Summary

In this episode, Jarrod and Dr. Nikki explore their experiences with individual and couples therapy, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems. They discuss their evolving perceptions of therapy, the importance of personal work before couples therapy, and the benefits of connecting with emotions. They emphasize how therapy improves communication, deepens understanding of each other's stories and insecurities, and strengthens emotional bonds. They recommend couples therapy for all relationships, highlighting the value of open and honest communication.

Takeaways

• Therapy can be a valuable tool for personal growth and healing.

• Personal development work can enhance the effectiveness of therapy.

• Internal Family Systems therapy can help individuals identify and work with different parts of themselves.

• Doing personal work before entering couples therapy can enhance communication and connection.

• Therapy is not about fixing, but about understanding and healing.

• Therapy can be life-changing and is most effective when the individual is ready to receive it.

• Individual therapy can help with connecting to and understanding emotions, as well as making connections between past experiences and present challenges.

• Couples therapy, specifically using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), can improve communication, rekindle emotional and physical bonds, and help understand each other's stories and insecurities.

• Couples therapy is beneficial for all couples, regardless of the state of their relationship, and promotes open, honest, and vulnerable communication.

Resources From Episode

Southern Belle farm

Link to EFT - sue johnson

IFS Parts Book

Peach Cobbler!

Related Resources

Blog: Unleash Your Inner Self with Internal Family Systems Therapy

Podcast Episode: How Your Beliefs About Yourself Hold You Back And What You Can Do About It

Chapters

01:20 Introduction to Therapy Discussion

04:30 Discussion on Individual and Couples Therapy

18:28 Understanding and Labeling Different Parts of Ourselves in Therapy

24:08 The Importance of Individual Work Before Couples Therapy

26:02 Overview of Internal Family Systems Therapy

26:47 Conclusion and Individual Therapy Experience

34:32 The Role of Emotionally Focused Therapy

38:15 The Importance of Openness, Vulnerability, and Acceptance

44:56 Therapy as a Tool for Personal Growth and Strengthening Relationships

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Summary In this episode, Jarrod and Dr. Nikki have a raw and authentic conversation about a recent conflict they had regarding money and purchasing chairs for their backyard. They discuss their individual triggers and underlying beliefs that contribute to their reactions during conflicts. They also highlight the importance of vulnerability, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence in navigating disagreements in a relationship. They emphasize the value of understanding each other's stories and beliefs and how therapy has helped them in their journey.

Takeaways

• Conflicts in relationships often stem from underlying triggers and beliefs that are rooted in past experiences.
• Understanding and being aware of your own emotions and beliefs can help in navigating conflicts more effectively.
• Vulnerability and open communication are key in resolving conflicts and strengthening relationships.
• Therapy can provide valuable insights and tools for understanding and addressing relationship dynamics.
• Self-work and self-awareness are essential for personal growth and building healthier relationships.

Related Resources

Blog post: Finding Balance Navigating Fomo vs Jomo in Your Marriage& Family life

Blog Post: The Dance of Dollars: Navigating Money Matters in Your Relationship

Blog Post: 7 Reasons Why You Should Go To Couples Therapy Before You're In Crisis

Over dinner EP 14: Date Night Q&A: A Fun Way To Reconnect With Your Spouse

Over Dinner Ep 13: Building Dreams Together: Entrepreneurial Insights on Partnership

Over Dinner EP 18: The Currency of Love: How Money Impacts Relationships

Over Dinner EP 5: How Your Beliefs About Yourself Hold You Back And What You Can Do About It

Over Dinner EP 4: Conflict in Relationship & The Importance of Repair

Over Dinner EP 3: The Birthday Episode

Resources from Episode

Tim Ferriss Show- Episode with Dr. Sue Johnson

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:26 The Conflict and the Importance of Authenticity

