At the end of your life, what will you regret not doing? What do you keep putting off to a fictional "someday"? Well, someday is today. Matthew Dicks and Tessa discuss how to stop putting your life off to "someday" and how to make time and space for the life you actually

want to live. They explore how to make finding positive momentum easy, why you should record all the interesting ideas you hear, and how to take advantage of the way your body is built to boost your productivity.

Matthew Dicks is a teacher and the author of 11 books. He is a

53-time Moth StorySLAM champion.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Matthew Dicks?

(02:02) How do you start what you keep putting off?

(09:16) Why did Matthew write Someday is Today?

(10:48) What to do if you're uninspired?

(13:23) What if you can't outdo yourself? (and why you should constantly create)

(19:47) Someday is a terrible word

(22:22) Lessons from writing 11 books

(27:29) Why you aren't sleeping as much as you think you are

(34:14) Is curiosity the

enemy of productivity?

(48:50) The grand slam moth experience

(53:18) Regret is the worst feeling

5 Key Takeaways

1. When negative things happen, this is your cue to amplify the positive vibes in your life. It takes around 6 positive

cues to overcome one negative event. Have a place (like a document) where you can easily find positive things about yourself.

2. Take notes of the interesting things that people say to you. Much of creativity is about gathering the interesting ideas people present to you

and leveraging them when you need to invite inspiration into your life.

3. Have hope that you might surprise yourself. When you show up and create consistently, you'll create things that surprisingly resonate with others. You don't necessarily know what will be a

great hit with others and what will flop - your judgment could be totally off.

4. Don't discount small bursts of work when you have a few minutes of spare time.

5. If you become more disinterested in things that you don't need to be interested in, you'll

have more time to do things you're actually interested in doing.

Links

Someday Is Today: 22 Simple, Actionable Ways to Propel Your Creative Life by Matthew Dicks https://www.amazon.com/Someday-Today-Simple-Actionable-Creative/dp/1608687503

Your elusive creative genius - TED Talk by Elizabeth Gilbert https://www.ted.com/talks/elizabeth_gilbert_your_elusive_creative_genius

Moth.org

Connect With Matthew Dicks:

Website: https://matthewdicks.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-dicks-84a95711/

Connect With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

What does it mean to be radically intimate? Zoe Kors and Tessa discuss how intimacy is often misunderstood as intense and passionate love when it can be slow and unpredictable. They explore the relationship between intimacy and experimentation, what anti-intimacy is, why it is in your favor

to replace the honeymoon phase in your relationship, and how to find power when your body goes through hormonal changes.

Zoe Kors is a sex and intimacy coach. She is the author of Radical Intimacy.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Zoe Kors?

(02:39) A

10-year sexless marriage

(05:32) "I married my mother" and why divorce was the right decision

(10:29) The exciting appeal of slow intimacy

(17:10) Shame around discussing sex and desire

(23:26) Finding the right partner

(25:40) 3 realms of intimacy

(28:40) The trifecta of anti-intimacy (32:06) Awkward moments during sex

(35:44) Is the honeymoon phase a myth? (41:30) Hormones, menopause, and your sex drive

(46:15) What it was like to write Radical Intimacy

4 Key Takeaways

1. We can

all benefit from slowing down. We focus too much on what we think of as passionate sex. Experiment with what it would feel like to be in an extended state of pleasure and arousal.

2. There is a significant stigma around women knowing what they want in bed. Shame is the belief that

we are so broken that we are unworthy of love and belonging. Choose partners that don't expect you to hide who you are and what you want.

3. The more you know yourself, the better you will be at selecting a partner that is right for you. There are 3 realms of intimacy in which you

can explore yourself: emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, and energetic intimacy.

4. The trifecta of anti-intimacy is denial, deflection, and distraction.

Links Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve by Zoe

Kors https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Intimacy-Cultivate-Connected-Relationships/dp/0306826607

Connect With Zoe Kors:

Website: https://www.zoekors.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zoekors/

The Radical Intimacy Podcast: https://www.zoekors.com/podcast

Connect With Tessa Tovar: Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

Some of the ways we've been teaching yoga are broken. The space lacks accountability, but how do we enforce accountability with empathy? Lauren Walker and Tessa discuss how to teach yoga more holistically, why hurt people hurt people, and how speaking the language of your body, mind,

and spirit can make healing from trauma fast and easy.

Lauren Walker is the founder of Energy Medicine Yoga. She is the author of Energy Medicine Yoga: Amplify the Healing Power of Your Yoga Practice.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Lauren Walker?

(02:33)

What's wrong with how we study yoga?

(09:39) Shifting how we study yoga

(14:38) Balancing accountability, compassion, and guilt.

(27:06) Is yoga a privilege?

(34:13) Can you discover your purpose if you are traumatized?

