Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Perry joined Jay Shetty in their first ever virtual book tour event for the recently released book they co-authored, What Happened to You? We talk about how they are redefining childhood trauma, why experiences at a young age mold our adult life, and finding rhythm and balance to start healing yourself.

Oprah is an accomplished author, talk show host, actress, producer and philanthropist. Dr. Bruce Perry is a neuroscientist and psychiatrist, currently the senior fellow of the Child Trauma Academy in Houston, Texas and today, we will find out “What happened to you”

What We Discuss with Oprah and Dr. Perry:
00:00 Intro
02:24 Meeting Dr. Bruce Perry and the journey towards understanding “What Happened to You”
05:57 Commonly misunderstood concept about trauma
09:06 Going beyond success to heal your trauma
11:05 The younger the children, the more influence you have on who they become
12:24 Oprah on Fast Five
19:05 Switch from “What is wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
24:13 Life-long study on child trauma and how it started
27:52 The connection between childhood experience and adulthood
32:53 What should parents do differently to express love to their children?
41:27 Finding the time to create a rhythm and balance
46:24 Misconceptions about the stress response system that leads to trauma
50:14 Neglect is as toxic as trauma
53:26 Reaching an understanding so can process your pain and anger
01:06:39 The difference between coping and healing

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How do you identify when you're restricting your desires in a relationship?
How can couples work together to align their desires and ensure mutual fulfillment?
Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is a co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and the president of Impact Theory, a digital media company aimed at empowering content. With a strong focus on developing content that speaks to personal growth and empowerment, especially for women, Lisa has been a pivotal figure in shifting paradigms within her industry. Her show, "Women of Impact," addresses issues facing modern women, combining personal anecdotes with actionable advice.
The core theme of this conversation is outlining a roadmap for individuals seeking to overcome insecurities and cultivate a resilient, action-oriented confidence. Jay and Lisa discuss the common misconceptions around confidence, emphasizing that it is not a prerequisite for action but a result of engaging with the world despite fears and doubts.
Lisa shares how her initial need for external validation was a significant barrier to personal growth, sharing transformative moments that reshaped her understanding of confidence and self-worth. She stresses the importance of embracing imperfection and vulnerability as catalysts for genuine self-improvement and empowerment.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to start building confidence
How to validate yourself
How to prioritize personal growth
How to handle fear of judgment
How to transform relationships
Together, let's continue to  question the preconceived notions about success and happiness and to take bold steps towards a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:32 How Do You Define Confidence?
06:54 Believe You’re Capable
09:54 Admitting That You’re Unhappy
16:13 The Frame of Reference
19:36 Everything Is A Risk
27:42 Non-Negotiables in Relationships
34:41 Conversations That Don’t Break Relationships
41:30 Who Leads, Who Follows
49:26 Conflicting Value System
54:57 Don’t Assume, Find a Compromise
59:21 Growth Mindset With Your Partner
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Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life
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Why You Are Restricting Your Desires in Your Relationship & How to Stop Blocking Yourself from the Happiness You Deserve with Lisa Bilyeu

Does timing really matter in whether a relationship works?
What are healthy ways to deal with a breakup?
Today, let’s welcome back dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew is also a YouTube personality and writer known for offering advice on dating, love, and relationships to both men and women through his online content, seminars, and his book "Get The Guy." His approach typically combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and a bit of psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.
Matthew shares his insights on the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the importance of honest communication. He emphasizes on the significance of creating a peaceful relationship, distinguishing it from a boring one, and the value of embracing vulnerabilities to foster deeper connections. Matthew's reflections on his own experiences, coupled with his expertise, provide a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness. 
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to cultivate peaceful relationships without boredom
How to deepen connections through vulnerability
How to navigate modern dating with confidence
How to enhance relationships with effective communication
How to enrich love life through self-awareness
Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?
10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?
19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?
31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards
39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness
51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations
01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings
01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?
01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak
01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    
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Matthew Hussey | TikTok
Matthew Hussey | Instagram
Matthew Hussey | YouTube
Matthew Hussey | Twitter
Matthew Hussey | Facebook
Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What)
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Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

How do you know when you're overthinking too much?
How can you break the cycle of overthinking?
Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to use over thinking for problem-solving
How to manage alarmed responses
How to use physical movement for mental clarity
How to focus on positives and small wins
Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?
07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking
10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach
14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion
18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed
19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck
20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins
22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress
24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 
Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 
Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.
Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.
In this interview, you’ll learn:
How to overcome fear
How to maintain balance in a hectic life
How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities
Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
08:35 Practicing Buddhism
13:49 The Lotus Sutra
20:16 The 8 Wins
26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five
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Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?
Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?
In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 
In this episode you’ll learn:
How to recognize emotional investment
How to assess emotional security
How to consider financial implications
How to navigate emotional intimacy
This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:10 When to End Your Relationship
04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship
12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship
18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind
24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Perry ON: Healing From Childhood Trauma And Becoming Self Aware, Confident Adults

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