Own Your Pleasure

By Whitni MillerSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement Relationships Sexuality

Own Your Pleasure episodes

October 01 Emotional Outsourcing Part I
Show Notes:
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Béa discuss the concept of emotional outsourcing, where individuals seek their sense of safety, belonging, and worth from external sources rather than within themselves. They explore the implications of enmeshment and codependency, the importance of somatic practices in fostering self-awareness, and the necessity of authentic communication in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for curiosity, consent, and the establishment of safe spaces for meaningful dialogue, ultimately guiding listeners towards building healthier connections and understanding their own needs.
Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the bestselling "End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcoming Your Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (Hachette Balance, 2025) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.
She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade Elizabeth.
Learn More about Béa:
https://beatrizalbina.com/
Follow Béa:
IG- @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina
Podcast - Feminist Wellness https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
33 min
September 15 Bed Death Myth Part II
Whitni and Erin continue their conversation getting into the complexities of lesbian relationships, while discussing the dynamics of libido and sexual compatibility. They explore societal expectations, personal experiences, and the importance of communication in fostering intimacy and desire. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by individuals in navigating their sexual identities and relationships, emphasizing the need for open dialogue and understanding.
Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast:
https://thelesbianpeepshow.com
Follow Erin Brown:
ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
32 min
September 01 Bed Death Myth Part I
This month Whitni talks with Erin Brown, a public sociologist and host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. They delve into the concept of 'lesbian bed death,' exploring its origins, implications, and the societal narratives surrounding sexual desire in lesbian relationships. They discuss the historical context of feminist sex wars, the impact of shame on women's sexual autonomy, and the importance of curiosity in understanding one's desires. The conversation emphasizes the need for open dialogue about sexual expression and the complexities of intimacy in relationships.
Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast:
https://thelesbianpeepshow.com
Follow Erin Brown:
ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
32 min
June 15 Reclaiming Connection Part II
Show Notes:
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller discusses with Meagan and Sofia Black the importance of investing in relationships, understanding emotional permeability, and the value of proactive communication. They explore how scheduling intimacy can enhance connection and reduce conflict, while also emphasizing the significance of emotional vulnerability in fostering deeper intimacy. The conversation highlights practical tools like transition rituals and the benefits of prioritizing pleasure in relationships.
Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years. They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience!
Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065
Follow Meagan & Sophia at:
IG - @trianglehomesales
YouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
25 min
June 01 Reclaiming Connection Part I
Show Notes:
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages with Meagan and Sofia Black, two graduates of her intimacy coaching program. They discuss their journey of self-discovery, communication, and the importance of pleasure in their relationship. The conversation explores how they navigated their intimacy challenges, broke down shame, and learned to prioritize their own pleasure, ultimately leading to a deeper connection with each other.
Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years. They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience!
Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065
Follow Meagan & Sophia at:
IG - @trianglehomesales
YouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
21 min
May 15 Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part II
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle continue to delve into the intricacies of their Dominant-Submissive (DS) dynamic, addressing more questions from YOU, their community. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, the nuances of establishing a DS relationship, and the significance of communication and presence in kink. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness, confidence, and the playful aspects of maintaining a healthy dynamic. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for navigating the complexities of pleasure and intimacy within queer relationships.
Resources Referenced in this episode are:
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham
The Loving Dominant by John Warren
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor
FetLife BDSM Community
Kink Workshops and Dungeons
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
29 min
May 01 Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle delve into their dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic, discussing how it enhances their relationship. While answering YOUR questions they explore the importance of consent, communication, and vulnerability in navigating their unique connection. The conversation highlights the empowering aspects of their dynamic, the significance of aftercare, and how their relationship fosters intimacy and trust.
Resources Referenced in this episode are:
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham
The Loving Dominant by John Warren
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor
FetLife BDSM Community
Kink Workshops and Dungeons
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
19 min
April 15 The Desire Architect: Building Passion in Long-Term Relationships Part II
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss building satisfaction in relationships through psychological interventions, focusing on mindset crafting, understanding different couple archetypes, and practical strategies for enhancing intimacy and desire.
Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond.
Learn More From Craig Cassey Jr.:
https://www.coaching-naked.com
Follow Craig Cassey Jr:
TikTok - @akacoachcraig
IG - @craigcasseyjr
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
37 min
April 01 The Desire Architect: Building Passion in Long-Term Relationships Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss the complexities of desire, intimacy, and vulnerability in relationships. Topics include managing differing libidos, building safety and trust, and redefining what pleasure means in modern relationships.
Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond.
Learn More From Craig Cassey:
https://www.coaching-naked.com
Follow Craig Cassey Jr:
TikTok - @akacoachcraig
IG - @craigcasseyjr
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
35 min
March 15 Building Community Part II
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode they explore the importance of embracing diverse relationships, the power of vulnerability and accountability, and the significance of authenticity in both personal and professional spaces. They discuss how healing can be a political act and the necessity of creating safe spaces for healing and growth. The dialogue emphasizes the need for radical honesty and the value of prioritizing pleasure and personal growth in life.
Follow Christabel Mintah-Galloway:
TikTok - @richqueeraunties
IG @christabelmintahgalloway
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
29 min

About Own Your Pleasure

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Own Your Pleasure is a podcast hosted by sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller, also known as BDE Moves. Airing on the 1st and 15th of each month, the show centers around pleasure for vulva owners and their lovers, delving into topics ranging from the science behind pleasure to practical tips and safety considerations.