There’s a song by Dax called Pain Made Me Pay Attention. When I heard it, I didn’t just listen. I sat in it. Because it wasn’t just music — it felt like a mirror.

In this episode I’m getting real with you. Not from the other side of the storm. From the middle of it.

I talk about the old version of me that used to sit in meditation and visualize future Abi — strong, stable, unbothered. And how I’m her now… but the path to becoming her looked nothing like I imagined.

I talk about choosing growth and peace and healing — and how the people around me responded not with celebration, but with aggression. With judgment. With attempts to pull me back into a version of myself that served them.

I talk about a conversation with my therapist that gave me language for something I had been feeling but couldn’t name.

I talk about a legal battle I’m still walking through.

And I talk about the nights I cry quietly after holding it together all day.

This episode is for every woman who has ever been broken and kept going anyway. Who prayed for a better version of herself and didn’t recognize her when she finally arrived. Who has been poked, judged, and kicked by people threatened by her healing.

Your pain didn’t come to destroy you.

It came to make you pay attention.

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