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  • Oneself - Episode 22: The Gratitude Frequency

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman explore the themes of perspective, gratitude, and the duality of internal and external experiences. They discuss how changing locations does not resolve internal struggles, the importance of inspiration from one's environment, and the nature of attachment to past experiences. The dialogue emphasizes the uniqueness of individual journeys, the significance of surrendering to the moment, and the role of guidance and intuition in navigating life's challenges. They also touch on the importance of creating conditions for success, finding gratitude in every situation, and connecting with both past and future selves to gain insight. Ultimately, the conversation highlights the paradoxes of life and the necessity of embracing both highs and lows for personal growth.

    Takeaways:

    • Changing location doesn't fix internal issues.
    • Inspiration is tied to environment and community.
    • Attachment to past experiences can create suffering.
    • The pathless path is unique for everyone.
    • Surrendering to the moment allows for guidance.
    • We are never off our path; it's all perspective.
    • Creating conditions for success requires action.
    • Finding gratitude in every situation is essential.
    • Connecting with past selves can provide insight.
    • Embracing the paradox of life leads to peace.


    Chapters:

    00:00 The Duality of Internal and External Perspectives
    04:01 Lessons in Attachment and Perspective
    06:45 The Pathless Path: Embracing Individual Journeys
    10:59 Surrendering to Guidance and Creative Flow
    15:28 The Balance of Action and Surrender
    19:26 Creating Conditions for Momentum in Life
    23:40 Letting Go of Expectations and Embracing Change
    27:40 Embracing Gratitude in Daily Life
    29:20 The Importance of Surrender and Rest
    31:03 Connecting with Our Past and Future Selves
    34:31 The Role of Meditation in Self-Discovery
    38:15 Finding Balance Between Action and Being
    41:47 Understanding Paradox and Duality in Life
    47:36 The Journey of Acceptance and Presence

    51 min
  • Oneself - Episode 21 - A Hug with Death

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman explore the often-taboo subject of death, discussing its cultural implications, personal experiences, and the importance of embracing mortality. They reflect on how different societies view death, the role of emergency services in confronting it, and the profound insights gained from near-death experiences. The discussion emphasizes the need for open conversations about death, the significance of grief, and the value of community support in processing loss. Ultimately, they advocate for a healthier relationship with death as a means to enrich life and foster deeper connections with loved ones.


    Takeaways

    • Death serves as a reminder to live in the moment.
    • Different cultures have varied perspectives on death.
    • Emergency services professionals often confront death regularly.
    • Near-death experiences often reveal feelings of love and peace.
    • Grief is a natural process that should be shared in community.
    • Our society often treats death as a taboo subject.
    • Talking about death can help alleviate fear and anxiety.
    • Cultural practices around death can provide healthier coping mechanisms.
    • The fear of death can lead to unhealthy obsessions with longevity.
    • Accepting death can lead to a more fulfilling life.

    Chapters

    00:00
    Embracing the Conversation on Death

    03:16
    Cultural Perspectives on Death

    06:11
    Personal Experiences with Death

    09:24
    Near-Death Experiences and Love

    12:18
    The Fear of Death in Society

    15:15
    Death as a Natural Process

    18:06
    Cultural Differences in Death Practices

    21:12
    The Taboo of Death in Western Society

    24:22
    Finding Peace in the Conversation about Death

    29:43
    Understanding Death and Grief

    36:06
    The Importance of Presence and Connection

    38:22
    Cultural Perspectives on Grief

    45:03
    Reconnecting with Indigenous Wisdom

    52:58
    Empowerment Through Awareness


    56 min
  • Oneself - Episode 20 - Between Two Earths

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman explore the concept of 'Two Earths' in human consciousness, discussing the split between those focused on external advancements and those seeking inner healing. They delve into the implications of technology, personal health experiences, and the awakening process, emphasizing the importance of community and self-awareness. The discussion also touches on the illusion of separation consciousness and concludes with reflections on safety and the nature of existence.


    Takeaways:

    • There are two distinct paths in human consciousness: one focused on external advancements and the other on inner healing.
    • Living in harmony with the earth is essential for true well-being.
    • Technology and AI can either enhance or detract from our human experience.
    • Personal health experiences can lead to significant awakenings and questioning of societal norms.
    • Awakening often occurs when individuals confront personal challenges or traumas.
    • Separation consciousness is an illusion; we are all interconnected.
    • Our safety and well-being come from within, not from external sources.
    • The journey of awakening is unique for each individual and can be catalyzed by various experiences.
    • Understanding the nature of existence can alleviate the fear of death.
    • We have the power to shape our reality through our beliefs and choices.


