Jerome is one of my favorite people in this world. He’s kind, open, and trying to leave the world better than he found it. And through all of it, he hears you, sees you, and always has a kind word. Of course, this totally ups his sexy game. So he’s a man you want to spend more time with.

I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jerome.

In this episode of Our Gay Stories, Jerome and I chat about owning your truth and working on saying NO.

In the fourth episode Jerome and I discuss his philosophy on therapy and how you can still build on a cracked but repaired foundation.

In the third episode Jerome and I discuss “being on”, catastrophizing, and touch on imposter syndrome.

In the second episode, Jerome and I talk about what it feels like when you make a connection, that butterflies don’t always mean you get to smash, and what the fear of rejection is like (and the results of falling prey to it).

In the first episode, Jerome and I chat about the multiple roles of brother, son, and friend. The bond that exists between a brother and sister. And what it means to have a friend for 35 years.

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More About Jerome

Jerome Harper is a Broker Associate at Baird & Warner in the South Loop. His practice is focused on providing services to investors seeking to explore Chicago’s fast moving multi-family market and assisting new and experienced home buyers to purchase or sell their home.

Jerome began his real estate career in 2000 at a brokerage in Chicago’s Hyde Park neighborhood. After leaving this role, he turned his focus to philanthropy and corporate social responsibility. Over the next 15 years, he worked for The Chicago Community Trust and Northern Trust.

He has been a featured speaker for Chicago United, The United Way of Metro Chicago and Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. He served as a faculty member for the 2016 Global Ethics Summit in New York. The same year, a MarketWatch.com article featured his comments to the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. In 2013, the United Way of Metropolitan Chicago awarded Jerome with its Diamond Award for his leadership. He is also the 2013 recipient of the Connecting Cultures award from Chicago-based nonprofit Changing Worlds.

Jerome is a lifelong Chicago resident and enjoys exploring the amazing restaurant scene the city has to offer.

You can find Jerome on instagram and facebook @JhSellsChicago

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.It’s free and easy to start creating the life you’ve always dreamed. Pairs well with a vodka martini or whisky neat.I want the tips & the guide

Jerome is one of my favorite people in this world. He’s kind, open, and trying to leave the world better than he found it. And through all of it, he hears you, sees you, and always has a kind word. Of course, this totally ups his sexy game. So he’s a man you want to spend more time with.

I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jerome.

In this episode Jerome and I discuss his philosophy on therapy and how you can still build on a cracked but repaired foundation.

In the third episode Jerome and I discuss “being on”, catastrophizing, and touch on imposter syndrome.

In the second episode, Jerome and I talk about what it feels like when you make a connection, that butterflies don’t always mean you get to smash, and what the fear of rejection is like (and the results of falling prey to it).

In the first episode, Jerome and I chat about the multiple roles of brother, son, and friend. The bond that exists between a brother and sister. And what it means to have a friend for 35 years.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

More About Jerome

Jerome Harper is a Broker Associate at Baird & Warner in the South Loop. His practice is focused on providing services to investors seeking to explore Chicago’s fast moving multi-family market and assisting new and experienced home buyers to purchase or sell their home.

Jerome began his real estate career in 2000 at a brokerage in Chicago’s Hyde Park neighborhood. After leaving this role, he turned his focus to philanthropy and corporate social responsibility. Over the next 15 years, he worked for The Chicago Community Trust and Northern Trust.

He has been a featured speaker for Chicago United, The United Way of Metro Chicago and Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. He served as a faculty member for the 2016 Global Ethics Summit in New York. The same year, a MarketWatch.com article featured his comments to the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. In 2013, the United Way of Metropolitan Chicago awarded Jerome with its Diamond Award for his leadership. He is also the 2013 recipient of the Connecting Cultures award from Chicago-based nonprofit Changing Worlds.

Jerome is a lifelong Chicago resident and enjoys exploring the amazing restaurant scene the city has to offer.

You can find Jerome on instagram and facebook @JhSellsChicago

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.It’s free and easy to start creating the life you’ve always dreamed. Pairs well with a vodka martini or whisky neat.I want the tips & the guide

Jerome is one of my favorite people in this world. He’s kind, open, and trying to leave the world better than he found it. And through all of it, he hears you, sees you, and always has a kind word. Of course, this totally ups his sexy game. So he’s a man you want to spend more time with.

