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Have you ever had a decision that needed to be made and you struggled longer that you should have or maybe delayed it?  Yeah, me too...

At some point in life, every one of us hears an invisible voice say:

“Alright. Enough talking. Put on your Big Boy Pants.”

Join Dave for some Grown Up talk about:

• LIFE EVENTUALLY REMOVES THE TRAINING WHEELS
• WE DON'T REALLY HATE DECISIONS. WE HATE UNCERTAINTY.
• AND THEN THERE'S DRAMA
• SOME PEOPLE DON'T WANT RESOLUTION
• THE DRAMA INFLATION CYCLE
• RUMINATION FEELS PRODUCTIVE BECAUSE YOUR BRAIN IS BUSY
• THE HELICOPTER PARENT PROBLEM
• HELPING IS NOT THE SAME AS RESCUING
• WHEN ADVICE BECOMES PERMISSION
• YOU DON'T NEED EVERY POSSIBLE OPTION
• EVERYTHING HAS A CONSEQUENCE
• FIVE THINGS BIG BOY PANTS REQUIRE
• TEN DECISIONS THAT REQUIRE BIG BOY PANTS
• THE 24-HOUR DRAMA TEST
• FIVE WAYS TO PUT ON YOUR BIG BOY PANTS

Life does not require us to make perfect decisions.

It requires us to participate.

To choose.

To act.

To learn.

To adjust.

To occasionally say: “Well...that didn't work.”

“Freedom is having the right to choose. Confidence is believing you can handle the outcome. Maturity is making the choice without needing everybody else to approve it.”

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever TOLD or BEEN TOLD what you SHOULD do?  Yeah, me too...

There is a word we use constantly that sounds helpful, caring, intelligent, even loving, but sometimes it’s none of those things.

The word is: Should.

“You should leave him.” “You should forgive her.” “You should take that job.” “You should sell the house.” “You should call your kids more.” “You should exercise.” “You should be grateful.” “You should get over it.” “You should stop worrying.” “You should be happy.”

And eventually you want to look at somebody and say:

“Would you PLEASE stop shoulding me?”

You SHOULD join Dave for some conversation around:

• WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO “SHOULD” SOMEONE?
• WHY DO WE SHOULD PEOPLE?
• 5 COMMON SITUATIONS WHERE WE SHOULD PEOPLE
• THE 5 GROUPS MOST LIKELY TO GET SHOULDED
• 5 REASONS WE SHOULDN’T SHOULD PEOPLE
• When WE INVITE THE SHOULDING
• SO WHAT DO WE SAY INSTEAD?
• MAYBE WE SHOULD OURSELVES THE MOST

So the next time somebody looks at you and says: “You know what you should do...”

Smile. Listen. Consider it. Maybe they're right. Maybe they're completely full of crap.

But remember: They get an opinion. You get the decision.

And maybe that's the difference between advice and wisdom.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever been in a situation when you didn't say something that needed to be said and later you said to yourself, "I wish I had said"...or..."I should have said"... Yeah, me too...

When most people hear the word trigger, they think of something negative.

"I was triggered." "They triggered me." "They know how to push my buttons."

But what if we've been thinking about triggers all wrong?

What if the most successful, peaceful, and emotionally healthy people don't have fewer triggers...they simply have better ones.

Join Dave for some TRIGGERING conversation about:

• Five Types of Triggers
• Five Ways To Install Triggers
•  Five Ways To Notice Trigger Opportunities

Life isn't won by having the perfect response.

It's won by preparing the right response.

The people who appear calm...Prepared.

The people who ask thoughtful questions...Prepared.

The people who remain kind under pressure...Prepared.

The people who seize opportunities...Prepared.

They didn't magically become that person.

They practiced becoming that person...Until it became automatic.

Your future isn't built only by the big decisions. It's built by hundreds of tiny moments where your response quietly determines your direction.

Install the right triggers and one day you'll notice something remarkable.

The situations didn't change...YOU DID!!!

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Have you ever had a moment, a morning, or longer that you just can't get your hands or head around some HEAVINESS that hit you?  Yeah, me too...

There are moments in life that don’t feel dramatic enough to explain...but they still hurt.  A strange silence in the house, a hard conversation that replays in your head all day, a morning where everything seems difficult before you even get out of bed, or maybe just a season where nothing is technically wrong...but nothing feels right either.

Join Dave for some lightening talk about:

• 10 Situations That Commonly Create Angst, Anxiety, or Depression
• 10 Things To Consider During Difficult Seasons
• 5 Things Life Often Tells You Instead
• 5 Ways To Embrace Difficult Seasons
• 5 Ways To Make The Peaks Higher And The Valleys Less Deep

There is a strange peace that comes with experience.

You’ve survived things you once thought would destroy you.

And maybe that is one of the greatest forms of confidence a human being can possess.

If you are in a difficult season right now, hear this clearly: You are not broken because life feels heavy. You are human.

The goal is not to avoid every storm. The goal is to become the kind of person who remembers that storms pass.

Because they do.

And one day, often when you least expect it, you’ll laugh again, breathe easier again, feel hope again, and realize you made it through something that once felt impossible.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever had a major life event happen and it looked like the end of something?  Yeah, me too...

Over the past year, have received a ton of emails, text messages, and private conversations about one subject more than any other.

"Dave...when are you going to talk about your divorce?"

Some people have simply been curious. Others have quietly shared that they're going through one themselves.

