One Hard Thing

Our aim, it is said, actually organizes perception. We see the world as either a set of helps or hindrances to where we want to go. This isn't selfish, and it's not bad, but it is worth knowing. If we are starting to objectify people, then it is probably time to examine our aim, rather than wishing they would just change to suit our agenda.

Figuring this out both as an individual, and even more importantly, as inclusive teams, will really help when tensions surface. The tensions are informing us that different aims are duking it out. That's okay, and we just need to talk about the goals as objects, and let the people remain the valuable and irreplaceable humans we all are.

Here's the link to the lecture clip I mention. (Thank you, Dr. Peterson! Very helpful explanation for me!):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UTMsI5KfIvU

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It's always challenging to find aspects of problems we can control, and therefore use to our advantage. Time is most often viewed as a constraint rather than an opportunity. Let's question our definition of what must be done, and by what time...maybe there is more room in our lives than we think...?

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We all have limits, but we are often lacking in modelling as to how to deal with them without shame or denial. How we think about our own need for help or our own lack of adequate resources directly relates to how we truly rate others.  Strength does not determine worth. This is hard to remember with all the "gym posters" in the world.

There are lots of resources on "play personalities" out there. Here's a good one:
https://www.nifplay.org/what-is-play/play-personalities/

Leah Kuypers is the author of The Zones of Regulation (2021). You can check into this resource here:
https://zonesofregulation.com/index.html

or at socialthinking.com, here:
https://www.socialthinking.com/Search%20Results#q=zones%20of%20regulation

There is a great resource on shifting from competitive to collaborative leadership by Linda Kohanov, called The Power of the Herd (2015) available from amazon.ca. I highly recommend this very thought-provoking approach to non-predatory intelligence and leadership.
https://www.amazon.ca/Power-Herd-Nonpredatory-Intelligence-Leadership/dp/1608683710/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=Cj0KCQjwmuiTBhDoARIsAPiv6L9jN7_aglc6LseCrGVwfwtCrmY2VAR-vomDmj757l_c7viS249MQf0aAtb6EALw_wcB&hvadid=208352290715&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9001239&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=4113931668062766734&hvtargid=kwd-312462294841&hydadcr=22431_9261611&keywords=power+of+the+herd&qid=1652226480&sr=8-1

Also, apologies to all the inclusive, encouraging, and supportive gym teachers (and gym posters) out there. I was particularly scarred by a genre that is hopefully on its way out, or at least is now part of a more diverse group of "motivational images!"

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We can really quickly make a joyful moment heavy with the weight of our wishes, hopes, dreams, and desires. Let's spend the time it takes really looking at what we want and then choosing one hard thing to work on at a time. Let's allow children that same grace as well. Keep your backpack manageable. Let yourself enjoy today.

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Complexity in inclusive settings often is a result of longstanding problems that haven't been resolved or even fully acknowledged. Starting to approach solutions with gentleness and respect for all the "threads" that have become tangled together is going to be way more productive and less traumatic than using lots of force (even enthusiastic, happy force!). This episode is a toast to the restrained and quiet power of the truly skilled people who can be gentle.

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Children are not abstract; not general phenomena, and definitely not "normal." Neither are any of us who care for them. In thinking about complex issues it is helpful to be very clear on the individual, specific, uniqueness of each child, in their particular context. We are all heroes of our own story, and creating space for these stories, and how they overlap or interweave, is crucial if we are to humanely and sustainably help.

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This podcast is for those of us trying hard to include all kids, everywhere. If you're passionate, but maybe a little tired, this podcast may be encouraging. Welcome, and enjoy.

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