I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jerome.

In this episode Jerome and I discuss “being on”, catastrophizing, and touch on imposter syndrome.

In the second episode, Jerome and I talk about what it feels like when you make a connection, that butterflies don’t always mean you get to smash, and what the fear of rejection is like (and the results of falling prey to it).

In the first episode, Jerome and I chat about the multiple roles of brother, son, and friend. The bond that exists between a brother and sister. And what it means to have a friend for 35 years.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

More About Jerome

Jerome Harper is a Broker Associate at Baird & Warner in the South Loop. His practice is focused on providing services to investors seeking to explore Chicago’s fast moving multi-family market and assisting new and experienced home buyers to purchase or sell their home.

Jerome began his real estate career in 2000 at a brokerage in Chicago’s Hyde Park neighborhood. After leaving this role, he turned his focus to philanthropy and corporate social responsibility. Over the next 15 years, he worked for The Chicago Community Trust and Northern Trust.

He has been a featured speaker for Chicago United, The United Way of Metro Chicago and Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. He served as a faculty member for the 2016 Global Ethics Summit in New York. The same year, a MarketWatch.com article featured his comments to the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. In 2013, the United Way of Metropolitan Chicago awarded Jerome with its Diamond Award for his leadership. He is also the 2013 recipient of the Connecting Cultures award from Chicago-based nonprofit Changing Worlds.

Jerome is a lifelong Chicago resident and enjoys exploring the amazing restaurant scene the city has to offer.

You can find Jerome on instagram and facebook @JhSellsChicago

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.It’s free and easy to start creating the life you’ve always dreamed. Pairs well with a vodka martini or whisky neat.I want the tips & the guide

Jerome is one of my favorite people in this world. He’s kind, open, and trying to leave the world better than he found it. And through all of it, he hears you, sees you, and always has a kind word. Of course, this totally ups his sexy game. So he’s a man you want to spend more time with.

I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jerome.

In this second episode, Jerome and I talk about what it feels like when you make a connection, that butterflies don’t always mean you get to smash, and what the fear of rejection is like (and the results of falling prey to it).

In the first episode, Jerome and I chat about the multiple roles of brother, son, and friend. The bond that exists between a brother and sister. And what it means to have a friend for 35 years.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

More About Jerome

Jerome Harper is a Broker Associate at Baird & Warner in the South Loop. His practice is focused on providing services to investors seeking to explore Chicago’s fast moving multi-family market and assisting new and experienced home buyers to purchase or sell their home.

Jerome began his real estate career in 2000 at a brokerage in Chicago’s Hyde Park neighborhood. After leaving this role, he turned his focus to philanthropy and corporate social responsibility. Over the next 15 years, he worked for The Chicago Community Trust and Northern Trust.

He has been a featured speaker for Chicago United, The United Way of Metro Chicago and Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. He served as a faculty member for the 2016 Global Ethics Summit in New York. The same year, a MarketWatch.com article featured his comments to the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. In 2013, the United Way of Metropolitan Chicago awarded Jerome with its Diamond Award for his leadership. He is also the 2013 recipient of the Connecting Cultures award from Chicago-based nonprofit Changing Worlds.

Jerome is a lifelong Chicago resident and enjoys exploring the amazing restaurant scene the city has to offer.

You can find Jerome on instagram and facebook @JhSellsChicago

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.It’s free and easy to start creating the life you’ve always dreamed. Pairs well with a vodka martini or whisky neat.I want the tips & the guide

Jerome is one of my favorite people in this world. He’s kind, open, and trying to leave the world better than he found it. And through all of it, he hears you, sees you, and always has a kind word. Of course, this totally ups his sexy game. So he’s a man you want to spend more time with.

I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jerome.

In this first episode, Jerome and I chat about the multiple roles of brother, son, and friend. The bond that exists between a brother and sister. And what it means to have a friend for 35 years.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

More About Jerome

Jerome Harper is a Broker Associate at Baird & Warner in the South Loop. His practice is focused on providing services to investors seeking to explore Chicago’s fast moving multi-family market and assisting new and experienced home buyers to purchase or sell their home.

