What if the stress you manage isn't really about your calendar—it's about old survival patterns that taught you to abandon yourself? In this episode of Our Future is Kind, Michael sits down with Lolita Guarin, a stress management expert, coach, speaker, podcaster, and bestselling author. They discuss how childhood wounds—especially growing up around addiction, emotional abandonment, or chronic instability—can shape our nervous system, our productivity drive, and even our ability to receive love.
Lolita shares her CALM Process (Control, Acceptance/Appreciation, List actions, Limit what doesn't work + Multiply what does), plus a refreshingly simple self-care practice that reveals exactly how your stress patterns operate.
Kindness challenge: The "One-Minute Kindness to Self" challenge (for 7 days):
• Set a phone alarm to go off once per hour during your waking day.
• When it rings, pause for one full minute and do nothing except notice your body (breath, tension, emotions, posture).
• If you feel guilty, annoyed, or "too busy," don't fight it—just note it. That reaction is the data.
• Once per day, do one tiny thing your inner child would call "kind" (tea on the porch, 5 pages of a book, a short walk, a hug, a nap).
How to stay inspired so you can do kind things:
Lolita's inspiration stack is wonderfully practical: change the input, change the inner weather. Try an "inspiration reset" day where you swap lyrical music for instrumental, upbeat tracks (while driving, cooking, or working), then add one mind-expanding listen/read that pulls you out of survival thinking.
Lolita mentions The Convoluted Universe, Book 3 by Dolores Cannon, content related to Bashar (channeled by Darryl Anka), and the Conversations between I and AM series by Matías De Stefano—all great options if you like big-picture perspectives that loosen the grip of fear.
Where to Find Lolita:
https://www.youtube.com/@BeAmazingYou
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolita-guarin-a069a811a/
Resources
• Be Amazing You: Lolita on The Wellness Universe / Learn It Live
• "Life Without Limits with WU Expert Lolita Guarin"
• "25 Tools for Life: A Magical Journey" bundle page (mentions CALM Process):
• The Convoluted Universe, Book 3 (Dolores Cannon)
• Bashar (YouTube channel: "Bashar Channeled by Darryl Anka")
• Conversations between I and AM series (Matías De Stefano)
• Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (ACA)
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