Join Dave for some candid conversation including:

• A Little Perspective
• DIVORCE - Then and Now
• The Five Toughest Parts
• Gray Divorce
• Ten Gifts I Never Expected
• Five Ways Divorce Can Really Be a Beginning
• Five Ways to Respond to Major Life Changes
• If Someone You Love Is Going Through a Divorce

I no longer wish for the life I thought I wanted. I'm grateful for the life I'm living.

My appreciation for ordinary days is greater.

I've learned that new beginnings don't ask for permission...They simply invite us to step forward.

So if you're walking through divorce today...Or walking beside someone who is...Don't lose hope.

The end of a marriage does not have to become the end of joy.

Be good to yourself.

Encourage someone.

And remember...The best chapters of your life may be the ones you never planned to write.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever been frustrated to the point you didn't know what to do next?  Yeah, me too...

There comes a moment in every life when reality taps us on the shoulder and says:

"Well...here you are."

Not where you planned to be. Not where you expected to be. Not where you hoped to be. Just...here...

Join Dave for some topical conversation about:

• Ten Everyday Examples
• The Bigger Stuff
• Why We Keep Looking Back
• Five Healthy Ways To Think About "Now What?"
• Five Ways To Start Each Day With A "What's Next?" Attitude
• Five Ways To Keep "What Happened" Out And "What's Next" In

The people who thrive are not the people who avoid hardship. They are the people who stop building homes in yesterday and start building futures in tomorrow.

You are here. This is where you are.

Good.

Now stand up. Look forward. Take the next step. Then another. Then another...

Because your best chapter has never been behind you. It has always been waiting for you to answer one simple question:

OK, now what?

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever known anyone that focuses more on what's missing than what they have?  Yeah, me too...

We live in a world that constantly reminds us of what we don't have...More money. More success. More recognition. More followers. More square footage. More everything!!!

Join Dave form some PLENTIFUL conversation about:

• What Does "Plenty" Mean?
• The Human Brain's Favorite Hobby
• The Science of Gratitude
• Five Advantages of Looking for Plenty
• Five Bad Things That Often Lead to Good Things
• Why Some People Never See the Plenty
• Plenty Creates More Plenty
• Five Ways to Enjoy Plenty When It Doesn't Feel Like Enough

There will be hard days. There will be losses. There will be disappointments.

Nobody gets through life without scars.

But there is also laughter, Friendship, Music, Sunrises, Dogs, Children, Second Chances, Road Trips, Inside Jokes, Unexpected Victories, and lessons learned the hard way.

Whether you're celebrating a victory or surviving a setback...Look around...there is still plenty to be happy about.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever thought you were being taught something, but then realized the LESSON you learned was much more important?  Yeah, me too...

When I was a little boy, I thought I was learning how to farm...turns out, I was learning how to live.

Join Dave from some nostalgic reflection about:

• Sometimes You Have to Give the Seed a Chance
• The Meanest Mule Isn't Always the Worst Worker
• Everybody Knows Everybody's Business...Until They Need Help
• You Don't Have to Be Rich to Be Generous
• Every Farm Has Beavers
• Why Everyday Life Makes the Best Teacher
• Five Reasons Everyday Life Is the Greatest Classroom

Don't overlook the wisdom sitting on a porch somewhere.

Don't dismiss the grandfather fixing a tractor.

Don't ignore the grandmother canning tomatoes.

Don't underestimate the mechanic, the waitress, the rancher, the truck driver, the school custodian, or the neighbor who's lived through things Google can't explain.

Life whispers before it shouts.

"Sometimes you have to give the seed a chance to grow."

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever been in a meeting or on a conference call and thought, "what a complete waste of time..."  Yeah, me too...

Somewhere, right now, a conference call is taking place that should not exist. Twenty-three people have stopped what they were doing. Three are paying attention. Seven are checking email. Five are wondering why they're there. Four are on mute walking their dog. Two are pretending their camera is broken. And one person is sharing a spreadsheet nobody can read.

Welcome to the modern meeting.

Join Dave for some PRODUCTIVE talk about WASTED TIME:

• How Did We Get Here?
• Ten Reasons Most Meetings Are a Waste of Time
• Five Reasons We Know They're Inefficient But Keep Having Them
• Five Personality Types That Love Meetings
• Better Alternatives
• Technology Is About To Change Everything

Time is the only resource that cannot be replenished and every unnecessary meeting takes a piece of someone's life they'll never get back.

Meet when you must. Decide quickly. Invite fewer people. Leave with action.

And remember:

• The goal of work is not to attend meetings.
• The goal of meetings is to make work better.
• If they aren't doing that, stop calling them meetings.

Call them what they are: A group project that nobody wanted.

Giddyup!!!

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Do you know anyone who is a KNOW-IT-ALL?  Yeah, me to...

There are people in this world who know everything, at least according to them.

You know these people.

You can’t tell a story without them interrupting halfway through to explain how they had it worse, did it better, fixed it faster, or knew about it before it was popular.

Join Dave for some INFORMATIVE talk about:

• The Human Condition of “Knowing”
• Giving Away Their Power Through Absolutes
• 5 Reasons Some People Become Know-It-Alls
• 5 Negative Effects They Bring Into Environments
• Long-Term Impact
• Names People Use for These Types
• 5 Ways To Attempt To Change Their Behavior
• 5 Ways To Deal With Them

If you know somebody like this, remember: Their behavior usually says more about their internal need than your external worth.

And if you ARE somebody like this...You do not have to prove your value in every conversation.

Giddyup!!!

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