Jerome began his real estate career in 2000 at a brokerage in Chicago’s Hyde Park neighborhood. After leaving this role, he turned his focus to philanthropy and corporate social responsibility. Over the next 15 years, he worked for The Chicago Community Trust and Northern Trust.

He has been a featured speaker for Chicago United, The United Way of Metro Chicago and Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. He served as a faculty member for the 2016 Global Ethics Summit in New York. The same year, a MarketWatch.com article featured his comments to the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago. In 2013, the United Way of Metropolitan Chicago awarded Jerome with its Diamond Award for his leadership. He is also the 2013 recipient of the Connecting Cultures award from Chicago-based nonprofit Changing Worlds.

Jerome is a lifelong Chicago resident and enjoys exploring the amazing restaurant scene the city has to offer.

You can find Jerome on instagram and facebook @JhSellsChicago

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.It’s free and easy to start creating the life you’ve always dreamed. Pairs well with a vodka martini or whisky neat.I want the tips & the guide

In this final episode of Tony’s story, we wrap discussing labels and apps, doms and subs, and Tony’s advice for the next generation of gay men embarking on their own relationship journey.

In the first part of Tony’s story we talk about couples, throuples, open relationships, narcissists, and how his last relationship might have been represented by the Devil card in the Tarot. All with Tony’s great sense of humor and grace. This is just the beginning of him sharing a lesson for not only discovering the person you want to be with, but also how to show up for yourself.

Listen to the second part and you find out how Tony’s past relationships have influenced his life today, what Blanche Devereaux has to do with it all, and what an emotional bottom is.

Check out part three where Tony and I chat about his self talk, why ‘exit interviews’ and sitting with himself was important, and what it feels like to trust your gut instinct.

In episode four we talked about what it’s like not to trust your gut instinct, how that feels in y our body, and get a sense of being (or not being) in your own power.

In episode 5, Tony and I talk about recognizing the traits guys have that aren’t a good fit for you, online dating during COVID-19, and setting healthy boundaries.

In episode six, Tony and I talk about what changed his mom’s mind about having a gay son, what he’d want most in a relationship, and what role sex plays in a healthy relationship.

In episode 7, Tony and I chat about the phoenix as rebirth but with experience, being the person you want to be with, and how quarantine asked you to focus on the self.

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REFERENCES

If you’re looking for any of Tony’s books, Amazon has got you covered. amazon.com/author/drtonyortega

And you can find his comic book here – www.theaccordscomicbook.com

MORE ABOUT DR. TONY ORTEGA:

Dr. Tony Ortega is a first generation Cuban American. He is a licensed clinical psychologist, speaker, and author who has been in practice since 1992, currently serving the LGBTQ population in his private practicelocated in Brooklyn, New York.

Tony is the author of #IsHeHereYet: Being the Person You Want to Be With and as well as #AreYouHereYet: How to STFU and Show Up for Yourself. He is also created his first spiritual/LGBTQ comic book, The Accords (TheAccordsComicBook.com).

He is the creator of the brand Be The One (betheonelife.com), which helps people of all races, genders, and sexual orientations show up, have real conversations, liberate themselves, and create the life they’ve wanted.

Tony combines cognitive behavioral techniques along with active coaching and metaphysical principles in his work with clients. Additionally, Tony provides spiritual life coaching for individuals seeking a different way tolive. He works with his clients within these three principles: Rewrite Your Story, Find Your Voice, and Live Authentically.

Tony can be found online at drtonyortega.

In this episode Tony and I chat about the phoenix as rebirth but with experience, being the person you want to be with, and how quarantine asked you to focus on the self.

In the first part of Tony’s story we talk about couples, throuples, open relationships, narcissists, and how his last relationship might have been represented by the Devil card in the Tarot. All with Tony’s great sense of humor and grace. This is just the beginning of him sharing a lesson for not only discovering the person you want to be with, but also how to show up for yourself.

Listen to the second part and you find out how Tony’s past relationships have influenced his life today, what Blanche Devereaux has to do with it all, and what an emotional bottom is.

Check out part three where Tony and I chat about his self talk, why ‘exit interviews’ and sitting with himself was important, and what it feels like to trust your gut instinct.

In episode four we talked about what it’s like not to trust your gut instinct, how that feels in y our body, and get a sense of being (or not being) in your own power.

