Get ready, because we’re rolling out the rhinestone carpet! Our guest today is none other than the legendary Melinda Ryder—a Kansas City drag icon who’s been dazzling audiences for over 50 fabulous years. With pageant crowns dating back to 1979 and a reputation as the ultimate “hostess with the mostest,” Melinda has directed shows at nearly every gay nightclub in Kansas City and helped mentor generations of rising queens along the way.

Known for her sky-high lashes, jaw-dropping sequins, and a heart just as big as her stage presence, Melinda is also a true philanthropic powerhouse. Over the years, she’s raised thousands of dollars for local organizations and individuals through benefit shows and fundraisers. These days, she calls Hamburger Mary’s KC home, where she brings the sparkle every Thursday night as the emcee of Charity Drag Bingo—supporting a different nonprofit each week.

Melinda is married to her stylist-husband, Kirk Nelson, a talented makeup artist and creative partner who helps bring many of her unforgettable looks to life. And in 2025, her legacy takes center stage in a major museum exhibition celebrating five decades of drag excellence, community impact, and fearless self-expression. Featuring stunning costumes, images, and memorabilia, the exhibit honors not just Melinda’s iconic career, but her lifelong dedication to art, advocacy, and giving back.

So buckle up—because when Melinda Ryder arrives, she always leaves a star. ✨

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