Ever have that moment where you realize you've been living your entire life for everyone else? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. You’ve just been emotionally outsourcing.

In this book series bonus, I name the pattern, share why it develops, and explain how it shapes everything from your relationships to your sense of self. And I’ll tell you how my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, can help you start coming home to yourself - no longer orbiting everyone else’s needs, but finally living for you.

Pre-order the book now at victoriaalbina.com/book and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

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12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

It's my birthday month, and I'm doing what any Leo Somatics nerd with a microphone and a brand new book would do. I'm giving you the gifts.

If you pre-order End Emotional Outsourcing by August 18th, 2025, you're automatically entered to win a 30-minute, one-on-one coaching session with moi, not publicly available. Bring your most tangled thought habits, your most scrunched up somatics. Or, a 90-minute breathwork session to help you feel like yourself again, in your body and your spirit, not just your brain.

Go to beatrizalbina.com/birthday for the details and to get in on the magic.

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#337: Money shapes more than just our bank accounts - it touches how we show up in relationships, how we value ourselves, and whether we feel secure enough to set boundaries with those who support us financially.

This week, I sit down with financial therapist and author of Feel-Good Finance: Untangle Your Relationship with Money for Better Mental, Emotional, and Financial Well-Being, Aja Evans, to explore the intersection of money and mental health, particularly how codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits show up in our financial lives. 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/337

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning.

You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.

This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#336: Modern friendship isn't what it used to be. We're navigating a world where identity is more complex, where we have unlimited choice in who we befriend, and where the burden of maintaining connections falls entirely on our individual shoulders. 

Friendship expert, speaker, journalist, and author of Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, Anna Goldfarb, also known as "The Friendship Explainer," reveals that this shift has created both unprecedented freedom and unexpected challenges in how we connect with others.

In this conversation, Anna and I examine why so many of us feel lonely despite having full contact lists, and how our codependent and people-pleasing patterns can actually sabotage the authentic connections we crave. Anna shares her research on the five core reasons people make friends and offers a framework for building deeper connections.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/336

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#335: This week, I’m joined by Human Design Expert, Master Coach, Behavioral Specialist, and host of The Human Design Podcast, Emma Dunwoody. Emma shares her personal journey from a diagnosis of lifelong mental illness to becoming a Human Design expert, and how this system helped her understand not just her behaviors, but the energetic blueprint underneath them all.

Join us as we explore Human Design as a synthesis of four ancient wisdom traditions, all mathematically mapped together to create your unique chart. Emma breaks down how this knowledge transforms everything from parenting and business decisions to healing childhood wounds and building authentic relationships.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/335

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#334: Have you ever looked at your life - your career, relationships, achievements - and wondered why success doesn't feel as fulfilling as you thought it would? You’re not alone. Through the relentless pursuit of more, many of us have unknowingly built ourselves beautiful cages instead of the freedom we were seeking.

In this week's powerful episode, I sit down with certified executive coach, speaker, and author Keren Eldad to discuss her new book Gilded: Breaking Free from the Cage of Ambition, Perfectionism, and the Relentless Pursuit of More and explore how overachievement can become a trap rather than a path to fulfillment.

Join us today to hear how to recognize if you're living in a gilded cage of your own making and how to break free. 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/334

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you.

Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message.

Join me this week as I unpack why this messaging is particularly dangerous in times of rising fascism and manufactured division.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/333

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection.

This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for a crisis to change. You’ll hear why this is one of the most dangerous ideas patriarchy has sold us, and how growth comes from wanting more - more presence, more peace, more pleasure, more days that feel like yours.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/332

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing

I had the most amazing conversation with Busayo Ayodele, who was in Anchored last year, and I just couldn’t wait to share it.

We had such a fun conversation, and everything she shared about her experience was just so inspiring, so moving, made my heart feel so explode-y. The way Busayo grew in Anchored is everything I dream of. It's the reason why I built Anchored.

So, in case you’re thinking, “I can’t change. I will never stop living with these codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. I’m just stuck in this forever. I was born this way. I’ll die this way. I am inherently defective.” I want to say a big, “Not so fast.” These are survival skills. They’re habits. They’re changeable. And please, listen to Busayo.

If you are moved and want to join Anchored, there are a few spots left for the group starting very soon and I cannot wait to have you join us: https://beatrizalbina.com/getanchored/

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Save Your Spot for 12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing!

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing is my free, live daily program that I’m teaching from December 15th 2025 to the 26th. This is where you’ll learn how to help your nervous system stop scanning everyone else so you can start hearing you again.

12 Days to End Emotional Outsourcing