EUGENE, SIR: The way I read the revenge porn laws in California, it is now against the law if I send private pictures of video with the intent to shame. So if I publish them — or send them to someone’s boss or coworkers, right? But what if I send them to his wife? Is that illegal? — Name withheld by request Dear I Won’t Be Ignored: According to a cop friend of mine, that is, a MALE cop friend of mine, no.