(41:08) Healing trauma doesn't

need to take time

(47:25) Becoming powerful by owning your emotions

(54:31) Healing from trauma is easy

4 Key Takeaways

1. If you have received valuable teachings from a teacher that turned out to be an abuser, try to separate the teaching from the

teacher.

2. Yoga educators who abuse their power need to be held accountable. Oftentimes, educators who inflict trauma are themselves traumatised. They need to be held accountable and go to spaces where they can let go of their trauma.

3. Instead of feeling guilty for the privileges

you have or feeling bad for the misfortunes you've been inflicted with, ask yourself: what can I do with the life I've been given?

4. Healing takes desire and commitment, it doesn't necessarily take lots of time. It is after you heal from trauma, that you can have the mental

space to think about your purpose.

Links

The Energy to Heal: Find Lasting Freedom From Stress and Trauma Through Energy Medicine Yoga by Lauren Walker https://www.amazon.com/Energy-Heal-Lasting-Freedom-Medicine/dp/0738769495

Connect With

Lauren Walker:

Website: https://www.energymedicineyoga.net/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/energymedicineyoga/

Connect With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

What do meditating and brushing your teeth have in common? You do both for others and not just yourself. Brad Warner and Tessa discuss how to build the discipline to meditate every day, how to acknowledge your emotions without letting them consume you, how to make sense of life's

contradictions, and the untrendy ethics of Buddhism that aren't covered in mainstream media.

Brad Warner is a Sōtō Zen monk. He is the author of several books including The Other Side of Nothing and Hardcore Zen.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is

Brad Warner?

(03:00) How Brad found Buddhism (and Japanese adventures)

(10:04) The inconvenient and untrendy aspects of Buddhism

(12:20) What if success was irrelevant?

(16:52) Staying consistent with meditating

(19:20) What's the best yoga

posture?

(20:45) What is Zen Buddhism?

(23:43) What's on the other side of nothing?

(29:43) Reframing how you think of karma

(38:24) Buddhism and sexuality

(46:50) What would Buddha say about jealousy?

(51:06) European Buddhism tour

4 Key Takeaways

1. Meditation blurs the definition of success. In fact, it can even negate success altogether. It just is what it is, it is not measured on a scale.

2. Buddhism is meditation. What the Buddha taught was meditation. Not everyone

would agree with that statement, but teaching Buddhism without meditation doesn't stay true to its founding principles.

3. The other side of nothing is a space where you negate yourself. It is understanding yourself as an illusion. It is thinking of yourself as not something

that belongs to you, but belongs to everything.

4. Only think of Karma in relation to yourself. Try not to look at the big picture too much. Get involved in what you can influence.

Links

The Other Side of Nothing: The Zen Ethics of Time, Space,

and Being by Brad Warner https://www.amazon.com/Other-Side-Nothing-Ethics-Space/dp/1608688046

Connect With Brad Warner:

Website: http://hardcorezen.info/

YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/HardcoreZen?app=desktop

Connect

With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

How do we learn about menstruation and menopause in a positive and inquisitive light? Elizabeth Gould joins Tessa to discuss how to be connected to our body, soul, and spirit while keeping up with our fast-paced world. They chat about how to change our perspective on menstruation and

menopause, the roe v. wade debacle, the power of sacred rage, and how to teach women about their bodily changes.

Elizabeth Gould is an educator, specializing in positive menstrual and menopausal education. She is the author of The Well of Truth: Stories of Spirit.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Elizabeth Gould?

(02:57) Living in a fast world while preserving your soul and being connected to the planet.

(10:22) Simple ways we can stay connected to the intangible world of spirit, nature, and mysticism.

(16:59)

Reframing the stigma around menopause and bodily changes.

(23:36) Educating children about menstrual cycles.

(30:00) How young women and older women perceive bodily changes differently

(33:03) Roe v. Wade: women's right to privacy and the rest of the

world's reaction

(39:40) What is the power of sacred rage?

(43:14) How to tap into your sacred rage and anger.

(46:52) Mentors that see parts of you that you don't see.

(49:13) Elizabeth Gould's future plans

5 Key Takeaways

1. Connecting to the intangible world of spirit, nature, and mysticism doesn't have to be overly complicated. It can be as simple as forming a connection with a small house plant you have by touching it.

2. We live in a culture that stigmatizes the

natural changes that a woman's body goes through. Instead of stigmatizing menopause, we can as women reframe it as stepping into a deeper part of ourselves and our lives.

3. As a society, we have to make space that allows growing children to step into their maturity.

4. Cut off everything that no longer serves you. Get in touch with the fire inside you and move forward. Tap into the power of sacred rage.

5. Look at your experience through the eyes of love. What would it take to step into the most mythic aspect of yourself? Dip into

the well of what feels good.

