#337: Money shapes more than just our bank accounts - it touches how we show up in relationships, how we value ourselves, and whether we feel secure enough to set boundaries with those who support us financially.

This week, I sit down with financial therapist and author of Feel-Good Finance: Untangle Your Relationship with Money for Better Mental, Emotional, and Financial Well-Being, Aja Evans, to explore the intersection of money and mental health, particularly how codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits show up in our financial lives. 

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#336: Modern friendship isn't what it used to be. We're navigating a world where identity is more complex, where we have unlimited choice in who we befriend, and where the burden of maintaining connections falls entirely on our individual shoulders. 

Friendship expert, speaker, journalist, and author of Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, Anna Goldfarb, also known as "The Friendship Explainer," reveals that this shift has created both unprecedented freedom and unexpected challenges in how we connect with others.

In this conversation, Anna and I examine why so many of us feel lonely despite having full contact lists, and how our codependent and people-pleasing patterns can actually sabotage the authentic connections we crave. Anna shares her research on the five core reasons people make friends and offers a framework for building deeper connections.

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#335: This week, I’m joined by Human Design Expert, Master Coach, Behavioral Specialist, and host of The Human Design Podcast, Emma Dunwoody. Emma shares her personal journey from a diagnosis of lifelong mental illness to becoming a Human Design expert, and how this system helped her understand not just her behaviors, but the energetic blueprint underneath them all.

Join us as we explore Human Design as a synthesis of four ancient wisdom traditions, all mathematically mapped together to create your unique chart. Emma breaks down how this knowledge transforms everything from parenting and business decisions to healing childhood wounds and building authentic relationships.

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#334: Have you ever looked at your life - your career, relationships, achievements - and wondered why success doesn't feel as fulfilling as you thought it would? You’re not alone. Through the relentless pursuit of more, many of us have unknowingly built ourselves beautiful cages instead of the freedom we were seeking.

In this week's powerful episode, I sit down with certified executive coach, speaker, and author Keren Eldad to discuss her new book Gilded: Breaking Free from the Cage of Ambition, Perfectionism, and the Relentless Pursuit of More and explore how overachievement can become a trap rather than a path to fulfillment.

Join us today to hear how to recognize if you're living in a gilded cage of your own making and how to break free. 

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#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you.

Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message.

Join me this week as I unpack why this messaging is particularly dangerous in times of rising fascism and manufactured division.

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#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection.

This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for a crisis to change. You’ll hear why this is one of the most dangerous ideas patriarchy has sold us, and how growth comes from wanting more - more presence, more peace, more pleasure, more days that feel like yours.

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I had the most amazing conversation with Busayo Ayodele, who was in Anchored last year, and I just couldn’t wait to share it.

We had such a fun conversation, and everything she shared about her experience was just so inspiring, so moving, made my heart feel so explode-y. The way Busayo grew in Anchored is everything I dream of. It's the reason why I built Anchored.

So, in case you’re thinking, “I can’t change. I will never stop living with these codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. I’m just stuck in this forever. I was born this way. I’ll die this way. I am inherently defective.” I want to say a big, “Not so fast.” These are survival skills. They’re habits. They’re changeable. And please, listen to Busayo.

If you are moved and want to join Anchored, there are a few spots left for the group starting very soon and I cannot wait to have you join us: https://beatrizalbina.com/getanchored/

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#331: After over a decade of coaching women through codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I'm seeing a heartbreaking pattern: the people who most need community support and nervous system regulation are talking themselves out of the very programs designed to help them.

Whether it's the fear of being a burden, worrying you'll fall into old patterns of over-functioning, or believing you need to fix yourself before deserving help, these barriers could be keeping you trapped in a life you already know you don't want to live.

Tune in this week to discover how healing happens in community, why you can't overcome relational trauma in isolation, and what it actually feels like to be witnessed, supported, and loved without having to earn it through performance or perfection.

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#330: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you.

You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you’re living with emotional outsourcing.

Tune in this week as I break down how emotional outsourcing develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in our bodies as chronic anxiety, exhaustion, and disconnection.

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