    Chapters

    00:00
    Introduction to the Two Earths Concept

    06:12
    The Role of Technology and Modern Society

    12:14
    Awakening to the Illusion

    18:05
    The Journey of Self-Discovery

    24:14
    The Role of AI and Technology in Modern Life

    30:17
    Reality and Truth: Navigating the Digital Landscape

    36:27
    Technology and Plant Medicines: Tools for Awakening

    42:18
    Creating Our Reality: The Power of Belief

    49:15
    Separation Consciousness: Understanding Our Illusion of Self

    56:24
    Closing Thoughts: Safety and Support in Our Journey


    1 hr
  • Oneself - Episode 19 - Find the Others: Alex Nelson

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher, Adam Bartleman, and Alex Nelson delve into the themes of masculinity, community, and healing. Alex shares insights from his book 'Restoring the Divine Masculine,' discussing the importance of accountability, the impact of narcissism, and the necessity of establishing boundaries. The dialogue emphasizes the need for emotional awareness and the connection between spirituality and psychology, advocating for a compassionate approach to healing generational trauma and fostering a supportive community.

    Alex Nelson is the first guest of our Find the Others series, where we find cool people around the world doing good work for the betterment of humanity.

    Alex is a New Earth leader dedicated to healing the world one person at a time and creating environmentally sustainable off-grid villages. Alex is the founder of ascend pathway.org - an online spiritual community that encourages personal growth and healing.

    Alex has seen the decline of vibrational status amongst the collective masculine negatively affecting the collective feminine and is taking action to reverse the damage done and once again restore our humankind to balance.

    Other Links:
    Skool.com/ascendpathway
    Alex's Book on amazon: https://a.co/d/5fQdL3l


    Takeaways:

    • The Divine Masculine is about healing and accountability.
    • Community is essential for personal and collective growth.
    • Narcissism is a learned behavior, often stemming from trauma.
    • Establishing boundaries is crucial for self-respect.
    • Emotional awareness is key to healing and understanding oneself.
    • Spirituality and psychology are interconnected in our healing journey.
    • Generational trauma can affect our emotional health and relationships.
    • Compassion towards others, including narcissists, is important.
    • We can create a new Earth by supporting each other.
    • Healing requires introspection and a willingness to change.


    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to Restoring the Divine Masculine
    03:06 The Importance of Community and Accountability
    05:21 Understanding the Mask of Masculinity
    08:17 The Rising Fall of Man
    09:19 Narcissism and Its Impact on Society
    13:56 Compassion Towards Narcissism
    20:24 Establishing Healthy Boundaries
    27:26 The Importance of Ongoing Consent
    29:09 Understanding Nervous Systems in Relationships
    30:08 Defining Healthy Masculinity
    34:09 The Impact of Toxic Masculinity
    37:00 The Role of Women in Masculine Identity
    39:02 Ego and Narcissism
    44:08 Integrating Psychology and Spirituality
    47:11 The Dangers of Pharmaceutical Solutions
    50:09 Generational Trauma and Emotional Responsibility


    56 min
  • Oneself - Episode 18 - Letting Go of Fear, Moving Into Love

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartiman delve into the concept of fear, exploring its roots in childhood experiences and societal conditioning. They discuss how fear manifests in various aspects of life, including performance anxiety and the fear of death. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of love as an antidote to fear and the necessity of self-discovery and authenticity in overcoming these fears. They also touch on the role of regret and the societal mechanisms that perpetuate fear, ultimately advocating for a journey of personal growth and awareness.


    Takeaways:

    • Fear often stems from childhood experiences and societal conditioning.
    • Living authentically can reduce fear and anxiety.
    • Love is the antidote to fear.
    • Regret can drive us to live more fully in the present.
    • Fear is often an illusion created by separation consciousness.
    • Acknowledging and processing fear is essential for growth.
    • Death can serve as a motivator to live fully.
    • Societal norms often perpetuate fear and control.
    • Self-discovery is a journey that requires facing fears.
    • We are all interconnected, and fear is a shared human experience.


    Chapters:

    00:00
    Exploring the Roots of Fear

    06:03
    Understanding Fear and Acceptance

    12:06
    The Illusion of Separation and Fear

    18:22
    Dissolving Fear Through Self-Awareness

    24:09
    Embracing Life Beyond Fear

    31:04
    The Illusion of Control: Society's Fear of Death

    36:15
    Regret and the Fear of Not Living Fully

    44:15
    Acknowledging and Processing Fear

    49:10
    Rediscovering the Child Within: Love Over Fear


    54 min
  • Oneself - Episode 17 - It's a Question of Priorities

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman explore the misalignment of priorities in society and the individual. They discuss the importance of focusing on essential needs such as food, housing, and healthcare, while also emphasizing the significance of spiritual development. The dialogue highlights the fragility of societal systems, the necessity of community, and the dangers of corporate greed. They advocate for self-sufficiency, bartering, and collective action as means to create a better world, ultimately stressing that no one is coming to save us, and it is up to individuals and communities to take responsibility for their lives and environments.


