Oula Connected from the Vault

How many times do you think back on a conversation and replay all of the wrong things you said and internalize what you think are others' reactions? We ALL do this! In this podcast, Bernice and Kali discuss how this self-filter keeps us separate and anxious about our relationships with others. They challenge themselves and their listeners to own their awkwardness and realize that almost everyone has their own insecurities that they, too, are projecting onto the situation. When we can accept and celebrate our uniqueness, we can be present and connect on a deeper, soul level.

In this episode, Bernice and Kali, revisit the last 2 podcasts with additional thoughts and reflections especially in light of recent current events. They also ask the question - why is it so hard to ask for and accept help - and explore the societal and generational adaptations that have glorified the American ideal of a self-made person.

In this episode, Kali and Bernice talk about their own personal experiences with feeling their light dim, and how easy it is to readjust to feeling less than great. As humans we have a wonderful ability to adapt, which helps in certain cases, but in others allows us to keep living a life less than. They talk about how valuable and impactful the OULA Empowerment Weekend was to remind them of the importance of service and the beauty of lighting our own candles from someone else's flame.

This week, Kali and Bernice discuss the relationship between perspective and perception. Our experiences influence our held beliefs and opinions, and oftentimes we confuse our own personal truths with a fixed reality, but in actuality, it is merely our perception. When we give value to the space between the stimulus and our response to it, we can find the freedom to change our perception of reality. This will then allow us to reprogram our patterns of thought and ask the ego to step aside to make way for understanding and empathy.

In this episode, Bernice and Kali review their struggles and highlights of 2018 and discuss resolutions and intentions for 2019. They reflect on things they've learned, things they still struggle to master and what 2018 brought up in their personal and professional lives. They look forward to 2019 with hopes of balance, joy and meaning.

The holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year, but they can also be challenging and leave us feeling blue. Kali and Bernice talk about where they are at emotionally this holiday season and work through why. They encourage themselves, and their listeners, to have grace when navigating the emotional triggers that this time of year can bring up.

In this special podcast, Kali and Bernice are joined by Frankie Joy! They talk about her birth story, life with 3 kids, and what the "new normal" looks like. As always, it's inappropriate, funny and real. Take a listen and help welcome Frankie into this world!

In this week's podcast, Bernice and Kali talk about the AA concept of being "workers among workers." They talk about how all experiences in life can be seen as opportunities to continue to do the work, to grow and to evolve. They also talk about the danger of putting others on pedestals, because ultimately we are all just workers among workers, and a pedestal is a high place to fall from. They also talk about negative emotions, and how rather than seeking the fastest way to make the feeling go away, to ask what this feeling means and where is it coming from.

With just days to go before Kali delivers her 3rd daughter, she and Bernice have invited B's daughter, Josephine, to the podcast this week! Kali interviews them both about how Jo was raised to be a strong, confident woman and explores their mother-daughter relationship. Kali brings up her concerns and questions about raising daughters and also gets some pretty funny stories out of these two. Take a listen, have a laugh, and learn what to do (and not to do!) when raising children!

In this week's podcast, Bernice and Kali have a heartfelt and tearful conversation on gratitude and ways to drop into it. In the spirit of Thanksgiving, they share personal stories of love and loss, heartache and hope and all of the in between that shape their lives and help lead them towards gratitude. Because really, isn't gratitude the way to compassion and love?