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With Oz kink Fest only one sleep away, MisKnickers ventured into the heart of Brunswick to visit Q Space, an integral part of Oz Kink Fest 2018. Q Space will host workshops, exhibitions, events, and the Oz Kink Fest Launch Party. While the OKF crew were busy setting up for the week ahead, MisKnickers got some one-on-one time with Mz Mallice (Oz Kink Fest Creator and Organiser), Wayne Nicol (owner of Lucrezia & DeSade, Q Space major sponsor and long time OKF Collaborator), and Angela Biscotti (artist and curator of Oz Kink Fest Exhibition Sex on your Sleeve).

If you're getting hyped for Oz Kink Fest 2018 and want to hear more about what to expect, events to look out for, and gain a unique insight into OKF from the perspective of its creators, sponsors, and participants, dive into this latest Our Kink podcast and get the goss!

In Episode 34 of the Our Kink Podcast, MisKnickers catches up with Peter Martin and Dani Natale from PM Leather to talk about PM Leather, and how they have grown to be much more than a supplier of quality leather hobble belts. Hear about the history and growth of PM Leather, and the remarkable ability both Peter and Dani to reach people via social media. And of course, they share their plans for Oz Kink Fest, and the wonder that is Fetish Expo.

We also catch up with ProDom/me, rope artist, rock star, and recent Our Kink Sponsor, Sai Jaiden Lillith, who gives us a sneak peak into some of the shenanigans they hope to encourage with performances and presentations throughout Oz Kink Fest. Listen in to find out what they're bringing to the party this year, and why they're so glad to be back.

 

And of course, we have another giveaway for subscribers… This time a double pass to Hellfire Resurrection – Friday September 21st.

To win all you need to do is have a valid Our Kink Subscription, and email us with the answer to this very simple question:

Where is Hellfire Resurrection being held in 2018?

Entries close Sunday night at 6pm. Please only enter if you can definitely use the pass.

Listen in as MisKnickers catches up with Sprinkle from Sprinkle Emporium (recorded live from the very stunning shop and studio on Lygon st) to discuss her new leather range for fetish fashionistas - Yes Mz by Sprinkle and what it's like to be facing the Fetish Expo 2018 Grand Fashion Parade for the very first time...

In contrast, we also talk to long-time Fashion Parade contributor, Aunty EJ from Fantasy Fair Adult Play Wear, who's been part of the parade since day one.

Learn more about these wonderful individuals and their contribution to the worlds of both kink and fashion, and discover why we love them.

In this episode MisKnickers is joined by resident Our Kink button-pusher Loke, to discuss an incredible innovation in kink safety. We speak with special guest Elle, who is part of team developing a new app called No Grey. In what is more than likely a world first, No Grey aims to enhance the way we negotiate, and gives users the opportunity to lay out the framework and boundaries of each scene negotiation for all participants with ease.

We were really excited to learn more about No Grey, and Elle talked us through its features, as well as giving us some examples of how the app can be used, from sharing broad interests to begin a discussion to negotiating specifics of a scene, indicating our experience levels with different tools and types of play, through setting limits and goals to ensure participants understand their roles and responsibilities thoroughly.

We also delved into some background to understand better how the idea came about, why Elle thinks you should try the app, and what you can expect in terms of ease of use, accessibility, and security of the app.

Curious? So were we! Have a listen, and visit nogrey.club/ to learn more, and to download the app!

This week we returned to one of our favourite haunts to spend some time with one of our favourite sponsors, the inimitable Wayne from Lucrezia & De Sade. Wayne is never short of a story or twelve and he doesn't disappoint in this podcast, taking us on a winding, non-linear journey through the history of L&D, including a time when he had never dreamed of retailing kink and leather goods, and how all that changed in one night, thanks to a certain pop sensation.

Interest piqued? There's more ... latex nuns and reasonable men, a purple dungeon, duelling policemen, and some lessons on how to combat bureaucracy from left of centre. Oh, and there's the sex, religion, and politics. Just listen. You may regret it if you don't.

We visited Counsellor, Sex Therapist, Educator, Author, Workshop Facilitator, and wearer of one thousand hats, Jeremy Shub.

We could have talked with Jeremy for days about every topic under the Sun, but specifically we wanted to ask about his upcoming Queer Flirting workshop. Starting with the basics of what actually constitutes flirting, how it differs between people and cultures, and moving to the unique challenges for Queer identifying people, how the principles of consent impact our flirting, navigating the vast range of different attractions and desires and more, including Jeremy's upcoming book, Sex Positive Now.