18:32 Understanding the Cycle and Breaking Free

28:11 The Role of Self-Work and Emotional Intelligence

37:48 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

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Summary: In this episode of Over Dinner, Jarrod and Dr. Nikki discuss their podcast journey and share updates. They also play a game where they ask each other questions from the conversation set: Healthier Together: Conversations For Creating Your Healthiest, Happiest Life by Liz Moody They talk about topics like well-being, spirituality, changing opinions and values, favorite activities with friends, and the pursuit of happiness. In this conversation, Jarrod and Nikki discuss various topics related to happiness, fear, legacy, self-improvement, travel experiences, and the meaning of life. They reflect on the importance of being present and fulfilled in order to achieve happiness. They also explore the idea of eliminating fear and how it would allow them to pursue their passions, such as music. Legacy is discussed as something beyond wealth, focusing on making an impact in their home and raising their children to make a positive impact as well. They also talk about the challenges of getting older and the excitement of rediscovering oneself. The conversation highlights the significance of communication, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness in creating a better world. Lastly, they discuss the impact of their family's relationship with health on their own lives.

Related Resources:

Prioritizing your marriage podcast episode

Prioritizing your marriage & setting boundaries blog post

Podcast Episode on feeling social anxiety & awkwardness

Resources from episode:

Q&A Conversation Set: Healthier Together: Conversations For Creating Your Healthiest, Happiest Life by Liz Moody

Scandinavian Spa in Whistler

Takeaways:

• They introduce a game where they ask each other questions created by Liz Moody.

• They discuss the Nik Nak shop, which is a shop that sells podcast equipment, autism life stuff, mom gear, and more.

• Jarrod and Dr. Nikki share their favorite activities to do with friends and recall a memorable trip to Italy.

• They talk about their changing opinions and values, including the importance of vulnerability and the shift in their views on money.

• Jarrod expresses his struggle in having deep conversations with male friends, and Dr. Nikki suggests ways to approach the situation.

• Getting older brings the opportunity to rediscover oneself and shed the things that no longer serve us.

• Communication, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness are key to creating a better world.

• Family's relationship with health can impact one's own approach to health and well-being.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

00:00 Playing Q & A Together Game

04:35 Discussing Well Being & Spirtuality

16:51 Sharing Compliments and Struggles

23:01 The Power of Deep Conversations & Navigating Social Enviornments

26:26 The Pursuit of Happiness and the Meaning of Fulfillment

29:34 Legacy Beyond Wealth: Making an Impact

37:28 Favorite Travel Experiences & The Excitment of Getting Older

43:19 Creating a Better World Through Communication & Emotional Intelligence

45:29 Embracing Aging and Remembering Who We Are

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Summary:

In this conversation, Dr. Nikki and Jarrod discuss their journey as entrepreneurs and the challenges they face in balancing work, personal life, and building a business. They emphasize the importance of consistency and discipline in achieving success and making an impact. They also highlight the value of vulnerability and authenticity in connecting with others and creating a community. They provide practical advice for individuals who want to pursue their passions while juggling other responsibilities.

Jarrod and Nikki also discuss the challenges and dynamics of being in a relationship while pursuing entrepreneurship. They emphasize the importance of having a supportive partner and making a commitment to each other's fulfillment. They also discuss the need for clear communication, redefining success, and finding joy in the process. They encourage listeners to reflect on their passions and sparks of inspiration, and to choose the things that make them feel good.

Takeaways:

• Consistency and discipline are key to achieving success and making an impact.
• Vulnerability and authenticity are important in connecting with others and creating a community.
• Finding purpose and passion in your work can drive you to overcome challenges and stay committed.
• Balancing work, personal life, and building a business requires prioritization and effective time management.
• It's important to redefine success and focus on your own goals and values rather than comparing yourself to others. Having a supportive partner is crucial when pursuing entrepreneurship
• Clear communication and commitment to each other's fulfillment is important in a relationship
• Redefine success and focus on the joy and fulfillment in the process
• Reflect on your passions and sparks of inspiration to guide your entrepreneurial journey
• Choose the things that make you feel good and bring you joy

