They support senior executives, chiefs of staff, and teams to be as successful as possible through assessments, frameworks, operating systems, and deliberate design.
Find great resources and learn about how to work with The Coul & Gold Group at https://coulandgold.com/
Subscribe to their newsletter at: https://briefing.coulandgold.com/
Find me here:
OkayDoak.com
[email protected]
Get clear. Get sorted. Get going. Stay sane.
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30min
May 14, 2026Episode 4: Just Counting
Okay, Actually is a podcast for people who are working hard, still falling behind, and are starting to wonder if the problem is them. It's not.
Each episode — always under 25 minutes — we dig into what's truly broken and figure out how to build a solution that can actually work.
In this episode: vanity metrics aren't just a marketing problem — they're everywhere, and they're undermining your ability to diagnose anything accurately. We've spent the last few episodes on wrong diagnoses, ground truth, and friction. This one is about the data that feeds all of it. My husband Jeff says reporting without targets is just counting. After this episode, you'll know exactly what he means.
00:00 Hallmark Movie Obsession
03:18 Episode Setup Measurement
05:56 Failure Mode 1: Counting Without Targets
08:27 Failure Mode 2: The Vanity Number Trap
10:01 Failure Mode 3: Data Collected, Action Not Taken
14:55 Three Questions Filter
18:30 Fix Your Reports
The three-question filter — apply it before you send the next report:
Do you have a target? Not just a number — a number with a should be attached.
Do you have a benchmark? What does good look like relative to something whether it's last period, best in class, or your own stated goal?
Are you tracking a delta? Is anything changing, and do you know why (and do you know what you're going to do about it?)

If the answer is no to all three, you have a vanity metric. You're counting.
Find me here:
OkayDoak.com
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Get clear. Get sorted. Get going. Stay sane.
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20min
May 07, 2026Episode 3: Name That Friction!
Okay, Actually is a podcast for people who are working hard, still falling behind, and are starting to wonder if the problem is them. It's not.
Each episode — always under 25 minutes — we dig into what's truly broken and figure out how to build a solution that can actually work.
In this episode, I walk through what friction actually is, why you've probably stopped feeling it, and how to locate exactly where it lives — because a people problem solved with a process solution doesn't get fixed. Location matters.
00:00 Never Check Your Bags
04:11 When Friction Gets Normal
06:18 Acceptance vs Surrender
09:45 Five Ps Framework
18:21 Friction vs Ground Truth
21:42 Wrap Up and Connect
The Five Ps
People: is the friction coming from a person, a dynamic, or someone in the wrong role?
Process: is the friction built into how things are or have always been done?
Product: is the friction in the tool or system everyone's working around instead of through?
Place: is the friction in the environment itself?
Priorities: is the friction coming from direction that's unclear, contested, or unresolved?

Find me here:
OkayDoak.com
[email protected]
Get clear. Get sorted. Get going. Stay sane.
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23min
April 30, 2026Episode 2: How Do You Know That's Actually the Problem?
Okay, Actually is a podcast for people who are working hard, still falling behind, and are starting to wonder if the problem is them. It's not.
Each episode — always under 25 minutes — we dig into what's truly broken and figure out how to build a solution that can actually work.
In this episode, I walk through what ground truth is, why it's harder to find than it sounds, and four questions I use to test whether I've actually gotten there — or whether I'm just comfortable with where I've landed.
02:06 The Real Question
03:04 Defining Ground Truth
07:02 Four Ground Truth Tests
15:57 When Truth Feels Deflating
17:55 Apply It This Week
The four questions:
Does it change shape? Does your explanation about the problem change depending on who's asking?
Can you break it? Can you find the scenario where you're wrong?
Is this the source or the signal? If you solved this exact thing, would the underlying situation actually change?
Does it hold alone? Does this still feel true when no one's watching and nothing needs to sound good?

Find me here:
OkayDoak.com
[email protected]
Get clear. Get sorted. Get going. Stay sane.
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19min
April 23, 2026 Episode 1: You're Not Behind, You're Misdiagnosed.
Okay, Actually is a podcast for people who are working hard, still falling behind, and are starting to wonder if the problem is them. It's not.
Each episode we dig into what's truly broken, and figure out how to build a solution that can actually work.
The smartest women I know are drowning. They're overwhelmed, burnt out, and working incredibly hard. That last part is the tell: if effort isn't fixing it, you probably have the wrong diagnosis.
In this episode, I walk through a situation where I did everything right — hired a coach, read the articles, built the spreadsheets, tried harder — and still couldn't crack it. Because I kept treating a people problem like a systems problem. No system fixes that.
The question I want to leave you with: what problem are you working really hard on right now? And are you sure it's actually the problem?
Find me here:
OkayDoak.com
LinkedIn
[email protected]
Get clear. Get sorted. Get going. Stay sane.
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20min

FAQs about Okay, Actually:

How many episodes does Okay, Actually have?

The podcast currently has 7 episodes available.