In episode 5, Tony and I talk about recognizing the traits guys have that aren’t a good fit for you, online dating during COVID-19, and setting healthy boundaries.

In episode six, Tony and I talk about what changed his mom’s mind about having a gay son, what he’d want most in a relationship, and what role sex plays in a healthy relationship.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

REFERENCES

If you’re looking for any of Tony’s books, Amazon has got you covered. amazon.com/author/drtonyortega

And you can find his comic book here – www.theaccordscomicbook.com

MORE ABOUT DR. TONY ORTEGA:

Dr. Tony Ortega is a first generation Cuban American. He is a licensed clinical psychologist, speaker, and author who has been in practice since 1992, currently serving the LGBTQ population in his private practicelocated in Brooklyn, New York.

Tony is the author of #IsHeHereYet: Being the Person You Want to Be With and as well as #AreYouHereYet: How to STFU and Show Up for Yourself. He is also created his first spiritual/LGBTQ comic book, The Accords (TheAccordsComicBook.com).

He is the creator of the brand Be The One (betheonelife.com), which helps people of all races, genders, and sexual orientations show up, have real conversations, liberate themselves, and create the life they’ve wanted.

Tony combines cognitive behavioral techniques along with active coaching and metaphysical principles in his work with clients. Additionally, Tony provides spiritual life coaching for individuals seeking a different way tolive. He works with his clients within these three principles: Rewrite Your Story, Find Your Voice, and Live Authentically.

Tony can be found online at drtonyortega.com and on social media as @drtonyortega.

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.

In this episode, number six, Tony and I talk about what changed his mom’s mind about having a gay son, what he’d want most in a relationship, and what role sex plays in a healthy relationship.

In the first part of Tony’s story we talk about couples, throuples, open relationships, narcissists, and how his last relationship might have been represented by the Devil card in the Tarot. All with Tony’s great sense of humor and grace. This is just the beginning of him sharing a lesson for not only discovering the person you want to be with, but also how to show up for yourself.

Listen to the second part and you find out how Tony’s past relationships have influenced his life today, what Blanche Devereaux has to do with it all, and what an emotional bottom is.

Check out part three where Tony and I chat about his self talk, why ‘exit interviews’ and sitting with himself was important, and what it feels like to trust your gut instinct.

In episode four we talked about what it’s like not to trust your gut instinct, how that feels in y our body, and get a sense of being (or not being) in your own power.

In episode 5, Tony and I talk about recognizing the traits guys have that aren’t a good fit for you, online dating during COVID-19, and setting healthy boundaries.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

References

If you’re looking for any of Tony’s books, Amazon has got you covered. amazon.com/author/drtonyortega

And you can find his comic book here – www.theaccordscomicbook.com

More About Dr. Tony Ortega:

Dr. Tony Ortega is a first generation Cuban American. He is a licensed clinical psychologist, speaker, and author who has been in practice since 1992, currently serving the LGBTQ population in his private practicelocated in Brooklyn, New York.

Tony is the author of #IsHeHereYet: Being the Person You Want to Be With and as well as #AreYouHereYet: How to STFU and Show Up for Yourself. He is also created his first spiritual/LGBTQ comic book, The Accords (TheAccordsComicBook.com).

He is the creator of the brand Be The One (betheonelife.com), which helps people of all races, genders, and sexual orientations show up, have real conversations, liberate themselves, and create the life they’ve wanted.

Tony combines cognitive behavioral techniques along with active coaching and metaphysical principles in his work with clients. Additionally, Tony provides spiritual life coaching for individuals seeking a different way tolive. He works with his clients within these three principles: Rewrite Your Story, Find Your Voice, and Live Authentically.

Tony can be found online at drtonyortega.com and on social media as @drtonyortega.

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.

In episode 5, Tony and I talk about recognizing the traits guys have that aren’t a good fit for you, online dating during COVID-19, and setting healthy boundaries.

In the first part of Tony’s story we talk about couples, throuples, open relationships, narcissists, and how his last relationship might have been represented by the Devil card in the Tarot. All with Tony’s great sense of humor and grace. This is just the beginning of him sharing a lesson for not only discovering the person you want to be with, but also how to show up for yourself.

