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"Just be yourself" is some of the worst advice that you can give someone who wants to get better at dating. It's also the most important. So here's how to quit being yourself and learn how to become your BEST self.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

▶︎ Why "just be yourself" is useless advice ▶︎ What we REALLY mean when we say "just be yourself" ▶︎ How you can learn to change who you are ▶︎ Why most people fail at changing themselves ▶︎ Why you should fake it 'til you make it

...and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

▶︎ What's Wrong With "Just Be Yourself"

▶︎ The 5 Things You Need To Fix Your Life | ▶︎ How To Reinvent Yourself

▶︎ The Secret to Maintaining Positive Changes

▶︎ 5 Types of Dating Advice People Need To Stop Giving Transcripts available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove

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Many virgin men-- especially older virgins -- believe that no woman's going to want to sleep with a guy who has no experience… but they can't they get that experience without having sex.

So let's ruin any chance of this episode being monetized and talk about what anyone — even a virgin — can do that will make them an amazing lover.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• What women REALLY think of male virgins
• Why understanding YOUR needs can help you fulfill HERS
• The one thing men DON'T do (but they SHOULD) before their first time
• Why you need to use your tongue (but not like that)
• How to avoid being a "one minute man" in bed

... and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

Sex For Beginners

Busting The Fear of Virginity

Be The Greatest Lover She's Ever Known

F*ck Like A Gentleman (pt.1)

The Virginity Paradox Transcripts available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove

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The power dynamics of dating directly affect your dating success. But who REALLY holds the power when it comes to dating? Why do so many people get the power dynamic of dating wrong and what's the REAL power when it comes to love, sex and romance?

Show Highlights

• How many of the "rules" about dating are self-limiting beliefs in disguise
• What we're REALLY talking about when we ask who has the power in dating
• Why women DON'T have it easier than men... and how that helps YOU
• How to control the interaction
• How understanding the power dynamics of an approach can bring you greater dating success.

Related Links:

▶︎ The Economics of Sex ▶︎ Why Do Women Have All The Advantages In Dating? ▶︎ Why Women Don't Approach ▶︎ How To Get Women To Approach You ▶︎ Yes, It's STILL Creepy When Brad Pitt Does It Transcripts available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove

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Did the #MeToo movement change flirting forever? Can men no longer approach women? What makes the difference between flirting and harassment in this day and age?

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• The two types of complaints about #MeToo
• The goal behind the meme that men can't flirt anymore
• How men are getting the point of #MeToo wrong
• The MOST important part of flirting
• How to avoid being yet another creeper

RELATED LINKS:

• What Does It Take To Be A Good Man?
• Perpetuating a Toxic Culture
• The Difference Between Flirting and Harassment
• Henry Cavill and Flirting in The #MeToo Era
• Treating Men Like Idiots Is The Wrong Way To Stop Sexual Harassment

Transcripts available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove

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The American Psychological Association updated it's guidelines for the treatment of boys and men to say that toxic masculine ideologies are bad for men.

Does this mean that masculinity is now a mental illness? Or is this an acknowledgement of the difficulties that men and boys face in modern society?

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• How being a man leads to unique mental and physical health issues
• Why men have a difficult time receiving effective mental health care
• What the new APA guidelines say... and what they DON'T say about men
• How understanding toxic masculine ideas affects men and boys alike
• How MRAs hurt the men they supposedly want to help

... and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

▶︎ What Is Toxic Masculinity ▶︎ Captain America and the power of Positive Masculinity ▶︎ Why It's So Hard To Be A Good Man ▶︎ The Broken Masculinity of The Punisher ▶︎ Reclaiming Manhood

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Don't forget: I'm taking your questions for the NerdLoveLine special! Call (512) 522-6513 and leave a voicemail with your question! Tell me if this has ever happened to you: you've started off trying to make some major change your life. You want to get better at dating, be more social, learn how to approach women, flirt a bit more... but once you've gotten started, nothing seems to be improving. Maybe you've made some minor progress, but the major changes, those big, life-changing moments, just aren't happening.

