Pain to Passion Live

For today's episode of Pain to Passion Live, I had an incredibly insightful conversation with Marcie Alvis Walker, an amazing writer who shares her personal experiences as a Black woman in this world. Marcie's journey as a storyteller is truly inspiring, and you can feel her passion for storytelling in every word she shares.

We dived deep into her book, Everybody Come Alive, where she poignantly describes growing up between two different worlds, with her grandparents on one side (who presented a more assimilated image to the world) and her mother on the other (who embraced her Black identity with pride). This contrasting environment exposed her to the complexity of racial dynamics from an early age.

We discussed how race is often more about people's feelings and perceptions than actual facts. It's something Marcie experienced as a child when she watched "Roots" with the rest of the world. The show brought the subject of race to the forefront, but back then, there was little language or understanding to discuss it openly. This lack of language and education about racism only perpetuates harmful stereotypes and misconceptions.

Marcie also touched on the impact of systemic racism and how it affects children, especially in their early developmental years. It's essential for parents to acknowledge the larger public conversation about race and engage with their kids to create a more inclusive and empathetic world.

We talked about the power of storytelling in shaping perspectives and changing lives. Stories have the ability to transform our views of the world and build bridges of understanding between people from different backgrounds.

Throughout the podcast, Marcie's insights are truly eye-opening, and her personal experiences shed light on the importance of having open conversations about race and its impact on all of us. I'm grateful to Marcie for sharing her story and inspiring us all to create a more compassionate and inclusive world.

This is a conversation you won't want to miss!

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More about Marcie:

Connect with Marcie:

Buy the book!! - ⁠Everybody Come Alive⁠

Instagram - ⁠@blackcoffeewithwhitefriends⁠

Website - ⁠marciealviswalker.com⁠

Newsletter - ⁠blackeyedstories.substack.com⁠

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Hello, my friends! Thank you for listening to this important solo episode of Pain to Passion Live.

In this episode, I share my personal journey with spiritual abuse and open up about the impact it had on me. I delve into the dark reality of spiritual abuse, where individuals in positions of authority manipulate and control others using their relationship with God. While acknowledging the complexity of the topic, I offer validation and support to those who may be facing spiritual abuse in their lives. Together, we explore the definition of spiritual abuse and the harmful effects it can have. I provide insights into my upbringing in a conservative evangelical home, highlighting the patriarchal rules and authority dynamics I encountered. Drawing from my own experiences working for a well-known Christian couple, I shed light on the manipulation tactics used to silence and coerce me and others. I address the trauma responses I faced and the lasting scars it left behind. Throughout the episode, I emphasize the importance of recognizing spiritual abuse and seeking help. I offer resources and a compassionate voice to those who may be struggling in similar situations. It is my hope that through this episode, listeners find validation, support, and the courage to prioritize their well-being.

**Episode Highlights:**

- I introduce the topic of spiritual abuse and explain my personal motivation for discussing it.

- We explore the definition of spiritual abuse, emphasizing its manipulative and controlling nature.

- I discuss the ways in which spiritual abusers use a person's relationship with God and religious beliefs to coerce and manipulate.

- I reflect on my upbringing in a conservative evangelical home, sharing the patriarchal rules and authority dynamics I experienced.

- I recount a specific instance of working for a well-known Christian couple, detailing the spiritual abuse I endured.

- I describe the manipulation tactics used against me, such as silencing, guilt-tripping, and threats of job loss.

- I share the trauma responses I experienced and the lasting impact of the spiritual abuse on my well-being.

- I highlight the importance of recognizing spiritual abuse and seeking help.

- I provide resources for those who may be facing spiritual abuse and offer guidance on navigating these challenging situations.

- I acknowledge the difficulty of leaving a community associated with spiritual abuse and encourage listeners to prioritize their own well-being.

- I conclude the episode with a message of validation, self-care, and the reminder that making mistakes is part of being human.

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Welcome back, friends! Today I'm REPLAYING the most popular episode of Pain to Passion Live to date - I have also heard from so many people about how this episode has touched their hearts and lives! If you have experienced or are experiencing loss of any kind, this is a must-listen. Enjoy this amazing conversation I had with Morgan Cheek...and please share with anyone who needs this message!

