Ever notice how heavy life feels when everything on your list turns into a “have to”?

I have to get up early. I have to go to work. I have to make dinner. I have to take care of everyone else. When life is framed this way, it can start to feel exhausting and joyless.

In this episode, Dr. Phyllis invites you to flip the switch—to shift from living in obligation to living with opportunity. Instead of “I have to,” you begin to say, “I get to.” That one small change can completely reframe how you see your day.

She walks you through practical steps to help you do this: grounding yourself in gratitude, noticing where you’re feeling depleted, filtering and triaging what’s really important, and making space for what God is calling you to do.

What if instead of saying, “I have to go to work,” you reframed it as, “I get to use my skills”? That mindset shift can open the door to peace, presence, and even joy—right in the middle of everyday life.

This conversation will encourage you to slow down, breathe, and remember that joy isn’t found in the hustle of checking off your to-do list. It’s found when you choose to flip the switch.

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Life doesn’t always go as planned, and it’s so easy to get stuck in frustration, discouragement, or regret. But joy isn’t something you have to wait for—it’s something you can choose today. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares how to say yes to joy and gratitude, even in the middle of the chaos.

She talks about what it looks like to anchor yourself in joy when everything feels overwhelming, how to break through the clouds of gloom that try to overshadow your peace, and why gratitude is the daily voice that can shift everything.

Dr. Phyllis explores what it means to own your yes—to stand in who you are, own your story, and stay present. And even when life feels heavy, we can choose the declaration of “yet”—yet I will rejoice, yet I will be grateful, yet I will find joy.

If you’ve been feeling depleted or disappointed, this episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and ask yourself: Where can I say yes to joy today?

This conversation with Dr. Phyllis will empower, inspire, and remind you that God is always present—guiding you to gratitude, joy, and transformation.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“Joy doesn’t have to be something you wait for”

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In this 100th episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the truth that joy is not found in perfectly executed plans, but in presence, purpose, and flexibility. Drawing on decades of experience in medicine, personal reflections, and wisdom from her late mother, she shares how to release control and adopt a “flex and flow” mindset that creates space for authentic joy—even when life goes off-script.

Through stories from her own journey and insights gained from serving as a hospice physician, Dr. Phyllis reveals the importance of focusing on what truly matters, letting go of the illusion of control, and opening yourself to the present moment. She introduces the FLOW framework:

• F: Focus on what truly matters
• L: Let go of the illusion of control
• O: Open yourself to the moment
• W: Weigh the worth of your “yes”

This episode is especially relevant for high-achieving Christian women navigating the tension between doing and being. It offers practical ways to shift from rigidity to flexibility, fostering fulfillment in both personal and professional roles.

A milestone episode dedicated to growth, resilience, and living a life aligned with God’s calling.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"Joy doesn't come from everything going as planned. It comes from the moments we stop forcing and we start flowing and we allow space for what truly matters."

(00:00) "Finding Fulfillment and Letting Go"

(05:06) "Matriarch's Legacy and Reflection"

(10:51) Finding Joy in Life's Transitions

(12:57) Embracing Change and Saying Yes

(18:56) "Balancing Parenting and Personal Growth"

(22:12) "Creating Quality Family Time"

(24:24) "Embrace Flow, Find Joy"

(30:33) Presence Over Perfection

(32:24) "Embrace Flexibility in Unexpected Times"

(35:05)"Celebrating 100 Episodes Together"

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​​In this episode, Dr. Phyllis dives into a powerful message about the difference between good intentions and purposeful action. She explores how good intentions, while well-meaning, can sometimes pull us away from our true purpose—especially when they start to drain our energy, disrupt our finances, or take us off course.

Dr. Phyllis shares how to honor your good intentions without letting them override what really matters to you right now. She guides you through an approach to discern whether your “yes” is truly serving your purpose or secretly draining your power.

You’ll learn the POWER method to take back your energy and realign your choices:

• Pause before you purchase or pledge
• Own your intention
• Weigh the cost
• Examine for overload
• Recommit to purpose

This framework helps you make decisions and say yes from a place of alignment — not anxiety.

If you’re ready to stop letting good intentions drain your energy and start making choices that truly serve you, this episode is for you.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"Sometimes our yes is rooted in a fear of missing out, falling short, or failing someone we love. But what if those good intentions are quietly pulling us off our purpose?"

