How many times a day are you having a thought about what your spouse "should" be doing?  Or what they "shouldn't" be doing?  We all do it at times, but when we are in a place where we are feeling some negative thoughts towards our spouse, we may find that these thoughts come up even more so, fueling the negative fire to burn even stronger.

Today we are going to dive a little deeper into the word "should" so that it can act as a signal to ourselves, letting us know that we have an expectation for our spouse that we want them to fulfill.  Unfortunately, we usually have not communicated this expectation, and go on believing that they should just "know" about it if they really loved us.  This creates a negative cycle as we turn to manipulating or passive aggressive efforts to try to get them to fulfill this unspoken expectation.

When we are stuck in this cycle, we often feel helpless, hopeless, and powerless to "make" our spouse change so that we can feel better.  But today is the day that we can break this cycle.  It's time to pack your "should" up, and put the power in your own hands.  Don't know how to do that?  Then click right now to listen and learn!