Consent is easy when it’s a bright, enthusiastic “yes.” But what about the murky moments — the mixed signals, the non-verbal cues, the awkward pauses, or the moments you only realise after the fact that something felt… off?

In this episode, Lawrence, and our guest Prue, dive into the real-world grey areas of consent — the ones that don’t show up in manuals but absolutely show up in bedrooms, clubs, and parties. Drawing from lived experiences and stories from the community, they explore how misunderstandings happen, how to slow things down without killing the vibe, and how to handle “oops, that didn’t feel right” with accountability and compassion.

They unpack why consent is more than “no means no,” how power dynamics and group situations complicate things, and why emotional readiness is just as important as physical willingness. This is an honest, nuanced conversation about communication, boundaries, repair, and self-awareness — because great s*x isn’t just about enthusiasm, it’s about empathy.

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Jess and Lawrence pull back the curtain on one of the most real, raw challenges in the lifestyle: how to balance parenting with swinging, non-monogamy, and staying sexy.

From babysitters to bedtime, stigma to scheduling — this episode is a candid look at the juggling act of raising toddlers while still embracing fun, intimacy, and freedom. With real stories from parents in the community (and a few cheeky confessions of their own), they unpack how families make it work without letting love or lust take a back seat.

Inside this episode:

How parents in the lifestyle juggle childcare, sex lives, and relationship time.

Why scheduling and planning ahead is the secret weapon for sexy parents.

Dealing with stigma at daycare, the school gate, and in the wider community.

Why keeping connection alive as partners makes you better parents.

PLUS — in this week’s Just the Tip segment, Jess & Lawrence play a hilarious game of Parenting or Sex Toy? with items from their very own survival kit. Spoiler: not everything is as innocent as it looks…

Whether you’re a parent curious about the lifestyle or a listener who just loves real talk about sex, stigma, and balance — this episode proves that with creativity (and the right babysitter), you really can have it all.

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Get your Safer Sex Checklist

Jess and Lawrence are diving into the practical side of love, lust, and lifestyle — how to stay safe, healthy, and confident in open and non-monogamous relationships.

From STI checks to mental health, condoms to communication, this episode busts myths and flips stigma on its head with real talk and real tools. Because it’s not about being “dirty swingers” — it’s about being sexy, safe swingers.

Inside this episode:

Why “flying the lifestyle plane” is safer than most people think.

How to normalize the safe sex talk — and why it can actually turn you on.

The must-have health check routine that keeps you and your community safe.

Why mental health is just as important as physical health in the lifestyle.

The ultimate “go bag” essentials every sexy adventurer should pack.

PLUS — Jess & Lawrence build their very own Safer Sex Checklist (with a cheeky demo of dental dams you won’t want to miss).

Whether you’re a newbie, a seasoned swinger, or just curious, this episode shows why communication, safety, and self-care are the hottest turn-ons of all.

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Jess and Lawrence are back with Part 2 of the New Relationship Revolution, joined by special guest Lucy Banks — PR powerhouse, CEO of the Australian Adult Industry Choice Awards, and marketing lead for Sxhibition.

This episode goes deeper into how people are rewriting the rulebook of love and intimacy in 2025, balancing personal choice, communication, and freedom in their relationships.

From relationship anarchy to ethical non-monogamy, from spicy industry trends to raising kids with open conversations — this episode is packed with real stories, fresh insights, and a candid look at how conscious choices are reshaping love today.

Why every relationship is unique — and why that’s a good thing.
How the adult industry is reflecting (and shaping) new-age love.
Talking to kids about sex, love, and relationship choices without shame.
Behind the scenes of the rebranded Adult Industry Choice Awards & Sxhibition.

PLUS — our “Just the Tip” segment with Lucy explores how boundaries, conscious decisions, and communication aren’t just buzzwords — they’re the foundations of happy, sexy, sustainable relationships.

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Jess and Lawrence return with Part 1 of a two-part special exploring the new relationship revolution. In this episode, they dive into how younger generations are rethinking love, intimacy, and commitment — moving beyond traditional models and embracing non-traditional paths like swinging, polyamory, and relationship anarchy.

From peer-reviewed studies to app data from Bumble, Feeld, and OkCupid, the hosts unpack what’s driving this cultural shift — autonomy, authenticity, diversity in needs, and community connection.

Why are younger people rejecting traditional relationship rules?
What the research actually says about consensual non-monogamy in Australia and worldwide.
Why LGBTQ+ communities are leading the way.
How dating apps are fueling the rise of non-monogamy.
Just the Tip: Jess & Lawrence play their “Out of the Jar” game, defining modern relationship terms — with hilarious and eye-opening results.