Chapters

00:00 The Evolution of Over Dinner: From Conversations to a Podcast

01:46 Navigating Entrepreneurship: Challenges and Growth

29:14 Parenting and Career: Balancing Personal Growth and Entrepreneurship

31:37 The Pursuit of Fulfillment and Passion

52:34 The Grind: Consistency and Learning

59:31 Choosing Joy and Embracing Discomfort

Related Resources What Nik Knows Blog

What Nik Knows Podcast

@paxthedood

Becoming Mama & Beyond

@dr_nikkiphd

Resources from episode

Riverside fm

Our Podcast Mics

Podcast headphones

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Summary

In this conversation, Nikki and Jarrod discuss their experiences with social awkwardness and self-consciousness in social settings. They explore the factors that contribute to these feelings, such as anxiety, low self-esteem, and past experiences. They also touch on the challenges of navigating social gatherings as parents of an autistic child. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding and normalizing these feelings, as well as the need for deeper, more meaningful conversations in social settings. In this conversation, Jarrod and Nikki discuss their experiences with social awkwardness and self-consciousness. They explore how these feelings manifest in different social settings and how they can practice empathy and self-acceptance. They also touch on the role of meditation in increasing self-awareness and managing emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of understanding and accepting one's own emotions and recognizing that everyone experiences struggles and insecurities.

Takeaways

• Social awkwardness and self-consciousness can be caused by anxiety, low self-esteem, and past experiences.
• Parents may feel additional pressure and self-consciousness in social settings due to the challenges of parenting, especially if they have a child with special needs.
• It is important to understand and normalize these feelings, as many people may be silently struggling in social situations.
• Deeper, more meaningful conversations can help alleviate social awkwardness and create a more inclusive and supportive environment. Social awkwardness and self-consciousness can make it challenging to engage in conversations and social interactions.
• Practicing empathy involves recognizing that everyone experiences struggles and insecurities.
• Increasing self-awareness through meditation can help manage emotions and improve social interactions.
• Self-acceptance is key in navigating social situations and overcoming feelings of social awkwardness.
• It is important to remember that everyone has their own struggles and insecurities, and it is not helpful to compare oneself to others.

Chapters00:00 Introduction and Dinner Recipe

03:01 Social Awkwardness and Self-Consciousness

08:57 The Impact of Parenting

12:56 Understanding and Normalizing Social Anxiety

23:54 Silent Strugglse and Positive Facades

26:44 Navigating Social Awkwardness and Self- Consciousness

30:28 Practicing Empathy and Self Acceptance

32:47 The Role of Meditation in Increasing Self-Awareness

35:44 Understanding and Managing Emotions

39:03 Recognizing That Everyone Has Struggles

41:36 Overcoming Social Awkwardness Through Self-Awareness

Related resources:

The Silent Struggle: Depression Among Successful Women

Embracing Scribble: My ADHD Self Acceptance Story

EP 6 Embracing Curiosity: Overcoming Fear and Embracing Growth

EP 5 How Your Beliefs About Yourself Hold You Back and What You Can Do About It

I Am Empathetic...I Think

Become Your Best Friend

Resources from episode:

• RAS
• 4 categories of social awkwardness/self conscious
• Soccer YouTube video
• Still Face Experiment
• How to meditate
• 16 Personalities
• Supercommunicators - Charles Duhigg

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In this conversation, Jarrod and Nikki discuss their journey with autism and the therapies they have chosen for their son, Jake. They talk about their experience with ABA therapy and the importance of finding a center and team that prioritize the well-being and individual needs of their child. They also discuss the role of speech therapy in supporting Jake's language development, particularly as a Gestalt Language Processor (GLP). The couple emphasizes the importance of open communication, collaboration, and advocating for their child's unique needs. In this part of the conversation, Jarrod and Nikki discuss their son Jake's musical abilities, language development, hyperlexia, and socialization. They emphasize the importance of leaning into Jake's interests and finding ways to connect with him through his special interests. They also talk about the challenges of finding the right therapists and advocating for their child's needs. They provide insights on trusting instincts, building a supportive team, and asking the right questions.

