Show Notes:
In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, your host Whitni Miller and this month’s esteemed guest, Dr. Emily Jamea discuss the concept of flow state sex, exploring how individuals can enhance their sexual experiences by fostering mindfulness, presence, and connection with their partners. The discussion delves into the differences between 'good enough' sex and flow state sex, emphasizing the importance of trust, security, and communication in relationships. Dr. Jamea shares insights on how to cultivate a fulfilling sexual experience by balancing challenge and skill, setting goals, and reconnecting with one's sensuality and curiosity.

Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and the USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today. 

In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance.

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In this continued conversation, Whitni, Ash, and Dawn explore the intricate dynamics of pleasure, intimacy, and emotional safety within queer relationships. They delve into the concept of flow state, emphasizing its importance in enhancing connection and intimacy. The discussion highlights the significance of understanding desire, whether responsive or spontaneous, and the necessity of communication and consent in fostering a satisfying sexual experience. The conversation culminates in the idea that pleasure is not only a personal journey but also a form of liberation, encouraging couples to embrace their desires and build secure, fulfilling relationships.

Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they’re building as a couple.

With that shared vision, they founded Queer Couples Coaching, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation highlights the significance of daily rituals, aftercare, and the messiness of relationships, ultimately emphasizing that security in a relationship can lead to greater exploration and fulfillment in the bedroom.

Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they’re building as a couple.

With that shared vision, they founded Queer Couples Coaching, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin.

How to work with Ash & Dawn:
https://linktr.ee/Queercouplescoaching

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In this engaging conversation, Whitni Miller and her guest Enita explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy in healthcare. They discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in the context of sexual satisfaction as one ages. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of self-worth and the journey of discovering pleasure throughout life, highlighting that intimacy and eroticism can evolve and deepen over time. The speakers encourage listeners to embrace their desires and advocate for their pleasure, regardless of age or past experiences.

Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita discuss the complexities of pleasure and intimacy as one ages. They explore the physical and psychological changes that come with aging, including menopause, body image issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships, setting boundaries, and finding creative solutions to enhance sexual enjoyment. They also touch on the significance of using lubrication, sex toys, and embracing vulnerability to maintain a fulfilling sex life. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to break societal taboos surrounding aging and sexuality, promoting a positive and open dialogue about pleasure at any age.  

Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo.

Learn More From Enita:
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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita Torres explore the multifaceted aspects of menopause, sexual wellness, and the importance of body positivity. They discuss the societal norms surrounding aging and sexuality, the connection between overall health and sexual pleasure, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with embracing one's desires. The dialogue emphasizes the need for open conversations about sex, the impact of performance pressure, and the liberation found in choosing pleasure as a path to selflessness.

Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo.

Learn More From Enita:
http://epiphenita.com 
IG - @enitatorres

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages in a heartfelt conversation with Enita Torres, a 66-year-old queer woman who shares her journey of self-discovery, love, and the challenges of navigating her queer identity in a challenging environment. The discussion covers Enita's experiences with custody battles, societal norms surrounding queerness, the importance of intimacy and trust in relationships, and the impact of menopause on sexuality. The episode emphasizes the significance of owning one's pleasure and celebrating personal transitions.

Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt with loss of libido and other menopausal issues. She has not found the medical world (or our culture in general) helpful in navigating these changes. But sheI continues to experience exciting and satisfying sex and intimacy. She has been in a relationship with her partner (who is wonderful beyond words) for 38 years. They are not monogamous. Enita’s passions include making things, cooking, and challenging the status quo.

Learn More From Enita:
http://epiphenita.com 
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00:00 Introduction to Owning Your Pleasure
01:59 Navigating Kinks and Open-Mindedness in Relationships
04:28 Understanding Anxiety and Performance in Sexual Dynamics
12:07 Exploring Submission and Dominance in Kink
15:38 Desiring More Intensity in BDSM Relationships
22:30 Normalizing Sexual Thoughts and Desires
25:04 Overcoming Orgasm Challenges in Partnered Sex
30:44 Navigating Intimacy and Communication in Relationships

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller addresses various questions related to sexual pleasure, kinks, and intimacy. The conversation covers topics such as the importance of open communication in relationships, navigating anxiety and performance issues in sexual dynamics, exploring submission and dominance in kink, and overcoming challenges related to orgasm during partnered sex. Whitni emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, education, and support in owning one's pleasure and fostering healthy sexual relationships.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kink and BDSM dynamics, as well as strategies for initiating intimacy in a way that respects both partners' comfort levels.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Uchenna Ossai about the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery, particularly within marginalized communities. They explore the concept of freedom in relation to pleasure, the importance of understanding one's own body, and the journey of navigating pain and joy. Dr. Ossai emphasizes the significance of awareness, self-advocacy, and the need to create space for joy in our lives. The discussion also touches on the challenges of receiving pleasure and the impact of societal pressures on personal experiences of joy and intimacy.

Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist, sexuality educator and certified sexuality counselor. Dr. UC is an assistant professor at University of Utah at Salt Lake City in the College of Health. Dr. UC has clinical, research, and educational expertise in complex pelvic floor disorders, sexual function and dysfunction that centers intersectionality and biopsychosocial factors, particularly in marginalized communities. She is a national and international speaker and is on the medical advisory boards for femtech start-ups Dame Products, Origin., and O.School. Dr. Ossai is also creator/founder of YouSeeLogic, a sexual health platform for adults rooted in an intersectional framework that focuses on improving sexual joy, erotic intelligence, and autonomy through innovative education and community building.

Learn More From Dr. UC:
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