This episode is packed with insights, cheeky laughs, and real-world takeaways for anyone curious about how love and sex are evolving in 2025.

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Welcome to the brand-new Swapping Secrets podcast — the revamped show from inside Our Secret Spot. Jess and Lawrence are back with cameras, lights, and plenty of cheeky stories to kick off the new era. 

In this episode, we dive into first time swingers club stories — the funny, the awkward, and the oh-so-sexy moments of starting out in the lifestyle. From taking that nerve-wracking step into the swingers’ club, to experimenting with toys, lingerie shopping, and even trying the infamous sex swing. 

What’s it like prepping for your very first club visit? 

Why a lingerie shopping date could be the perfect warm-up. 

How to set the mood before you arrive (yes, cocktails included). 

Which toys and cheeky accessories are worth bringing (and which ones to leave at home). 

Just the Tip: What to wear when you’re dressing sexy for the club. 

With personal anecdotes, listener-inspired stories, and plenty of laughter, this episode is the perfect starter for anyone curious about swinging, non-monogamy, or simply spicing up their play. 

So, grab a drink, slip into something sexy, and join us for the very first Swapping Secrets. 

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It’s not Episode 101 just yet, but we couldn’t resist bringing you a mid-season treat — the juiciest, funniest, and most outrageous moments from the pod so far.

In this special “Best Of” edition, Jess and Lawrence revisit the stories that had us laughing, blushing, and fanning ourselves, plus a few that made us stop and reflect.

Expect to hear:
Listener confessions that still make us giggle
Sexy secrets shared by our community
Unfiltered moments from behind the mic
Those “did-they-really-just-say-that?!” stories

From spicy hookups to heartfelt confessions, this episode is a snapshot of everything that makes the pod what it is: playful, raw, and unapologetically real. Whether you’re a long-time listener or just finding us now, it’s the perfect sampler of the OSS vibe.

So grab your headphones, get comfy, and relive the moments that made us (and you) sweat, smile, and swoon.

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It’s not Episode 101 (yet), but we’re keeping your earbuds warm with a juicy mid-season treat.

In this special in-between-isode, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Our Secret Spot’s own literary temptress — Natasha Rose — to talk all things erotica, imagination, and the powerful role of storytelling in sexuality.

What turns us on in a story?
How do erotic novels differ from visual porn?
What fantasies have YOU heard in audio form that stayed with you?

From the very first page, Natasha Rose draws us into her sensual world — one where words spark desire, and fantasy knows no bounds. In this intimate bonus episode, we explore her journey as an erotic writer: how she gets inspired, what her creative process looks like, and why fiction can be just as powerful (if not more so) than visual porn.

Moreover, we dive into the growing popularity of audio erotica, and why some fantasies are best experienced through headphones and a vivid imagination. We also share a few cheeky excerpts, favourite tropes, and personal reflections on the kinds of stories that linger long after the final chapter.

So, whether you’re a book lover, a sensual soul, or just erotica-curious — light a candle, pour yourself a glass of something delicious, and indulge with us.

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We’ve officially hit the big 1-0-0! The OSS 100th episode is a celebration of you – our amazing community of listeners, guests, and sexy supporters.

To mark the occasion, we asked you to send in your most memorable podcast moments, listener stories, voicemails, DMs, and love notes from the past 99 episodes — and you delivered.

In this very special episode:

We share spicy voice notes from the bedroom and beyond

Read your wild, heartwarming, and cheeky listener stories

Reflect on what 100 episodes of Our Secret Spot has meant to us and to you

This is more than just a milestone — it’s a tribute to the open, honest, and sexy community that’s grown around the pod. Whether you’ve just discovered us or you’ve been listening since the early days, this episode is our big thank you.

And… it’s not goodbye. Just a sexy pause.

This is our final episode before our podcast revamp, launching in October with a bold new format, new segments, and deeper conversations around sex, relationships, play, and community.

Thanks for 100 incredible episodes. We can’t wait to show you what’s next.

If you have any questions, please contact us via the links below.

We hope you enjoy the episode.

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We’re coming up on 100 episodes—and we want you to be part of the celebration! In this episode, Jess and Lawrence share some exciting news about what’s next for the podcast. We’re calling on our listeners to send in their favourite podcast moments—whether it’s a wild story, a laugh-out-loud moment, or something that made you feel seen. Email, message, or send a voice note!

PLUS, we’re giving the podcast a glow-up. After episode 100, we’ll be taking a short break and returning with a fresh new vibe and format. Tune in for all the details and help us celebrate this milestone!

If you have any questions, please contact us via the links below.

We hope you enjoy the episode.

Our Secret Spot is a multi-award-winning swingers club.

Get in on the fun and join the party at the club. Purchase your tickets here: UPCOMING EVENTS

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