Express Your Wonders

Overcoming People-Pleasing: Prioritize Yourself and Set Boundaries

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of "Express Your Wonders," host Bronwyn Corkery explores the topic of people-pleasing and its impact on mental health. She discusses the traits of people-pleasers, the root causes of this behavior, and the negative effects it can have on relationships and self-worth. Bronwyn offers practical tips for setting boundaries, saying no, and embracing discomfort to break free from people-pleasing habits. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize their own needs and celebrate their progress in becoming less of a people-pleaser.

Key Takeaways:

  • Developing People pleaser habits can be different from person to person. It commonly comes from issues like low self-esteem, or fear of rejection.  It can also stem from cultural expectations, or trauma you’ve dealt with in your past.
  • Recognizing issues from your past and connecting them to your habits of pleasing others is a first step toward changing your behaviors to honor your own needs.
  • There are negative effects on your mental health when you live with people pleasing habits.  It can cause anger, frustration, burnout, weakened relationships, stress and anxiety and loss of self-identity and can lead to depression.  Noticing these negative signs is another important step in changing your habits and freeing yourself.
  • When it comes to your mental health, it is not selfish at all to prioritize yourself.  It’s actually necessary for a healthier, happier life, that you are worthy of, and in the end makes everyone around you even happier.
  • When you put everyone before yourself, you are deciding that they are more important than you, and that’s one of those false lies that we learn to believe at a pretty young age, and it really isn’t true.
  • Setting boundaries is an important part of the process of overcoming people pleasing habits.
  • If something doesn’t align with who you are or what your priorities are, you’ll have to decide what your boundary is and prepare yourself ahead.
  • If it’s really hard for you, and you just can’t get started with setting boundaries to change people pleasing patterns, consider talking to a therapist or counselor.  Professional support can give you some real valuable guidance and encouragement.  
  • Setting boundaries could feel really uncomfortable at first, but it’s really important, and as with anything new, the more you practice, the easier it will get.  
  • Remember to be kind to yourself.  When you start to get self critical, turn that around with more supportive and understanding thoughts.  You’re doing the best you can, and that is enough. 

    • Resources:

    • Calm (Meditation App): Calm Website

    • Headspace (Meditation App): Headspace Website

    • The Miracle Morning App: Hal Elrod's Website

    • Meditations by Gabby Bernstein: Gabby Bernstein's Website

    • Express Your Wonders Podcast Community Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2683141258615952

    • Brand New Day by Lucy Wood: https://open.spotify.com/track/0TEPOktEg4ppgqFciZi2Ar?si=qyqmB2xMSH-k8nXRHLpSlA


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