OkayishAF Does Whatever She Wants

This week I talk about The Button Girl from Tiktok and the lessons that a simple comment about collecting 365 buttons can teach us. Including but not limited to keeping your feelings in your journal's and out of Black women's comment sections. There is also a reintroduction for the new folks after going viral on Instagram and TikTok (which is hell, actually).

In This Episode:

• The button girl, Tamara, and her brief but impactful hold on TikTok the first week of January

• Insights on how to behave on social media so you don't get cursed out

• Honest but firm reminders for white women in this moment

• I give you some no context nuanced statements for you to think about and yell at me about in the comment section

Check your voter registration: https://www.vote.org/

Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/okayishaf

365 Buttons Explained: https://www.forbes.com/sites/lesliekatz/2026/01/06/365-buttons-the-viral-tiktok-meme-inspiring-a-new-years-life-motto/

This week you get to see the angry OkayishAF. The side of me that my community affectionately calls "mother." The side of me that needs a hecking butt kicking in the same way I'm sure you do. We have work to do after the murder of Renee Nicole Good. And it's long, long over due. Black women warned us and we didn't listen. We're here now. This is what we can do next.

In This Episode:

• I rant at you, a lot

• I rant more

• I give you ways to move forward and use your energy for the collective good, not just for people who look like you

Be a bigger b*tch merch: https://okayishaf-shop.fourthwall.com/

Get involved: Democratic Socialists: https://www.dsausa.org/

Check your voter registration: https://www.vote.org/

Patreon to join: The White Woman Whisperer: https://www.whitewomanwhisperer.com/

Reading list: Racial Justice, Racial Equity, and Anti-Racism Reading List: https://www.hks.harvard.edu/faculty-research/library-research-services/collections/diversity-inclusion-belonging/anti-racist

Depressed While Black: https://www.depressedwhileblack.com/

This week, I spiral (in a fun way) through Cardi B’s Am I the Drama album. Then we pivot (hard) into the realities of surviving on $16 an hour in Florida, the mental toll of hustle culture, and why I’m done letting capitalism tell me what “success” looks like (and you should, too).

Somewhere in between, Diane Keaton dies, Ian Watkins gets what’s coming to him, and I get weirdly excited about Sky Cards.

We close with a big one: why mental health has to come first, and why the report feature on social media apps (especially Meta) are the last place you should go to help someone who is struggling with their mental health.

It’s messy. It’s honest. It’s very OkayishAF.

In This Episode:

• Cardi B’s Am I the Drama review (sort of)

• The nuance of celebrities

• Surviving on $16/hour in Florida and the quiet crisis no one wants to talk about

• “Sky Cards” and how chasing digital planes somehow became my serotonin fix

• Meta, mental health, and the total lack of empathy in corporate culture

• The weird comfort in being a little broke but deeply self-aware

Also Featuring:

• Diane Keaton (RIP, apparently?)

• Ian Watkins (rotting, thankfully)

Stuff I Talked About:

• Sky Cards App

• OkayishAF Patreon

• OkayishAF Twitch

Trigger Warning: Mentions of capitalism fatigue, workplace burnout, celebrity death, and general economic despair.

In the debut of OkayishAF Does Whatever She Wants, Laura kicks things off by mourning the legend Patricia Rutledge before immediately pivoting to roast Taylor Swift’s newest album for sounding like a Nick Jr remix pack with a heavy dash of racism.

She goes deep on celebrity worship, why billionaires shouldn’t exist, and why “mature” women probably shouldn’t still be writing songs that punch down on other women. Then it gets personal Laura reflects on surviving her suicide attempt ten years ago, the life she’s built since, and the weird beauty of letting go of perfectionism, potential, and parasocial bullshit.

Trigger Warning: Discussions of suicide, celebrity assault allegations, and general cynicism about pop culture.

In This Episode:

• Remembering Patricia Rutledge

• The Taylor Swift “Showgirl” album rant you didn’t know you needed

• The unholy trinity of celebrity stans, billionaires, and moral amnesia

• Synthwave for Palestine and actually supporting something worthwhile

• A decade of survival and finding the right community

Mentions & Links:

• Synthwave for Palestine on Bandcamp

• OkayishAF Patreon

• Chinese children dance: The Tortoise and the Hare

• Open Mike Eagle - Celebrity Reduction Prayer (prod. Oddisee)

• Garth Brooks is accused of rape and sexual assault in a lawsuit

• OkayishAF on Twitch

I’m Laura, your anxious-agoraphobic-social-badass host who got chewed up by corporate America and spat out into the creator world. This episode is your warning label: if you don’t support trans rights, Black women, or actual free speech, you won’t vibe here (but you can still hate-listen, I don’t mind).

Expect rants, politics, mental health talk, gaming nonsense, and probably too much about my current obsessions. Stick around… or don’t. I’m still doing whatever I want.