While any journey is easy at the start, when the going gets rough, most don't don't keep going. Here are six tips on how to stay motivated, to find the strength to get up and keep moving forward... even when it feels like there's no point.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• Why New Years Resolutions are mostly useless
• Why most people fail to make lasting, positive changes in their lives
• Why expecting trouble makes it easier to make changes
• How you are your own worst enemy
• Why journaling can help keep you on track

... and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

5 Steps To Having An Amazing New Year

5 Ways To Jumpstart Your Life

The 5 Things You Need To Fix Your Life

How To Change Your Life (And Make It Stick)

How To Avoid Self-Sabotage

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There are the right ways of getting back with your ex. And then there are the wrong ways.

And then there's what Offset did to Cardi B., which is one of the most astoundingly stupid ways of trying to get your ex back.

Here's why those "grand romantic gestures" aren't romantic at all.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

• Why it's so hard to let go of an ex
• Why "Grand Romantic Gestures" are actually creepy
• How public proposals backfire
• What Offset's "apology" says about him
• Why grand gestures are the WRONG way to win someone back

...and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

The Wrong Way To Get Your Ex Back

The Trouble With Romance (According to The Movies)

The Problem With Nice Guys

5 Signs Your Relationship Is Over

Why It's So Hard To Leave (Even When You Need To)

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To fap or not to fap... that is the question. Are there health benefits to giving up masturbation? Is porn addiction a real thing? And just what is the NoFap movement, anyway?

It's time talk about sex with someone you love… yourself.

Show Highlights:

• Why the "dangers" of masturbation haven't changed in hundreds of years
• The connection between testosterone and masturbation
• Why NoFap gives "super powers"
• Why stigmatizing masturbation can be dangerous
• Why the real problem is shame, not masturbation

…and so much more.

Important News: I'm taking answering your questions on the air! Call in with your dating questions at (512) 522-6513 and leave a voice mail or you can record it send the audio file to [email protected] and put "For YouTube" in the subject.

Related Links

What Men Should Have Learned In Sex Ed -

The "Problem" With Male Virginity -

Did Porn Ruin Our Sex Life?

Porn and The Real World

What We Get Wrong About Sex

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Friends, do you suffer from uncontrollable longing for someone who barely knows you're alive? Are you unable to get over that break up, even after months or years? Do you have the sinking feeling that nobody in the world could be as right for you or mean as much as she does? Are you afraid that this was your last chance for true love?

Then you may suffer from a disease known as Oneitis. Symptoms include heart palpitations, hopelessness, anxiety, terminal loneliness, embarrassing Spotify playlists, failed romantic relationships and a tendency to seek out pornstars that look like your ex. But there is hope! Stay tuned for a special offer that's guaranteed to cure your oneitis… Today!

Show Highlights:

• Why it's so hard to get over an ex
• What we get wrong about Oneitis
• How to understand why you can't get over her
• Why you need to practice some radical forgiveness
• How learning to get over your ex can make your relationships better

... and so much more.

Related Links:

Eliminating Neediness

How To Develop An Abundance Mentality

Do You Suffer From Oneitis

How To Get Over Her

Getting Over Your Fear of Rejection

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How do you tell the difference between when someone's flirting with you and just being polite? And why are we so bad at telling the two apart in the first place?

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

• How men and women both misjudge flirting behavior in others
• Why "Straight Dude Thinking" gets in the way of flirting success
• Why we mistake politeness and friendliness for interest
• How to recognize the signs that someone is flirting with you
• The number one key to recognizing that someone is interested... and not just being friendly.

RELATED LINKS:

• Ask Dr. NerdLove: What's the Difference Between Flirting and Just Being Friendly?
• Read Her Signs (Without Reading The Tea Leaves)
• Fix Your Flirting
• How To Get Women To Approach You
• 5 Signs Women Want You To Approach Them

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