    Takeaways:

    • People's priorities are often misaligned with what truly matters.
    • Spiritual development should be a core priority for individuals.
    • Community support is essential for resilience and well-being.
    • Dependency on systems can lead to vulnerability during crises.
    • Bartering and self-sufficiency can empower communities.
    • Corporate greed often prioritizes profit over people.
    • Awareness of societal issues is crucial for change.
    • Recognizing interdependence can foster stronger communities.
    • Building a better world requires collective action and responsibility.
    • The fragility of society calls for proactive measures and community engagement.

    Chapters:

    00:00
    Setting the Stage: Priorities in Society

    03:24
    Macro vs. Micro: Individual and Societal Priorities

    06:20
    Spiritual Development: The True Priority

    09:07
    Navigating Spirituality: Awareness and Hypocrisy

    11:47
    Community Over Individualism: The Importance of Connection

    14:41
    Breaking Dependency: Building Sustainable Communities

    18:01
    The Fragility of Society: Lessons from Disasters

    20:49
    Bartering and Self-Sufficiency: A Return to Community

    23:45
    Profit Over People: The Corporate Mindset

    26:29
    Awakening to Reality: No One is Coming to Save Us

    29:51
    The Illusion of Self-Sufficiency: Recognizing Community Needs

    32:30
    The Role of Awareness: Shifting Priorities

    35:43
    The Cost of Convenience: A Call for Change

    38:35
    The Need for Collective Action: Building a Better Future

    41:41
    Embracing Community: The Path Forward

    44:31
    Closing Thoughts: The Power of Community


    53 min
  • Oneself - Episode 16 - Collective Growth Leads to Rapid Change on a Large Scale

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman explore the themes of rapid change, survival mode, and the importance of personal responsibility in fostering collective growth. They discuss the role of political figures as catalysts for societal change, the prevalence of narcissism, and the impact of addiction on self-awareness. The dialogue emphasizes the need for individuals to take accountability for their actions and choices, recognizing that true sovereignty comes from within. The conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own contributions to societal issues and the importance of breaking the cycle of trauma for a better future.


    Takeaways:

    • We are just two individuals discussing rapid change in society.
    • Survival mode affects people's ability to think critically.
    • Political figures can serve as catalysts for societal change.
    • Personal responsibility is crucial for individual and collective growth.
    • Narcissism is prevalent in our society and affects our perspectives.
    • Addiction reflects a deeper issue of self-absorption.
    • Distractions lower our vibration and disconnect us from our true selves.
    • Sovereignty is about personal choices and awareness.
    • Breaking the cycle of trauma requires individual accountability.
    • Collective change starts with individual responsibility.

    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to Rapid Change
    02:47 Understanding Survival Mode and Societal Control
    05:53 The Role of Political Figures in Societal Change
    08:58 Personal Responsibility and Collective Impact
    11:56 The Narcissistic Society and Individual Growth
    15:05 Addiction and Self-Absorption
    17:59 Awareness as the True Currency
    21:07 Distractions and the Fight for Consciousness
    23:59 Patterns of Behavior and Spiritual Growth
    32:16 Historical Context of Disempowerment
    34:50 The Role of Fear in Perception
    36:27 Personal Responsibility and Collective Change
    39:12 Breaking the Cycle of Victimhood
    42:33 Sovereignty and Individual Choices
    46:12 The Impact of Personal Choices on Family Dynamics

    55 min
  • Oneself - Episode 15 - Raised to Drink, Learning to Feel

    Summary:

    In this episode, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman discuss the profound impact of alcohol on their lives and society. They share personal anecdotes about family histories of alcoholism, the cultural norms surrounding drinking, and the connection between masculinity and alcohol use. The conversation delves into the cycle of addiction, the dangers of alcohol, and the importance of breaking free from these patterns. They emphasize the need for awareness and personal growth, highlighting that life can be more fulfilling without alcohol. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to reflect on their relationship with alcohol and consider healthier alternatives.

    Takeaways:

    • Alcohol has a deep cultural impact on families.
    • Masculinity is often tied to alcohol consumption.
    • Trauma can lead to addiction as a coping mechanism.
    • Younger generations are drinking less than before.
    • Alcohol can lead to violence and dangerous situations.
    • Breaking the cycle of addiction takes courage and awareness.
    • Sobriety can lead to more authentic relationships.
    • Society often normalizes unhealthy drinking habits.
    • Awareness of addiction can lead to personal growth.
    • Life can be more fulfilling without alcohol.

