Episode 0: Why We Lose Ourselves

A quiet conversation about hurry, attention, and finding ourselves again.

We rarely lose ourselves all at once.

More often, it happens quietly.

Through hurry.

Through distraction.

Through good intentions that slowly become crowded lives.

In this opening conversation, Louis-Philippe reflects on attention, presence, and the quiet work of returning to ourselves.

In this episode:

Why losing ourselves is often gradual rather than dramatic.

How attention shapes our experience of life.

The cost of living on autopilot.

A simple practice for becoming more present in ordinary moments.

Practice for the Week

Choose one ordinary moment this week and be fully present for it.

A cup of coffee.

A walk.

The drive home.

Preparing a meal.

Notice where your attention wants to go and gently bring it back.

Not perfectly.

Just intentionally.

Questions pour la route

Where in my life am I living on autopilot?

What has been quietly asking for my attention?

What ordinary moment this week could become a place to practice presence?

About Overcome Café

Overcome Café offers short conversations exploring rhythm, presence, meaningful work, and the quiet work of becoming.

These conversations are designed to accompany listeners on the road, on the trail, or in the ordinary moments of daily life.

Live in rhythm, not in reaction.

Disclaimer

The Overcome Café Podcast is intended for educational and reflective purposes only and does not constitute psychotherapy, counselling, coaching, medical, legal, or financial advice.

Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapeutic or professional relationship with Louis-Philippe Landry or Overcome Café.

If you require professional support, please consult an appropriate qualified professional in your area. If you are experiencing a crisis please contact 988 which is a Canadian National helpline or contact your local crisis line centre.

Vicki and LP talk about building trust in a team context at work or in social group settings.  This conversation is intended to jumpstart a greater discussion on trust and sharing knowledge.

Stay driven and vulnerable,

LP

Hey folks,

I have gratitude for clients who, since 2008, have let me have a front-row seat to their struggles and successes with transitions and post-highlight events. Your trust and hard work towards personal growth still inspire me today!

Most of what we do is learn to identify and accept the feelings(not endorse but intentionally accept them for what they are) in order to move forward and choose our next course of action. This might sound simple, but it is hard and consistent work nonetheless.

Our question in this segment came from the cycling community (you folks rock!) but I feel that this discussion might resonate with all of us who have had to work hard towards a specific goal which led us to new guideposts in our lives. According to this article, if you’re unsure if you might have post-workout blues, here are a few valuable questions to ask yourself https://www.verywellfit.com/in-the-forum-can-exercise-cause-depression-3976865 (consulted on 30 August 2022, 3:40 pm).

We aim to answer in terms of life transitions and psychotherapy view lens as to how you can better manage the feelings triggered as a result of a big event such as a big race or a milestone at work/home. Having pushed myself right before the recording of the podcast, I had my version of this I had a fresh perspective to offer, but I am the first to acknowledge that what works for me, might not work for you. If you feel worried that this might be more, I encourage you to reach out to a mental health specialist or your family doctor/local hospital.

This episode was such a great experience where you get to hear our take on accepting ourselves as we are in the moment and be still with physical and emotional sensations in order to: stop, re-assess, and move forward with new knowledge and resilience.

Thank you so much for listening!

Stay driven and vulnerable,

LP Landry

Hey folks,

In this episode, Matt and I venture into the vast territory of fear. We discuss the concept as a strength as well as an obstacle to comfort and well-being.

Stay driven and vulnerable,

LP Landry.

Hey everyone,

If you’re like us, you love deep coffee conversations!  Those great moments where great stories unfold. You start by chatting about the weather and news to somehow find yourself discussing existential questions.  Vicki and I both work from home and we have those daily conversations ranging from: “How can I be better at my craft?” to “what do we want to eat for dinner?”.   We are grateful that the pandemic hasn’t removed those deeper connection moments. This episode is a genuine real “coffee talk” conversation about the challenges of navigating a “new” passion into being part of better life quality and trying to find a community while honing your skills. 

How often did you start something but quit because you didn’t find “your crew” or that external validation that keeps you going? We hope that Vicki’s experience encourages you to press on and find community.  We don’t pretend to have all the answers in this one, we want to offer a reflection on why driven people might isolate themselves vs than invest in a community.  The quest to achieve a goal can distract from the beauty of discovering new knowledge by being with others!  Vicki’s story shares the balance between goals, persistence, and growing with others.

Stay driven and vulnerable,

LP.

Hey folks,

Today’s episode is an exciting one!  We have Vicki Lambrou as a guest to share her cycling experience and how this has provided an arena to express life lessons and self-care.  She is a certified counselor working in the Canadian Federal Government and she spends her waking hours helping others. From clients to friends and family, she brings compassion and understanding to others while balancing self-care and personal development.  Her experience in cycling is representative of driven people trying to do the “jugging act” and choosing to set goals that are process-oriented “aka character-building” rather than striving for the next “new thing”.  We have an account of openness and authenticity from Vicki and we hope you will find your “give yourself a break” moment in order to find your passion in cycling.

Stay driven and vulnerable,

LP Landry, co-host of Overcome Café: tales of Mind, Body, and Relationships.

Vicki and I sit down and have a great conversation about the expectations we have with regard to mental health. I give an account from a client’s perspective and the therapist’s perspective and try to address some of the obstacles a driven person would likely have.

Stay driven and vulnerable,

LP Landry

Today’s episode was such a dream of mine! Having the chance to build alongside great humans! A guest that became a friend and the MOST important human in my life, aka my better half, Vicki! This episode dives deep into each of our individual why. Having taken each our own journey to get to this I thought it would so interesting for you to hear us working on this via this episode. I am so happy for you to hear this genuine, soul-feeding, and emotionally freeing conversation. We three are different variants of driven people, and this is so obvious by the way we approach life wherever that means of each of us.

Where we unite Matt, Vicki and I are that we are process-oriented and time or number specific are the arenas where we grow and gain wisdom that leads us to our purposes/personal why.

Have a great listen folks!

Stay driven and vulnerable,

LP Landry.

IIn Episode 4, we bring you a new segment entitled “DM a therapist”. With this segment we aim to be a compliment to your daily life and give you concrete ways to manage close quarters with our close ones/ roommates.

We also have the honour of presenting the 3rd co-host, Vicki Lambrou (AKA my best half!!) she is a great leader and trained counsellor, so we get to work and play together in this segment. This is her brainchild and wanted you to have a glimpse to one of our most precious moments our coffee moments where we talk about helping people and becoming better mental health workers in our given fields. She has a great heart for people and she believes that our convos will help you better connect with others.

We also role play a tense moment that probably has arisen in many homes during the pandemic.

Thank you so much for listening!

With my utmost kindness,

LP Landry, psychotherapist.

In part 3 of our episodes, we dive deeper into the understanding of cycling, ethics, psychotherapy, and philosophy play into Matt Surch's approach in the cycling sphere. Matt is great at navigating many of life’s paradoxical nature and providing great knowledge and wisdom as to how to reconcile many seemingly incompatible concepts. We also launch the new “DM a therapist” conversations where I get to answer some of your questions in regards to therapy :)

Thank you so much for listening!

LP Landry, psychotherapist.