On the Other Side of Momming. Because there's more to this #MomLife

CONTENT WARNING: As you listen to this episode, there is mention of suicide, depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. Please take care as you listen to this episode. I have provided resources if you or someone you know is experiencing a crisis. Please know that you're not alone and there is help.

In today's episode, I sit down with my best friend and law partner, Jam, to talk about how our mental health has been affected since becoming mothers. Let's face it —ish gets real after the kids come into play. As moms, we are constantly on the go that we can never seem to find a moment to ourselves just to breathe and relax. Together, Jam and I share our stories on how we are both navigating our mental peace. Because at the end day, we must protect it at all costs to show for our children and ourselves.

Jamila Young is a health equity advocate, a dreamer, a public speaker, and a lifelong believer in giving back to others. She is a partner and co-owner at Moore and Young Legal Solutions, a professor at Georgia State University, and a program coordinator for the Wellstar Ethics program. Prior to her current roles, she served for several years in the fields of health policy and health advocacy working in local, statewide, and federal positions. She enjoys pouring into others to motivate and inspire them to live their best life physically and mentally.

Jamila is a native of Albany, Georgia, and received her B.A. in English from Kennesaw State University, her JD from the Florida Agricultural and Mechanical University School of Law, and her LL.M in Health Law and Policy from Hofstra University. Outside of work, she has served in multiple volunteer capacities as a Board member at Feminist Women's Health Center, the 2019-2021 president of Kennesaw State University Black Alumni Society, and currently as the immediate past president, a member of the North Suburban Atlanta Chapter of Jack and Jill of America, Inc.,  a 2021 New Leaders Council Fellow, and a 2019 Young Gamechargers fellow. Jamila is an advocate in the field of DEI, autism, and maternal mortality. She is a proud mother of one amazing son, Tre.

You can connect with Jamila on Instagram at drhealthsquire229.

And remember if you are experiencing a mental health crisis, know that you are NOT alone. Call the Suicide Prevention and Helpline at 988. If you're looking for a therapist, you can reach out to these organizations:

National Alliance on Mental Illness

Better Help

Therapy for Black Girls

Most of how a person learns to parent come from how they were parented. So, it is no surprise the things we may have disliked the most growing up we find ourselves repeating when it comes to our children. And the same can be said regarding the things we love, about our parents. But the reality is they didn't always get it right. And unfortunately, parenting doesn't come with a guide. No matter how many books are written on the topic, parenting is something you learn on the go.

In today's episode, I sit down with my good sis, Maisha Oso, and talk about what are some of the things she is unlearning on her journey as a mother. We both discovered from our conversation that real change starts from within. We even touch a bit on the mommy comparison factor that comes into play with how we may show up. Because these Pinterest and IG moms can make it look so easy. Take a listen as we go on the other side of unlearning as a mom and facing our trauma. 

About today's guest

Maisha Oso is the author of BUSTER THE BULLY, Welbeck Kids 2021, and the forthcoming picture books, MY HAIR IS A BOOK, Harper Collins 2024, and BEFORE THE SHIPS, Scholastic 2024.  She writes stories to empower, entertain, and encourage emotional intelligence in young children.  A former strategy & analytics professional from New York City, Maisha is currently working in her most challenging role to date:  a stay-at-home mom of three tiny humans.

When she’s not writing, you can find her wrangling her kids, binge-watching an unhealthy amount of reality television, or belting out lyrics from the Hamilton soundtrack.  After living abroad for several years in Africa, Maisha and her family have recently moved back stateside to Alpharetta, Georgia. Connect with Maisha on social at:

twitter.com/maishawrites

instagram.com/maishawrites

When we decide to become mothers, it is easy to get lost in the day-to-day of raising our family, working, and doing all the things. Before we know it, we have lost sight of the things that bring us joy. Most moms spend a lot of time trying to relive the days before we had the tiny humans. Hoping that we will find our groove again. Only to discover that those things that used to give us life no longer do. What does that mean? 

In this episode, Ebony Lynn Mudd shares with us how to find joy in our motherhood. And y'all, there's level to this thing! 

Ebony Lynn Mudd writes picture books and novels for underrepresented kids who don’t see themselves portrayed positively in the media—she is represented by Erin Murphy of Erin Murphy Literary Agency.  

She spends her time fighting fiercely against inequalities, toxic masculinity, and gender stereotypes. As a former professional dancer and current owner of a tuition-free dance company, she is a bridge for underprivileged kids that hope to work in the arts. She’s energized by the creative freedom that choreographing moves to music gives her and often compares it to creating stories on a blank page. 

Her other interests include all-you-can-eat sushi, quoting Phoebe from the T.V. show FRIENDS, and eating anything edible that she didn’t have to cook. She is a member of the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators, a member of the admin team for Black Creators HQ, a co-founder of the PB Rising Stars Mentorship Program, and she’s launching her own writing courses in October 2022.

You can learn more about her courses for writers on her website at www.ebonylynnmudd.com. Also, make sure to find her social media at Ebony Lynn Mudd. 

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Today we are getting into self-care as mothers. What does that look like for you? Does it involve being able to use the bathroom on your own or going out for a night on the town? Whatever it looks like for you, we can all agree there is not enough time in the day to fit our needs. But we have to if we are to be any good to ourselves. So the question is, how do you self-care?

Also, you will hear my dogs barking in the background today because they're not loyal! 

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Welcome to the first episode of ON THE OTHER SIDE OF MOMMING WITH TANISIA MOORE. BECAUSE THERE'S MORE TO THIS #MOMLIFE.    In this episode, I introduce myself, and you will notice that I'm not on a fancy set. Nope! I had to record in my car, parked outside of one of  Publix. Yup. That's mom life for you. As I shared in this episode, it was vital for me to get this podcast off the ground. And baby, it ain't cute, but it's done. That is what matters the most. Oftentimes, as moms,  we have to put our dreams on hold until the kids leave the house.  

I look forward to doing this journey with y'all!   Let's stay connected! 

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