#240: Offering unnecessarily exhaustive explanations is a very smart coping mechanism we develop, usually in childhood. However, while overexplaining can provide short-term relief, it also reinforces the very emotional outsourcing cycles we’re trying to escape.    Join me today to discover the common origin stories that lead to the habit of overexplaining, how it affects our nervous system, and what we can do to start breaking free from this cycle. I’m sharing some of the science behind why we feel the need to overexplain, the power of nurturing self-compassion in this work, and my favorite ways for practicing more concise, direct communication.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/240

Ep #240: Overexplaining

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#272: If you find yourself exhausted from overextending yourself, stuck in relationships that feel one-sided, or even helping others in an attempt to ease your own discomfort, it might be time to rethink how you express compassion. This week, I'm offering a new lens through which to examine your actions, which I like to call "misguided compassion."    Tune in to learn how misguided compassion can highlight our tendencies in emotional outsourcing, but also offer us the opportunity to find balance. You'll learn some common signs you may be engaging in misguided compassion and my favorite remedies for breaking free from it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/271  

Ep #272: Misguided Compassion

#271: If you relate to my definition of emotional outsourcing tendencies, the thought of giving yourself true rest likely hasn’t crossed your mind in a hot minute. But have you ever wondered what it would be like to just call it and decide you’re not going to push through when your internal world is screaming for a break?   Tune in this week to hear the importance of befriending rest and the alternative to pushing through when your brain and body say no. I’m sharing a list of questions you can use to check in with yourself when you hear that internal nudge, and my favorite tools to borrow when you need a break but don’t have the privilege of ignoring your responsibilities.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/271

Ep #271: Befriending Rest

#270: In a world where codependence and independence are posited as the only two options for how we can show up, you’re not alone if you feel a sense of tension in either way of being. Interdependence offers a healthy middle ground to these extremes, but what does interdependence actually look like, and how do we practice it?    Tune in to this episode to learn the differences between codependent relating and interdependence, and why interdependence in relationships feels so much better. I’m showing you what interdependence really looks like, both in relationship with yourself and others, and two pieces of homework that will help you begin moving the needle toward interdependence.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/270

Ep #270: Interdependence: The Healthy Power of Needing Each Other

#269: There are a lot of things in the world right now that we could tell worried stories around, and our nervous systems jump to worry because they’re here to protect us. But the truth is, worry never accomplishes anything. Taking action, on the other hand, does.   If you want to get out of the habit of worrying and release your nervous system from this uncomfortable feeling, then today’s episode is for you. Tune in for a replay of one of our most valuable episodes where you’ll learn why worrying is always optional and I help you recognize where being stuck in the habit of worrying is holding you back in your life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/269

Ep #269: Support Your Nervous System During Worrying Times

#268: If you’ve been doing thought work for a while and have noticed yourself ruminating, or your thoughts moving into the land of self-criticism, you’re not alone. I've been there and so have many of my clients. Today, I want to offer a gentle reminder about the power of reconnecting to our physical bodies in our self development work.    In this episode, I’m sharing the reasons why our connection with our bodies’ deep intelligence is crucial as we learn to reclaim our presence and regulate our nervous systems. You’ll learn how to rebuild your somatic connection by honoring your biological impulses, and helpful questions to ask yourself to get out of your head and back into your body.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/268

Ep #240: Overexplaining

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