Get your free download: 12 Essential Questions to Ask Yourself & Your Providers

Takeaways:

• Finding a center and team that prioritize the well-being and individual needs of the child is crucial in autism therapy.
• Open communication and collaboration with therapists and professionals are essential for effective support.
• Understanding the unique needs of the child, such as being a Gestalt Language Processor (GLP), can guide therapy choices and approaches.
• Advocating for the child's needs and being open to trying different therapies and approaches can lead to positive outcomes.
• The journey with autism is filled with highs and lows, and it's important to embrace and support the child's growth and development. Leaning into a child's interests can help with learning and connection
• Finding the right therapists and building a supportive team is crucial
• Trust your instincts and advocate for your child's needs
• Ask the right questions to ensure the best support for your child

Resources from episode:

Recipe from dinner

Cottage Cheese Pizza Crust

Blogger Carrie Cariello

ABA as gold standard

Mary Barbera

DIR Floor Time Therapy

BCBA Definition

Hyperlexia

Gestlat Language Processing Support

Instagram: Bohospeechie

Instagram: Meaningfulspeech

Instagram: Empoweringspeechservices

Instagram: Cresendocommunication

Book: Autistics on Autism by Kerry Margro

Instagram: kaelynnpartlow

Where to learn more:

EP 10: Navigating Autism: Our Journey Raising a Neurodiverse Child

Blog posts:

A Mother's Journey with Autism: Navigating Grief, Acceptance, and Growth

What Every Mom Needs To Hear After An Autism Diagnosis

Hi, I'm Nikki. I'm An Autism Mom.

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In this episode, Jarrod and Nikki discuss their journey with their son Jake and his autism diagnosis. They talk about the signs leading up to the diagnosis, their initial reactions, and the range of emotions they experienced. They also touch on the importance of early intervention and finding the right support for their child. While they acknowledge the challenges and grief that come with an autism diagnosis, they also emphasize the acceptance and pride they have for their son. Jarrod and Nik discuss their experiences and challenges as parents of a child with autism. They talk about the difficulty of letting go of control and expectations, and the importance of being present in their son's world. They also discuss the need for acceptance and understanding, both within their relationship and with friends and family. They emphasize the importance of finding a support system and connecting with other parents who understand their journey. They also touch on the financial and emotional challenges of raising a child with autism, and the importance of aligning as a couple and having open and honest communication.

Takeaways:

• Early intervention is crucial for children with autism.
• Finding the right support and therapy for your child is important.
• Acceptance and pride in your child's abilities are key.
• Grief and a range of emotions are normal reactions to an autism diagnosis. Letting go of control and expectations is difficult but necessary when parenting a child with autism.
• Being present in the child's world and following their interests can lead to a deeper connection and understanding.
• Finding a support system and connecting with other parents who understand the journey is crucial.
• Open and honest communication, alignment as a couple, and shared values are important for navigating the challenges of raising a child with autism.
• Financial stress and the need for additional support services can add to the challenges of parenting a child with autism.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Background 00:05 Part 1: Signs and Diagnosis of Autism 21:11 Part 3: Embracing Neurodiversity and Celebrating Jake 24:53 Unmasking and Acceptance 28:15 Hopes and Dreams for the Future 30:12 Letting Go of Control 34:07 Becoming More Intentional 37:17 Navigating Relationships 40:35 Building Supportive Relationships 43:30 Aligning Goals and Values 46:21 Debunking Misconceptions 53:58 Embracing the Journey

To Learn More:

What Nik Knows Blog:

A Mother's Journey with Autism: Navigating Grief, Acceptance, and Growth

What Every Mom Needs To Hear After An Autism Diagnosis

Hi. I'm Nikki. I'm An Autism Mom

Show Resources

Regional Center California

Babies Can't Wait

Neurodiversity Affirming DSM Diagnosis Criteria

Welcome to Holland Poem

Temple Grandin

Divorce within families with a special needs child on psychology today

Mary Barbera Hyperlexia + Autism

And Next Comes the L Hyperlexia Blog Post

Glass Child Syndrome

What is Glass Child Syndrome?

Why Many Autistic Girls Are Overlooked

Receptive vs Expressive Language

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In this conversation, Jarrod and Nikki discuss the importance of prioritizing their marriage while raising children. They talk about the challenges they faced in the past and how they have learned to communicate and set expectations when going out together. They emphasize the need for individual growth and self-care in order to be better partners and parents. They also discuss the importance of saying no and setting boundaries to maintain balance in their lives. Overall, they highlight the importance of open communication, planning, and prioritizing the different aspects of their lives.