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Join us for an inspiring episode of Pain to Passion Live as my friend Jillian Riddell opens up about her transformative personal journey.

From discovering a shocking secret at a young age to overcoming challenges as a teenage mother, Jillian's story is a testament to resilience and the pursuit of healing and self-worth. You will be so inspired as you hear Jill share how she confronted her deepest wounds, embraced therapy, and found healing through authenticity.

In this episode, you will also learn how Jillian's experiences as an ER trauma nurse inspired her to create the Life Without Secrets podcast, a platform for authentic conversations and self-discovery. Explore the transformative power of self-awareness, self-reflection, and self-compassion in forging meaningful connections and breaking free from the past.

More about Jill:

Connect with Jill:

Instagram - @lifewithoutsecretspodcast

Podcast - Life Without Secrets with Jillian Riddell

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Welcome back to Pain to Passion Live! In this special episode, I am thrilled to announce the launch of the brand-new Pain to Passion Coaching Program!

If you've ever felt like your dreams have died or faced roadblocks in pursuing your goals, this unique 12-week journey is designed for you. I will guide you through healing, creating beautiful relationships, and achieving success with joy and authenticity. With personalized one-on-one calls, daily Voxer access, and transformative homework worksheets, you'll rediscover who you truly are and unleash your full potential. Join Gabi for a free 30-minute consultation to see if this program is the right fit for you! Link is below in the show notes. Plus, when you book a call, you'll receive an incredible 50% off the coaching program.

Don't miss this opportunity to unlock your dreams and step into your purpose. Visit the show notes for the consultation link or DM me on Instagram. Rise up, heal, and embrace a life filled with passion. Feel free to email me at Gabi[at]paintopassionlive.com with any questions.

Get ready for breakthroughs that will change your life. I am so excited to connect with you!

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"I'm going through a lot right now." I've been hearing so many people say this recently, including myself.

Truth is, life is tough! But I've found myself feeling really grateful in the midst of the tough things because I've recognized some signs that the healing work I have done is actually impacting my life in profound ways. That's what I want to talk with you about on today's episode of Pain to Passion Live!

You'll start to gain an understanding of how much you've grown and healed when...

Do you recognize any of these markers of healing in your own life? Let me know!

Thank you for listening to the podcast! Please take a moment to rate and review - it will help a ton!

xx- Gabi Ruth

Fear is tricky. It's a very natural emotion, but it can make you feel like you should avoid things that maybe you should actually be engaging in.

I know for me, I've been prone to fear and anxiety for most of my - like most survivors of early childhood trauma and CPTSD! Again, like I said, it's so normal to feel fear. But over the years I have really learned that some of life's greatest gifts are on the other side of fear. So how do we move through fear without betraying our bodies and our hearts? How can we reframe what we think about fear when we encounter it? And what might we find on the other side of fear if we learn how to move through it more regularly?

These are some of the questions I am answering in this short and sweet episode. I'm so excited for you guys to grasp these concepts and be able to courageously move into some of those things you may have stayed away from because you've been afraid.

Tell me your story about moving through fear - I'd love to hear it! Shoot me a DM on Instagram or email me at [email protected]!

And as always, if you are enjoying this podcast, please rate and review. Thank you so much!

When's the last time you thought about whether or not you actually love yourself?

On today's episode of Pain to Passion Live, I am so honored to share a conversation with my beautiful friend, Lori McAfee, who is a QUEEN at helping others understand what it means to truly love themselves.

I am so grateful for Lori's willingness to share her own story of learning to love herself - a story that includes an unexpected teen pregnancy, the grief of her church community asking her to leave, and of understanding that love is a vulnerable thing - that is so so worth it.

Have you ever asked yourself any of these questions: Is it right to love myself? Is it safe to be seen? Do I know and appreciate who I truly am? Do I believe I have intrinsic value? If I don't fully love myself, am I still able to fully love others?

If you have, this episode is for you. You will be SO blessed and encouraged, my friend!!

And remember - you are LOVED.

More about Lori:

 Lori McAfee is a sought-after life coach, speaker, and podcast host of “Get Your Rear in Gear with Lori.”  

Lori is a professional certified life coach, an emotional intelligence practitioner and a behavioral consultant with DiSC assessment with marriage certifications. 

As one that believes life is a choice, she learned the hard truth of losing oneself and what it means to get your rear into gear to get to know and love who she truly is.  