"Let your yes come from alignment with your purpose, not anxiety”

(00:00) Balancing Life, Family, and Cooking

(04:00) Appliance Overload Dilemma

(10:27) Identifying Energy Drains

(14:06) "Own Your Intentional Yes"

(17:27) Embracing the Joy of Missing Out

(18:40) "Overcoming Scarcity Mindset"

(22:05) Empowered Decisions: Yes or Overload?

(25:54) Farewell Blessings

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis opens up about her personal journey from constantly running on a treadmill of doing, achieving, and chasing the next crisis—toward a life that feels more peaceful, grounded, and fulfilling. She talks about the moment she realized work is just a means to an end, not the core of her identity, and how learning to slow down changed everything.

When we’re always striving, we miss what’s right in front of us. Presence, she shares, isn’t just a nice idea—it’s how we actually experience the life we’ve been praying for. The joy, the peace, the fulfillment—it’s already here. We just have to stop long enough to notice it.

Dr. Phyllis introduces a powerful approach to living in the moment using the acronym SAVOR:

S – Slow down your thoughts. Be where your feet are.

A – Acknowledge the moment. Ask: Where am I right now?

V – Voice your desire.

O – Open yourself to win. Celebrate even the small victories.

R – Rejoice in the moment.

This episode is an invitation to stop chasing and start savoring. Because presence isn’t passive—it’s something we practice. And it’s what helps us feel fully alive.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"Trying to be the martyr is overrated and underappreciated and just not sustainable as well."

"Creating presence is the key to having joy, is the key to having joy. It's the key to finding moments of peace."

(00:00) "Reclaim Purpose, Redefine Identity"

(03:1) "Sustainable Productivity Over Frantic Martyrdom"

(06:20) Embracing Life Beyond Work

(10:21) "From Doing to Being Fulfilled"

(15:30) "Embrace the Present Moment"

(18:15) Celebrate Small Wins

(22:48) Finding Fulfillment in Presence

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You can be loyal and still feel lost. Faithful but unfulfilled. Stuck in something that once felt right—but now just feels heavy.

In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis is talking about the quiet discomfort of staying in a role, relationship, or responsibility that no longer fits. When your “yes” begins to drain you instead of energize you, it may be time to pause and ask: Is this still aligned with what God is doing in me now?

Recently on a walk, I was reminded that loyalty without inspiration starts to feel like obligation. That nudge led me to this simple framework to help process when it's time to release something—even if it still looks “good” on the outside.

A – Acknowledge the expired yes

C – Clarify what inspires you now

T – Take permission to transition

Let this be your permission to reflect, realign, and take the next step—one that’s rooted in purpose, not pressure.

Journal Prompts to Go Deeper:

1. What am I currently saying yes to that no longer inspires or energizes me?
2. Am I staying in this situation out of fear, guilt, or obligation?
3. What part of me is afraid to let go—and what would help me feel safe to release it?
4. What currently inspires me? What am I curious or excited about that I’ve been ignoring?
5. If I believed God had something new for me, what would I begin to release to make room for it?

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“Loyalty without inspiration becomes obligation. And obligation without alignment leads to depletion.”

00:00 "Aligning Your Yes with Now"

05:50 Thriving with Scleroderma: A Vegan Choice

09:39 Vegan Dining Dilemma

11:10 Choosing Fulfillment in Dining

14:51 "Embrace Your New Season"

18:14 Reflective Journal Prompts

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Have you ever felt completely drained—even while doing everything “right”? You’re showing up, checking all the boxes, and still feel off. Dr. Phyllis calls this what it is: depletion. But depletion doesn’t always come from doing too much. It often comes from giving too much to the wrong things.

We slowly get pulled into other people’s priorities, needs, and timelines—sometimes without even realizing it. Before long, we’re spending our energy on things God never actually asked us to carry. And that’s when the frustration, emptiness, and burnout show up. Depletion is often a sign of misalignment.

In this episode, Dr. Phyllis offers a simple but powerful way to pause and reflect—a four-step process to help you realign your energy and return to what you’ve truly been called to steward.

Step 1: Recognize what’s pulling at you.

Step 2: Name what you’ve been handing over.

Step 3: Reset the boundaries.

Step 4: Refocus on what you’re called to steward.

Dr. Phyllis reminds us that when God isn’t our GPS, we start handing our keys to the wrong drivers. And that’s when we lose direction. So ask Him again. Invite discernment back in. Reclaim your energy by keeping your yes aligned with your assignment.

You weren’t made to run on empty. You were made to move forward—rooted in peace, fueled by purpose, and clear on what’s yours to carry.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“When you consistently give your energy to what God never assigns to you, you will feel overextended and under fulfilled."