Takeaways

• Being spontaneous with children requires careful consideration of the impact on routines and plans.
• Setting boundaries and saying no are important for maintaining balance and avoiding overwhelm.
• Building and maintaining adult friendships can be challenging, especially with the responsibilities of parenting.
• Decisions about social events should be based on personal values and well-being, rather than social pressure or fear of missing out. Prioritizing the marriage is essential while raising children
• Open communication and setting expectations when going out together is important
• Individual growth and self-care contribute to being better partners and parents
• Saying no and setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining balance
• Planning and prioritizing different aspects of life is necessary

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties 03:30 Can You Be Spontaneous with Kids? 06:03 Setting Boundaries and Saying No 08:49 Navigating Adult Friendships 13:44 Making Aligned Decisions 21:43 The Challenges of Being Spontaneous 28:48 Communication and Expectations When Going Out 33:43 Individual Growth and Self-Care for Better Relationships 40:48 The Importance of Saying No and Setting Boundaries 44:02 Planning and Prioritizing for Balance

Learn More:

What Nik Knows Blog: Finding Balance: Navigating FOMO vs JOMO in your Marriage & Family Life

Over Dinner Blog & Transcript

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In this conversation, Jarrod and Nikki discuss their personal values and beliefs around money and how it impacts their relationship. They explore topics such as emotional spending, experiences vs material possessions, life changes, staying on routine, rebounding after setbacks, and manifesting dreams and money. They emphasize the importance of understanding each other's beliefs about money, aligning values and goals, and having open and honest communication about finances. They also discuss the challenges of balancing personal passions and financial responsibilities. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for empathy, compromise, and ongoing dialogue in managing finances as a couple.

Takeaways:

• Aligning values and goals is crucial for effective budgeting and financial management.

• Emotional spending can be driven by both positive and negative emotions.

• Balancing financial responsibility with enjoying life can be challenging.

• Open and honest communication is essential for understanding and resolving differences in financial perspectives. Understand each other's beliefs and values about money

• Align values and goals to make financial decisions

• Have open and honest communication about finances

• Balance personal passions and financial responsibilities

• Practice empathy and compromise in managing finances as a couple

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction 01:30 Guilt and Responsibility 09:29 The Importance of Budgeting 12:03 Differences in Financial Values 15:08 Aligning Values and Goals 23:09 Balancing Experiences and Material Possessions 24:27 Navigating Life Changes and Staying on Routine 25:58 Rebounding After Setbacks 26:55 Manifesting Dreams and Money 39:58 The Importance of Communication and Empathy in Finances

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What Nik Knows Blog

Over Dinner Blog

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This conversation explores the journey of navigating parenthood and finding balance as a couple. In this conversation, Jarrod and Nikki discuss the importance of communication and understanding in their relationship. They talk about the challenges they face as individuals and as partners, including managing their emotions, supporting each other's needs, and dealing with the mental load of motherhood and fatherhood. They emphasize the need for honesty, vulnerability, and active listening in order to maintain a strong connection. They also highlight the importance of reconnection and repair after periods of separation or stress. Overall, they stress the importance of open and ongoing communication in building a successful partnership

Takeaways:

• Balancing roles and responsibilities in a relationship is crucial for a healthy partnership.
• The mental load of parenting can be overwhelming, and it is important to provide emotional support to each other.
• Shared goals and values are essential for navigating the challenges of parenthood.
• Societal expectations and past experiences can influence parenting dynamics.
• Finding balance as a couple requires open communication and understanding. Open and honest communication is crucial in a relationship
• Understanding and supporting each other's needs is essential
• Managing emotions and the mental load of parenthood can be challenging
• Reconnection and repair are important after periods of separation or stress

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Scene 08:30 The Mental Load of Parenting 32:38 The Power of Communication and Understanding 45:12 Managing the Unseen Mental Load 55:53 Expressing Gratitude and Interest 01:02:47 Open and Ongoing Communication

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What Nik Knows Blog: Feeling like a bad mom? Here are 8 ways to repair with yourself.

https://www.whatnikknows.com/blog/feeling-like-a-bad-mom-here-are-8-ways-to-repair-with-yourself

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