Listen to the second part and you find out how Tony’s past relationships have influenced his life today, what Blanche Devereaux has to do with it all, and what an emotional bottom is.

Check out part three where Tony and I chat about his self talk, why ‘exit interviews’ and sitting with himself was important, and what it feels like to trust your gut instinct.

In episode four we talked about what it’s like not to trust your gut instinct, how that feels in y our body, and get a sense of being (or not being) in your own power.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

References

If you’re looking for any of Tony’s books, Amazon has got you covered. amazon.com/author/drtonyortega

And you can find his comic book here – www.theaccordscomicbook.com

More About Dr. Tony Ortega:

Dr. Tony Ortega is a first generation Cuban American. He is a licensed clinical psychologist, speaker, and author who has been in practice since 1992, currently serving the LGBTQ population in his private practicelocated in Brooklyn, New York.

Tony is the author of #IsHeHereYet: Being the Person You Want to Be With and as well as #AreYouHereYet: How to STFU and Show Up for Yourself. He is also created his first spiritual/LGBTQ comic book, The Accords (TheAccordsComicBook.com).

He is the creator of the brand Be The One (betheonelife.com), which helps people of all races, genders, and sexual orientations show up, have real conversations, liberate themselves, and create the life they’ve wanted.

Tony combines cognitive behavioral techniques along with active coaching and metaphysical principles in his work with clients. Additionally, Tony provides spiritual life coaching for individuals seeking a different way tolive. He works with his clients within these three principles: Rewrite Your Story, Find Your Voice, and Live Authentically.

Tony can be found online at drtonyortega.com and on social media as @drtonyortega.

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.It’s free and easy to start creating the life you’ve always dreamed. Pairs well with a vodka martini or whisky neat.I want the tips & the...

In the first part of Tony’s story we talk about couples, throuples, open relationships, narcissists, and how his last relationship might have been represented by the Devil card in the Tarot. All with Tony’s great sense of humor and grace. This is just the beginning of him sharing a lesson for not only discovering the person you want to be with, but also how to show up for yourself.

In this episode (4) we talk about what it’s like not to trust your gut instinct, how that feels in your body, and get a sense of being (or not being) in your own power.

Listen to the second part and you find out how Tony’s past relationships have influenced his life today, what Blanche Devereaux has to do with it all, and what an emotional bottom is.

Check out part three where Tony and I chat about his self talk, why ‘exit interviews’ and sitting with himself was important, and what it feels like to trust your gut instinct.

Join PAtreon NowSupport these stories, monthly readings, and more!

References

If you’re looking for any of Tony’s books, Amazon has got you covered. amazon.com/author/drtonyortega

And you can find his comic book here – www.theaccordscomicbook.com

More About Dr. Tony Ortega:

Dr. Tony Ortega is a first generation Cuban American. He is a licensed clinical psychologist, speaker, and author who has been in practice since 1992, currently serving the LGBTQ population in his private practicelocated in Brooklyn, New York.

Tony is the author of #IsHeHereYet: Being the Person You Want to Be With and as well as #AreYouHereYet: How to STFU and Show Up for Yourself. He is also created his first spiritual/LGBTQ comic book, The Accords (TheAccordsComicBook.com).

He is the creator of the brand Be The One (betheonelife.com), which helps people of all races, genders, and sexual orientations show up, have real conversations, liberate themselves, and create the life they’ve wanted.

Tony combines cognitive behavioral techniques along with active coaching and metaphysical principles in his work with clients. Additionally, Tony provides spiritual life coaching for individuals seeking a different way tolive. He works with his clients within these three principles: Rewrite Your Story, Find Your Voice, and Live Authentically.

Tony can be found online at drtonyortega.com and on social media as @drtonyortega.

The Top 5 Secrets To Grow Your RelationshipLet’s open up how you’re thinking, speaking, feeling, and what you want most.Enter your email address and I’ll send you the RAW Review worksheet to help you map out and understand the relationship you’re in.BONUS: And I’ll also send the Tarot Guide to Safety, Security, & Love (Without the Disappointment). To start creating life on your terms.It’s free and easy to start creating the life you’ve always dreamed. Pairs well with a vodka martini or whisky neat.I want the tips & the guide