Feminist Wellness

#299: Do you ever catch yourself saying things like "I don't want to be a burden" or "I should be able to handle this on my own?"

These sneaky emotional outsourcing thoughts can keep us trapped in codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist patterns. The good news is that I have practical remedies that will help you break free. From the 2% permission practice to reversing the spotlight effect, you'll walk away with actionable steps to start prioritizing your own needs and desires.

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#298: Are you tired of feeling like a doormat in your relationships? But are you also scared of being perceived as a jerk if you stop people-pleasing and start setting boundaries? What’s the secret to being loving and supportive without abandoning yourself in the process?

This week, I dive deep into the difference between being considerate and codependent. You'll learn how to recognize when you're engaging in emotional outsourcing, how to start setting boundaries that protect your energy and well-being, and how you can show up for others from a place of genuine care instead of obligation or fear.

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#297: Have you heard of the "nervous system reset"? It's a popular idea these days, but is it really possible to erase the impact of trauma with the push of an imaginary button?

In this episode, I dive deep into the science of trauma and the nervous system to explain why the notion of a reset is not only inaccurate, but potentially harmful. I explore what trauma really is, how it shapes our nervous system, and what true healing involves. (Spoiler alert: it's not about eliminating our experiences, but integrating them.)

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#296: Are you ready to radically change your life through self-love and healing? In this week's episode, Ali Zamora shares her transformative journey of overcoming codependency and depression by trusting her intuition and embracing embodiment practices. 

Ali discusses how the foundational tools she learned in my Anchored program equipped her to navigate the layers of healing and step into her most authentic self. If you've been struggling with emotional outsourcing, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, this episode will inspire you to start questioning everything and create the life you truly desire.

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#295: Have you ever wondered what the differences between an ultimatum and a boundary are, and which might be the better choice? What do you do when you’re having a challenging conversation with someone and they go quiet, leaving you feeling freaked out and anxious? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, I offer my answers to these questions and show you how to regulate your nervous system from a place of compassion and curiosity while holding space for those you love. 

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Are you done doing too much for everyone else (then resenting them), and putting yourself last?

It’s time to step into a life where you’re no longer overriding your needs, on the verge of burnout, and feeling completely disconnected from your own self.

If you’re ready to start building relationships with more authenticity and less one sided overfunctioning (even if that means some relationships aren’t ready to evolve with you)… join me on Tuesday, October 15th at 8pm ET for a free all new webinar called Stop Overfunctioning!

Register today: https://victoriaalbina.com/stop-overfunctioning/

#294: I am so thrilled to be joined this week by my Anchored alum Hedy, a full-time job-haver, a full-time mom, and a dog mom. After joining Anchored, she describes the growth she has seen in her life since as profound. Hedy took a chance on herself, said yes, and learning how her life has changed on the other side of Anchored is the medicine we all need right now.

Tune in today to hear Hedy’s story of letting go of control, perfectionism, and codependency in a community that met her where she was, so she could change where she was. Hedy shares how she improved the way she shows up in relationship with others, learned to live in her body, and she vulnerably dives into using the lessons she learned in Anchored long after she left.

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#293: Do you find yourself constantly accommodating others at the expense of your own needs and desires? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, we explore the profound shift from bracing tolerance to intentional tolerance in the healing journey out of emotional outsourcing. Tune in to discover how you can cultivate a grounded presence and emotional resilience, so you can thrive in life without losing yourself in the process.

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#292: Most people think that if they’ve been living at one extreme of always saying yes, they need to swing to the other extreme of always saying no and become wildly independent. But that’s no way to be in a loving, caring relationship. The magic lies somewhere in the middle, and it starts by making the choice to no longer self-abandon, which takes a whole lot of self-love. 

Join me this week to learn my roadmap for breaking free from the self-abandonment cycle and embracing a life of greater interdependence. You’ll hear how to use somatics and thought work to manage difficult emotions, the importance of setting boundaries, and concrete tools for interrupting this cycle so you can reclaim your authentic sense of self.

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#291: Many of us have received messages from society that our authentic, most real, and embodied selves are simply not okay. What’s logical is for us to step away from being that person out in the world. In this episode, I dive deep into the self-abandonment cycle that many of us find ourselves trapped in.

Join me this week to learn why you might be stuck in a self-abandonment cycle, and the somatic impact of over-functioning in your life. You’ll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors, how the self-abandonment cycle manifests, and questions that will help you begin to recognize it in your own life.

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