Own Your Pleasure

By Whitni Miller

Own Your Pleasure is a podcast hosted by sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller, also known as BDE Moves. Airing on the 1st and 15th of each month, the show centers around pleasure for vulva ow... more

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How many episodes does Own Your Pleasure have?

The podcast currently has 47 episodes available.

Own Your Pleasure episodes:

September 01, 2026 Bed Death Myth Part I
This month Whitni talks with Erin Brown, a public sociologist and host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. They delve into the concept of 'lesbian bed death,' exploring its origins, implications, and the societal narratives surrounding sexual desire in lesbian relationships. They discuss the historical context of feminist sex wars, the impact of shame on women's sexual autonomy, and the importance of curiosity in understanding one's desires. The conversation emphasizes the need for open dialogue about sexual expression and the complexities of intimacy in relationships.
Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast:
https://thelesbianpeepshow.com
Follow Erin Brown:
ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
32min
June 15, 2026 Reclaiming Connection Part II
Show Notes:
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller discusses with Meagan and Sofia Black the importance of investing in relationships, understanding emotional permeability, and the value of proactive communication. They explore how scheduling intimacy can enhance connection and reduce conflict, while also emphasizing the significance of emotional vulnerability in fostering deeper intimacy. The conversation highlights practical tools like transition rituals and the benefits of prioritizing pleasure in relationships.
Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years. They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience!
Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065
Follow Meagan & Sophia at:
IG - @trianglehomesales
YouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
25min
June 01, 2026 Reclaiming Connection Part I
Show Notes:
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages with Meagan and Sofia Black, two graduates of her intimacy coaching program. They discuss their journey of self-discovery, communication, and the importance of pleasure in their relationship. The conversation explores how they navigated their intimacy challenges, broke down shame, and learned to prioritize their own pleasure, ultimately leading to a deeper connection with each other.
Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years. They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience!
Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065
Follow Meagan & Sophia at:
IG - @trianglehomesales
YouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
21min
May 15, 2026 Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part II
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle continue to delve into the intricacies of their Dominant-Submissive (DS) dynamic, addressing more questions from YOU, their community. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, the nuances of establishing a DS relationship, and the significance of communication and presence in kink. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness, confidence, and the playful aspects of maintaining a healthy dynamic. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for navigating the complexities of pleasure and intimacy within queer relationships.
Resources Referenced in this episode are:
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham
The Loving Dominant by John Warren
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor
FetLife BDSM Community
Kink Workshops and Dungeons
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
29min
May 01, 2026 Dom/Sub (D/s) Dynamic Q&A Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle delve into their dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic, discussing how it enhances their relationship. While answering YOUR questions they explore the importance of consent, communication, and vulnerability in navigating their unique connection. The conversation highlights the empowering aspects of their dynamic, the significance of aftercare, and how their relationship fosters intimacy and trust.
Resources Referenced in this episode are:
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham
The Loving Dominant by John Warren
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor
FetLife BDSM Community
Kink Workshops and Dungeons
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
19min
April 15, 2026 The Desire Architect: Building Passion in Long-Term Relationships Part II
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss building satisfaction in relationships through psychological interventions, focusing on mindset crafting, understanding different couple archetypes, and practical strategies for enhancing intimacy and desire.
Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond.
Learn More From Craig Cassey Jr.:
https://www.coaching-naked.com
Follow Craig Cassey Jr:
TikTok - @akacoachcraig
IG - @craigcasseyjr
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
37min
April 01, 2026 The Desire Architect: Building Passion in Long-Term Relationships Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss the complexities of desire, intimacy, and vulnerability in relationships. Topics include managing differing libidos, building safety and trust, and redefining what pleasure means in modern relationships.
Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond.
Learn More From Craig Cassey:
https://www.coaching-naked.com
Follow Craig Cassey Jr:
TikTok - @akacoachcraig
IG - @craigcasseyjr
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
35min
March 15, 2026 Building Community Part II
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode they explore the importance of embracing diverse relationships, the power of vulnerability and accountability, and the significance of authenticity in both personal and professional spaces. They discuss how healing can be a political act and the necessity of creating safe spaces for healing and growth. The dialogue emphasizes the need for radical honesty and the value of prioritizing pleasure and personal growth in life.
Follow Christabel Mintah-Galloway:
TikTok - @richqueeraunties
IG @christabelmintahgalloway
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
29min
March 01, 2026 Building Community Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode Christabel shares her journey of navigating relational skills, community building, and the importance of being in touch with one's body. She discusses the impact of trauma on intuition and the significance of authenticity in relationships. The dialogue emphasizes the need for interdependence and reciprocity within communities, as well as the importance of self-discovery and patience in personal growth. Christabel encourages listeners to embrace their pleasure and connect with their bodies as a means of empowerment.
Follow Christabel Mintah-Galloway:
TikTok - @richqueeraunties
IG @christabelmintahgalloway
Learn More From Whitni:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
27min
February 15, 2026 Sapphic Love Empowered by BDE Moves Part II
Show Notes:
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Vicki and Nicole, a couple who recently married after completing Whitni's signature BDE coaching program. They discuss their journey of discovering intimacy, communication, and the tools that helped them navigate their relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of prioritizing oneself, the evolution of their understanding of intimacy, and the joy of making significant life decisions together. The couple shares their experiences with emotional tools that have enhanced their connection and how they are preparing for a new chapter in their lives.
More about Vicky and Nicole that they wanted to share. They met almost 5 years ago in the most unlikely of places. Hinge. Just as they were both set to delete the app, Vicky sent a message to Nicole, and they haven’t stopped chatting since. Shortly after moving in together, life began to life. Job changes, health issues, and more left little time for intimacy. After attempting to self diagnose for too long, they sought out help from Whitni via her signature coaching program. Now, they are stronger than ever, recently eloped, and are using the tools from the program to help keep intimacy present in their relationship in all forms.
Follow Vicky and Nichole:
@vowvixens
Learn More From Whitni or apply to the program:
https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:
IG - @bde.moves
FB - groups/bdemoves
YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
TikTok - @bdemoves
...more
32min

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How many episodes does Own Your Pleasure have?

The podcast currently has 47 episodes available.

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