​​Opening up a relationship can be a very fulfilling and exciting choice for a couple. In this instance, our listener and their partner opened up their marriage sexually but agreed to draw a boundary: no catching feelings. Still, her spouse fell in love with someone else and it nearly ended in a divorce. How should they build their relationship back after major trust was lost?

Our guest Zachary Zane is on IG and Twitter as @zacharyzane_ and you can read the ‘BOYSLUT’ zine on Substack and read his Navigating Non-Monogamy column on Cosmo. Pick up your copy of ‘Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto’ on Amazon. He mentioned the book ‘Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy’ by Jessica Fern. 

Follow Mia Lardiere and Maxwell Losgar on Instagram: @mialardiere and @maxwelllosgar. 

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