    Chapters:

    00:00
    Introduction to Alcohol's Impact

    06:11
    Masculinity and Alcohol Consumption

    12:16
    The Consequences of Drinking

    18:21
    The Role of Trauma in Addiction

    24:22
    The Dangers of Alcohol in Society

    30:15
    Conclusion and Reflection

    38:07
    The Illusion of Fun and Connection

    47:01
    Societal Control Through Alcohol

    57:29
    Awakening to a New Reality


    1 hr 4 min
  • Oneself - Episode 14 - Part 2: Involuntarily Celibate: The Human Need Beneath the Hate

    Summary:

    In this episode, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman explore the complex roots of incel culture, discussing the societal issues that contribute to the victim mentality and dehumanization of others. They emphasize the importance of vulnerability, community, and self-reflection in overcoming toxic masculinity and fostering a healthier society. The conversation highlights the need for personal growth and collective responsibility in addressing these deep-seated issues.

    Takeaways:

    • Incel culture stems from deep-rooted societal issues.
    • Dehumanization leads to violence and perpetuates cycles of anger.
    • Victim mentality can hinder personal growth and healing.
    • Media plays a significant role in shaping perceptions of masculinity.
    • Personal trauma influences behavior and worldview.
    • Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.
    • Community support is essential for healing.
    • Toxic masculinity harms both men and women.
    • Self-reflection is crucial for personal development.
    • Collective responsibility is needed to address societal issues.


    Chapters

    00:00
    Exploring the Roots of Incel Culture

    06:10
    Understanding Violence and Its Triggers

    09:28
    The Cycle of Victim Mentality

    12:07
    The Role of Media in Shaping Perspectives

    15:21
    Personal Responsibility in Cultural Narratives

    18:12
    The Importance of Empathy and Connection

    21:25
    Shifting Perspectives from Victimhood to Gratitude

    27:19
    The Burden of Victimhood

    28:19
    Trauma and Its Impact on Worldview

    30:12
    Cultural Conditioning and Masculinity

    32:04
    The Shadows of Unprocessed Trauma

    34:24
    The Importance of Vulnerability

    36:17
    Community and Connection

    38:18
    The Role of Ego in Masculinity

    40:07
    Deconstructing the Alpha Male Archetype

    42:12
    Power Dynamics in Masculinity

    44:20
    The Need for Internal Work

    46:15
    Finding Blind Spots

    48:28
    The Importance of Breath and Awareness

    50:21
    Taking Action for Change


    56 min
  • Oneself - Episode 13 - Involuntarily Celibate: The Human Need Beneath the Hate

    Summary:

    In this conversation, Stephen Maher and Adam Bartleman delve into the complex topic of incels, exploring the psychological and societal factors that contribute to this phenomenon. They discuss personal experiences, the impact of pornography on male entitlement, and the importance of self-improvement and community support. The dialogue emphasizes the need for empathy, understanding trauma, and recognizing the cycle of addiction. Ultimately, they advocate for personal growth as a means to create positive change in society, highlighting the ripple effect of individual actions on the collective.


    Takeaways:

    • Incels represent a complex and nuanced issue in society.
    • Men often feel entitled to women's bodies, leading to frustration and anger.
    • The impact of pornography can create unrealistic expectations for men.
    • Self-improvement is essential for personal growth and societal change.
    • Trauma is subjective and can affect individuals differently.
    • Addiction manifests in various forms beyond substance abuse.
    • Community support is crucial for healing and growth.
    • Loneliness can be a significant barrier to personal development.
    • Personal growth requires conscious effort and commitment.
    • Positive change starts with individual actions and mindset.


    Chapters:

    00:00
    Introduction to Incels and Their Impact

    01:36
    Personal Experiences with Incels

    09:13
    The Connection Between Pornography and Incels

    11:02
    The Role of Self-Improvement

    17:11
    Understanding Addiction and Its Effects

    22:57
    Empathy and Responsibility in Addressing Issues

    28:04
    The Importance of Community and Support

    29:50
    The Impact of Technology on Society

    30:46
    Empathy for the Younger Generation

    31:54
    Navigating Loneliness on the Path to Awakening

    33:52
    Choosing Self over Social Norms

    36:07
    The Challenge of Personal Growth

    39:08
    The Importance of Evolving Consciousness

    42:46
    Privilege and Responsibility

    45:31
    The Power of Individual Change

    49:14
    Mindset and the Heart's Connection

    52:44
    The Only Game in Town: Personal Work for Global Change

    56:43
    The Ripple Effect of Individual Actions


    59 min

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Oneself is a podcast about questioning the stories we've inherited, and figuring out who we are underneath them. Hosted by Stephen Maher, the show explores how we come to understand who we are,…