Learn more about Jeremy, his work, and his services here.

Check out the Queer Flirting workshop here.

In this episode we enter your earholes once again, this time to blow up some BDSM bullshit... Join us as we don the Mythbuster Moustache and light the dynamite on some of our favourites myths, exploring both what they are, and where they come from. Have a giggle, roll your eyes, and 'pffft' with us as we examine the idea that all kinksters are crazy, and ponder upon the 'weakness' often thought to make up submission. And as promised, there's some links below to keep you busy with some more facts and figures.

Enjoy! <3

Reference Links:

BDSM and Mental Health

* Bondage Benefits, Live Science, May 2013

* Altered States of Consciousness During An Extreme Ritual, University of Illinois Research Paper, May 2016 

What a BDSM Piercing Ceremony Taught Scientists About Altered States of Consciousness, VanWinkles, May 2016

Submission

* Five Myths About Submission, Kayla Lords, The Submissive Guide

* So You Want To Be A Submissive?, MisKnickers, Adult Match Maker

Domination

* Five Myths About Dominants You Need To Know, Kayla Lords, The Submissive Guide

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Yes, May is Masturbation month, so there's no better time to shine a light on what can be some pretty adventurous sexy times, be it alone or with a partner. This week we try not to make too many bad puns as we discuss the benefits and drawbacks of the One-Handed Devil Dance...

For more information to enjoy in your own time:

MisKnickers Guide To Buying Beginner Sex Toys

MisKnickers Guide For Happy Handjobs

MisKnickers  Guide To Pussy Play For Couples

And for more information on the Adult Match Maker 'Under the Covers' survey, and the results re-masturbation, take a look at this great piece from Dr Michelle Mars:

Masturbation Under the Covers: Fap Vs Fiddle

 

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You may have heard about the Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act (FOSTA) and the Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA) - legislation recently signed into law by the US Congress. What you may not have heard, is that this wet blanket approach to meant to stop sex trafficking will in effect do much more harm that good.

This week Miss Jane and MisKnickers chat with lawyer Kathryn Adams (aka KateOnTheGo) and pro-kinkster, sex worker, and all round amazing human being Gala Vanting to try and make sense of these confusing and dangerous new laws - laws that potentially affect us all.

Whether you work in the sex industry, indulge in its many pleasures, or simply appreciate it exists, or if you're someone who just enjoys basic internet freedoms, this is an episode NOT TO MISS.

Grab your beverage of choice, your brain, and a comfy spot - critical thinking is required!

More information on people and resources mentioned within the podcast:

Our guests, Gala Vanting and KateOnTheGo are both extremely well read, and as eloquent on this topic as their personal perspectives and experiences allow. Both are also happy to talk more… As of the podcast air date, Kate is about to give birth (Happy thoughts!!!) and Gala is struggling for professional survival. If you’re not able to book a session with her, Gala will gladly accept sponsorship via PayPal – [email protected] - but bank transfer, cash, or online gift cards are also welcome. #HireAHo

 

For the best general information we’ve been able to find, check out Survivors Against SESTA. This US-based site is a great place to refine your general knowledge on SESTA, find support and education resources, tech advice, and self-care tips for workers, wherever you are in the world.

Looking for places to list? Contact us! We list ANY sex-positive kink-friendly business!

Some other options to consider…

Brand new and SWer owned and run… Crockor has gone slightly gangbusters on the classifieds over the last couple of weeks. But to make this venture really work, they need non-kink and non-sex related listings to get moving up the Google rankings. Next time you want to list on Facebook or GumTree, why not give Crockor a try?

Sex Work Australia also take listings and have links to a range of other adult directories on their site.

RhED also has a range of information, and space for brothels, fetish and sex workers to advertise.

 

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Somewhere near, and at times bridging the boundaries between sex therapy, coaching, kinesiology, and tantra, is Sexological Bodywork. we took some time out to talk with Louis Luckhurst of Intentional Touch to learn more about exactly what sexological bodywork is, and to to hear Louis' professional and personal story.

Louis helps clients learn about and understand their bodies, and to strengthen their connection to sexual and sensual self. Louis also works with people who have experienced trauma, and with people who have experienced a disconnection from their sexual experiences, and hopes to use her work to benefit survivors of genital mutilation and others in need of healing.

Learn more about Louis' practice at intentionaltouch.net

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