Lori is a wife to the love of her life, a mother, and Mimi to an all-girl gang. She is a lover of sunsets over a lake, the echoes of laughter, and the tender warmth of love, and she is an unapologetic disciple of Jesus. 

Connect with Lori:

Website - lorimcafeecoaching.com

Instagram - @lorimclifecoach

Facebook - facebook.com/lori.r.mcafee

Podcast - Get Your Rear in Gear with Lori - coming soon!

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If you're anything like me, you have struggled throughout your life to believe that you actually matter as much as anyone else.

Personally, I was raised in a conservative Christian environment with messages like "always put others before yourself" and "what you want doesn't matter" and "always give to others." Don't get me wrong - I absolutely believe in serving others, in being generous and giving, and not living selfishly. But so often, these "Christian" teachings (I say that in quotes because I do NOT think they reflect Jesus) become harmful because we don't value ourselves and can get to the point where we will do anything that anyone else wants or needs, even if it actually hurts us.

It's been a process for me to deconstruct this, and maybe it's been the same for you. In this brief and vulnerable episode, I share a bit about the revelations I've been having about this in the past few weeks. It's been revolutionizing my world, and I thought you all may benefit from these thoughts, too.

Thank you so much for being here with me! Would you mind taking a moment to rate and review the podcast? Also if you could share about it on social media or send to a friend or two, that would be amazing! I want as many people as possible to receive the encouragement available here on this show. Thank you so much!!

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For months I have been eagerly anticipating having this conversation with Rachel Luna about her new book, Permission to Offend!

This book is amazing and our conversation was a BLAST. I love Rachel's heart and her energy, and I know you will too!

There's SO much goodness in the book, including these topics that we chatted through for this episode:

- What's the difference between beliefs and values, and why are these things important for understanding your identity?

- What are personal truths, why are they important, and how can we respectfully hold others' personal truths without compromising our own?

-Being an Empathetic Offender (y'all, this is JUICY!)

-How does increasing your permission to offend and to be offended help create deeper and more authentic relationships?

-Boundaries and being your own boundary bully!

-How dreaming and permission to offend go hand-in-hand.

...and so many other wonderful nuggets!!

Make sure you go snag a copy of Rachel's book, Permission to Offend, and leave a review on Amazon!!

If you're enjoying this podcast, please take a moment to rate and review. Thank you sooooo much!

More about Rachel:

Rachel Luna, author of Permission to Offend, is a highly sought after international speaker & Certified Master Neuroscience Coach to 6 and 7 figure earning entrepreneurs. Named by Forbes as one of The 11 Most Inspiring Female Entrepreneurs To Follow On Instagram, this former US Marine has a reputation for inspiring confident action and helping her clients double, triple and quadruple their income. Her clients often referred to her as their “secret weapon.”

Rachel calls herself a magnet for miracles because despite losing both her parents to AIDS, struggling with eating disorders in her teens and battling alcoholism and depression in her early 20’s, Rachel has never allowed herself to be limited by life circumstances. Instead, she persevered and when she was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in the summer of 2019, Rachel tackled it the same way she does everything - with confidence, faith and love.

Within 30 days she was cancer free and today she continues to thrive, teach, and activate confidence in others. Through her top-rated podcast, Permission to Offend - which has listeners in over 90 countries around the world - social media platforms, email list, courses, her live event Confidence Activated, and journaling membership - The Faith Activated Journaling Experience, Rachel is on a mission to help 11 million women step into faith, worth and wealth.

Standing only 4 feet 11 inches tall, Rachel is a tiny but mighty firecracker who lights up the room and galvanizes her audiences all around the world. An international speaker, Rachel has been invited to share her powerful talks all across the globe from the US to Europe to Japan and has been featured in Forbes twice, The Huffington Post, Success Magazine and Latina Magazine among many others.

If you’re ready to return to your truth, own it, and live fully self-expressed without fear of judgment, rejection or defamation - so that you can step into your next level of elevation, Rachel Luna is the girl you call.

Connect with Rachel:

Instagram - ⁠@girlconfident⁠

Podcast - ⁠Permission to Offend⁠

Buy the book & leave a review! - ⁠Permission to Offend⁠

Website - ⁠rachelluna.biz⁠

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