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In this episode, we connect in conversation with Benedict  Phiri to get his insights on life, philosophy, and enjoying life as a driven man with great vision.  We start off by unpacking Ben's journey into the law profession including some hilarious but honest and humble stories from his childhood. We unpack the events that led to another failed marriage while dealing with being named as a benefactor of the McKinsey & Co and Gupta scandal. We highlight how he found balance in co-parenting and maintained a relationship with his son despite differences with his ex-wife. Talking about the role of our parents, we discuss how debates and lack of acknowledgment for his achievements affected his relationship with his parents and his father's influence on his outlook on life. We end off by getting into some of Ben's favorite books, mentors and experiences, and lessons he takes away from conversations with friends and everyday people.
     
Benedict Phiri is the Founder and Managing Director of IusPrudentia Specialist Counsel, a 100% Black-owned law firm and member of the Nextlaw Referral Network.

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 00:35 - Falling in love with reading and writing at an early age and signing up to study philosophy before being stimulated and challenged by law studies, 
• 08:40 -  deconstructing our experiences and acknowledging how we engage with the world and how it impacts our relationships with people,
• 12:07 - men being told to man up without understanding what men really go through and why we do the things we do,
• 15:07 - men feel they need to always act and not take enough time to sit in our pain and learn from it,
• 16:28 - getting married for the wrong reasons at 29 years old and learning to let people fight their own battle,  
• 21:50 - Spending time and giving your all in relationships and not having  a relationship with yourself, 
• 23:21 - Life after getting caught up in the McKinsey and Company and Gupta scandal, moving on and starting a business,
• 25:55 - the importance of finding freedom and being free to explore as a man,
• 26:40 - co-parenting while dealing with the guilt and shame of a failed marriage,
• 32:54 - relationship with an absent but intellectual father & the lack of acknowledgment for achievements and little to no affection in black families,
•  38:25 - Making therapy cool and relatable for men and changing our language and learning to express our emotions without embarrassment,
• 44:39 - Staying true to your journey and finding peace within yourself chasing success,
• 50:08 - reading up on politics, philosophy and using every interaction to learn and be inspired by life,

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