Links

The Well of Truth: Stories of Spirit: https://www.amazon.com/Well-Truth-Stories-Spirit/dp/1684631394

Connect With Elizabeth Gould:

Website: https://elizabethagouldstories.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewelloftruthstories/

Connect With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

How can you ignite an awakening of self by healing your inner child? After going on a 4 day bender, Jolie Dawn had a wake up call that her life was long overdue for recovery. Jolie and Tessa discuss how to rewild yourself without harming you mind and body. You can live a sexy and exciting

life while taking responsibility for your life.

Jolie Dawn is an intuitive coach and 6 time best-selling author. She supports women in building 6-figure businesses.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Jolie Dawn (and a summary of her nomadic lifestyle)?

(07:37) Self-publishing and becoming a 6-time best-selling author

(13:49) Breaking the cycle of past traumas: how Jolie did it.

(21:37) Do you have to hit rock bottom to spring back up?

(23:47) Rewilding yourself, taking responsibility for your life, and healing your

inner child

(32:07) The cycle of 7

(34:04) Theta healing and why you need to be in a state of relaxation to heal

(37:54) Hypnosis and creating a new future of prosperity

(43:25) Jolie's biggest failure

(44:57) Creating a legacy of love

(47:16)

How to connect with Jolie Dawn

5 Key Takeaways

1. You don't have to hit rock bottom to spring back up but there has to be some reason to compel change. There is usually an agitation that inspires change. When you are connected to the stakes of the game,

it is easier to take action.

2. Most people have unhealed childhood traumas. Many people can change their lives by asking the question: how can I do more inner child work?

3. Anything you imagine doing is possible. It is easy to present evidence that it is not possible

because you point to all the times you've failed or things didn't work out. You can go back and reclaim your past selves and heal from there.

4. Awareness is the first step in healing.

5. Hypnosis is a deeply sacred experience. It is an opportunity to take a break from

your thinking mind, and be guided into an experience to excavate information.

Links

Jolie Dawn's Books: Empowered, Sexy, and Free: Discover Your Unique Brilliance and Dare to Be the Creatrix of Your Life: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09P47MQCG/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0

The Spiritual Journey of Entrepreneurship: Will You Say Yes to the Call? https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B071NNTX1M/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1

The Empowered Woman Series: Book 1: Eight Vulnerable Stories of Loss of Self, Reclamation of Power, and Unleashing Inner Brilliance

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0777BYV7L/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i2

Empowered, Courageous and Free: 7 Vulnerable Stories of Loss of Self, Reclamation of Power, and Unleashing Inner Courage (Empowered, Sexy Free Book 3) https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07H45Q3L8/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i3

Connect With Jolie Dawn:

Website: https://joliedawn.com/

Centrix Academy: https://www.creatrixacademy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joliedawnxo/

Connect With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

When's the last time you evaluated your emotional backpack and brain health? Mattie Cummins joins Tessa to discuss how to feel grief and anxiety without getting stuck in a depressive loop, how to strengthen your neurons to increase your resilience, how to build a better memory, and how

to improve your brain health with simple daily habits.

Mattie Cummins is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Brain Coach. She is the CEO of the practice Cerebrations.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Mattie Cummins?

(01:30) How to express anxiety, grief,

and loss without getting stuck?

(05:57) Processing grief and anxiety.

(09:56) Feeling broken and believing in your power to recover.

(13:44) Chronic pain and building neurons to strengthen yourself

(19:42) How Mattie Cummins specialized in how the brain works.

(21:28) How can caregivers protect themselves and set boundaries when working with vulnerable people.

(28:55) Memory as we age

(32:17) How to reduce the chances of early-onset Alzheimer's and dementia

(39:02) Daily habits and rituals for staying calm and being

reasonably productive

(44:35) Shifting our mindset about work and productivity.

(46:42) The body keeps score and collective healing

4 Key Takeaways

1. Grief and anxiety are physical sensations. When we face them, it is essential to hold space for

our bodies to react and adapt to our situations.

2. Finding out what works for you in stressful and unfortunate situations is an art. You can build neurons to strengthen yourself and become more resilient by focusing on what doesn&$39;t hurt.

3. As a caregiver to vulnerable people,

it is important to create boundaries to avoid burnout. You can honor other people's emotions without owning them. 4. Memory is a complex function of the brain. Any time our brain isn&$39;t operating optimally, memory is going to escape.

Links

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748

Connect With Mattie Cummins:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattie-cummins-4b8a033/

Cerebrations: https://www.cerebrations.org/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattiecumminsmsw/

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Cerebrationsllc

With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

If you call yourself lazy or undisciplined every time you get stuck, you're not alone. The good news is that getting stuck is not usually a mindset issue or character defect. There is a science behind why we get stuck and that's what Britt Frank and Tessa discuss throughout this episode.