(00:00) Freedom Redefined Through Shared Keys

(04:24) "Misalignment Leads to Depletion"

(09:45) "Reclaim Priorities and Boundaries"

(12:49) "God as Your GPS

(18:10) Live Intentionally: Make Room

You’re the hero in everyone else’s story… but somewhere along the way, you became a ghost in your own. In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis is sharing a message that so many women need but rarely give themselves permission to hear: You are allowed to matter in your own life.

When you spend your days caring for everyone else—your family, your team, your friends, your community—it’s easy to forget that you are a person with needs too. And if you're honest, sometimes meeting your own needs feels selfish. But it's not. In fact, you have to care for yourself if you want to keep showing up well for the people who need you most.

Dr. Phyllis breaks down her powerful S.E.L.F. framework to help you reconnect with your purpose and joy:

S – Silence your inner critic.

E – Embrace your needs.

L – Look for joy.

F – Follow through.

It’s not enough to just talk about caring for yourself. You have to take action.

Dr. Phyllis knows what it’s like to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. But she also knows the power of deciding that your story matters, too. This is your permission to start saying yes to you. To stop running on empty. And to unlock the joy that’s been waiting for you all along.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"What if the key to unlocking true joy isn't about saying yes to more demands, but finally saying yes to you?"

"We as high achieving Christian women, we're always trying to pour into others and it can be very difficult for us to receive.

(00:00) Revitalizing Routine: Makeup Boost

(04:40) "Creating Personal Moments Amid Chaos"

(08:33) Inclusive and Relaxing Salon Experience

(11:57) "Prioritize Self-Care for Fulfillment"

(13:57) "SELF: Silencing Inner Critic"

(17:42) "Prioritize Self-Care and Joy"

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Dr. Phyllis speaks to the woman who’s craving real connection but feels guarded after being let down, overlooked, or even wounded by past friendships. When trust has been broken, it takes courage to open up again. But staying isolated only deepens the ache.

Dr. Phyllis invites listeners to look honestly at their relationships and ask: Who is in my inner circle? Are these friendships rooted in faith, mutual care, and truth? Are they giving life—or slowly draining it?

Using her powerful COURAGE framework, she unpacks what to look for in life-giving friendships:

C – Christ-centered

O – Open-hearted

U – Unwavering

R – Reciprocal

A – Accountable

G – Grace-filled

E – Encouraging

This episode is a call to stop settling for surface-level connections and instead invest in the kind of community that heals, supports, and uplifts. Because real friendship isn’t about having more—it’s about having the right ones.

Whether you’ve been burned, lifted, or somewhere in between, this message will help you step into connection with discernment, wisdom, and renewed hope.

Quotes from Today's Episode:

"We're not looking for the number, we're looking for the quality."

00:00 Courage to Connect: Embrace Friendships

05:17 Overcoming Negative Emotions

08:56 Courage in Building Meaningful Friendships

12:00 Evaluating Friendships for Quality

16:33 Accountability in Friendship

17:44 Cultivating Forgiveness in Friendships

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Presence doesn’t show up on its own—we have to create it. That’s something Dr. Phyllis knows deeply, both personally and professionally. In this episode, she shares why making presence a daily priority is one of the most powerful shifts we can make in our lives.

For a long time, Dr. Phyllis was going through the motions. Life felt like a loop—autopilot routines, passive days, and that quiet question many of us ask: When do I actually start enjoying life? She knew she wanted more time with God. More focus on her health. More energy. But she hadn’t taken ownership of her presence—and that was the missing piece.

Presence is active. It doesn’t happen just because we want it. We have to choose it, daily. And when we don’t, it’s easy to fall into patterns of disconnection, wondering how we got so far away from what matters.

In this conversation, Dr. Phyllis introduces her signature PAUSE Method—a simple, powerful framework that helps you intentionally create moments of presence in your everyday life.

P — Prepare your mindset daily

A — Anchor in awareness

U — Use micro moments wisely

S — Surrender what you can’t control

E — Engage fully where your feet are

Presence is a daily yes. And it’s one you can start saying right now. What’s one trigger that pulls you out of presence? Start there. Because when you can name it, you can start creating the space to pause—on purpose.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"I was living a life on autopilot where I was just going through the motions, being so disconnected about from what was going on around me."

"Presence is not something others create for you.”

(00:00) Living on Autopilot, Unengaged

(04:00) "Capturing Moments, Missing Life"

(11:11) Harness Micro Moments Mindfully

(13:49) "Embrace Presence, Release Burdens"

(15:37) "Practicing Presence Intentionally

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