They chat about why asking why you're stuck keeps you stuck, the life you will unlock if you are willing to deal with the uncomfortable, and habits you can build to regularly get unstuck.

Britt Frank MSW, LSCSW, SEP, is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Trauma Specialist. She is the

author of the book The Science of Stuck.

Timestamps

(00:30) Who is Britt Frank?

(02:02) Is being stuck a form of laziness?

(04:01) Why do we get stuck?

(11:58) Recovering from drug addiction.

( 17:49) Freeing yourself from 'why'

questions (why am I doing what I'm doing?)

(23:35) How do you know how traumatized you are? (Finding perspective vs. making comparisons)

(28:00) Taking control of your choices to create the life you want

(29:58) Daily habits and rituals to get unstuck.

(34:11) Mental

health is a commitment to reality, at all costs (and other helpful reminders)

(37:51) The science of stuck

(39:47) How to connect with Britt Frank

5 Key Takeaways

1. When we get stuck, the first thing we tend to do is blame ourselves. However,

there is a science behind why we get stuck. Being stuck is not a character defect. Understanding the science behind stuck can destigmatize it.

2. We often get stuck because we lack enough information about our brains work. We're not trained to deal with the thoughts that society

deems as shameful. Give yourself permission to heal

3. All change, even good change is threatening to our brain

4. When you get stuck, don't let 'why' questions be your first questions. 'Why' questions will keep you stuck. Instead of asking why - ask what

you're willing to do about your situation

5. We have to be honest with ourselves about the benefits of our choices, even choices that seem like they have no benefits (eg: drug abuse). Name things as they are so you can change them

Links

The Science

of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt Frank: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Stuck-Breaking-Through-Inertia-ebook/dp/B097B3BHL6

Connect With

Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittfrank/?hl=en

Science of Stuck: https://www.scienceofstuck.com

Connect

With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

On episode 57 of Outside The Studio: Making More Money By Changing Your Mind with Marley Rose

Money is a matter of the mind. Or as today's guest would put it: energy. Money coach Marley Rose joins Tessa to talk about how your subconscious mind can limit or expand the income you make. They talk about taking daily inspired action, waking up to the fact that you are meant for more, checking

in with yourself to see if what you're doing now is in alignment with what you desire, rewriting your limiting money beliefs, and how to work your day around your energy.

Marley Rose is a money and business coach. Three years ago she left her job and started a web design company. Then,

she realized her heart wasn't in it. Tune in for the rest of her story.

"Since it's safe and normal, and I believed I deserved it, it's inevitable that you achieve it." - Marley Rose

Find additional details including episode links at: https://TessaTovar.com/blog

On Episode 56 of Outside The Studio:

Why does the same pain keep coming back? Why do some moments feel sad even when they are supposed to happy? Clinical psychologist Dr. Radhule Weininger joins Tessa to discuss Long-standing, Recurrent, Painful Patterns of hurt - or as Radhule likes to call them 'lurps'. In their

conversation they explore how parents influence how their children deal with adversity, having role models who process anger healthily, whether we come from a past life, and how childhood trauma is a spectrum.

Radhule Weininger, Ph.D., MD. is a clinical psychologist and author of

Heart Medicine which received a foreward by H.H. the Dalai Lama. She is the co-founder of Mindful Heart Programs which offer free educational programs in mindfulness and meditation. She also teaches Buddhist meditation and Buddhist psychology.

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Radhule Weininger?

(01:43) Why do painful patterns repeat themselves? (LRPPs)

(04:11) Combining the scientific process of healing with the spiritual process of healing.

(08:58) The spectrum of childhood trauma.

(17:37) How parents affect how we

process trauma or adversity.

(20:37) Is there an age when we are more likely to look inward?

(26:15) Do we have a past life?

(34:02) How the mindfulness field is changing.

(43:39) Is manifestation enough?

5 Key Takeaways

1.

There are many more possibilities than just nature or nurture. There is so much still to learn about our reality and why we experience and process reality the way we do.

2. How our parents reacted to adversity when we were children deeply affects how we frame adversity when we

encounter it today.

3. We all have different internal ages. Our internal age is only one of the things that make us all different from each other. Your path is unlike any other.

4. The universe comes towards us to help us if we come towards it.

5. Longing brings

intention and intention influences behavior.

Links

Heart Medicine: How to Stop Painful Patterns and Find Peace and Freedom--at Last by Radhule Weininger https://www.radhuleweiningerphd.com/heart-medicine

Connect With Radhule Weininger, Ph.D.:

Meditation platform: https://mindfulheartprograms.org

Website: https://www.radhuleweiningerphd.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radhuleweininger

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/radhule-weininger-phd-md-35592937

Connect With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus