Parent Your Highly Sensitive Child Like A Ninja

I just got off a call with a parent who said she worked with a therapist that said her son just needed to ‘get his emotions out’. 

This child was stating he wished his brother would die, that at 9 years old asking his parents after his meltdowns subsided ‘why do you hate me’ and mom and dad were so exhausted that they were, (regrettably so, obviously)...

yelling when he would not follow through on the daily tasks with multiple warnings… 

even when his siblings would do the same thing easily. 

So, after trying many sticker charts, talks and lectures, these parents did what every dedicated parent would do– they sought professional help. 

And this is what the therapist told them: “he’s emotionally healthy.”

Mom nearly fell out of her chair– and while she didn’t realize that she was working with a novice professional (the therapist was provisionally licensed) that honestly doesn’t matter...

Listen to today's episode to learn why.

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

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Join us today as we discuss common misconceptions about the Highly Sensitive Trait and why it's important to know the difference between meltdown cycle behavior and and the depth of processing trait.

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here:

https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call

It’s a common phrase in positive parenting, isn’t it? 

Has an awesome ring to it– If your child feels better about themselves, their lives, their relationships, they will succeed.

This promise leaves you holding the bag when you’re parenting a Highly Sensitive Child stuck in the meltdown cycle, however, so let’s cover why this parenting phrase is FALSE for your kid. 

HSCs want to feel better, of course, but they are missing the capacity to generalize their skills.

So, when you follow the premise of just creating more positivity in your home to solve the meltdown cycle, you are still parenting your child like a non-Highly Sensitive Child.

Tune in to learn more.

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call

It can be difficult watching your Highly Sensitive Child struggle with confidence. Today we discuss what works with building their confidence. And what that looks like when you're raising a HSC.

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here:

https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call

When you are stuck in the daily meltdown cycle and your spouse or co parent is nitpicking, walking on eggshells can feel like an understatement.

Not only are you trying not to set up the bomb of your kiddo’s meltdown of the day (or hour) but then you are having to deal with withholding your eyebrow twitches when your spouse calls your kid out on something you would deem unnecessary.

Talk about Chinese water torture!

So now you’re holding it in trying to help your kid stay calm, AND holding it in trying not to tell your spouse to cut it out… and you’re lucky if all you do is engage in dagger-like side eye…

Which we know only fuels all of the fires…

Yours because you’re stifling your voice…

Your spouse’s because they feel they have a right to parent and teach your child without your permission…

And your kid’s because they feel the tension… and are already irritable!

If this is your everyday experience you might have tried a few things to break out of this pattern:

You try giving your spouse direct feedback in the moment…

But you know that doesn’t work because then you’re undermining your partner’s parenting authority. 

Maybe then you try just ignoring it…

But that means you have to deal with the fallout of being your child’s emotional janitor when dad’s comments are the straw that broke the camel’s back.

Or, you try to run through what could have gone better at the end of the day… which probably ends one of two ways:

Your spouse feels defeated and it turns into a criticism feedback loop.

You don’t actually get to connect at the end of the day because you’re both exhausted trying not to repeat history, but uncertain how to get off the hamster wheel.

Feeling drained yet? 

Let’s talk about it! Listen to today's episode to learn more.

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call

When you're in the thick of it, trying to manage your child's emotions and trying to find different ways respond...

It can start to feel like your child has more control over you than you do.

Thats what can lead to breeding resentment.

Join me on today's episode to learn how to chop down the roots of resentment. 

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call

Remember when you pushed through those last few weeks of school meltdowns, daydreaming of easier days without homework meltdowns and reports of under stimulation-driven “misbehavior” from your kid’s teacher…

You weren’t thinking about the hard stuff that comes with parenting an HSC stuck in the meltdown cycle during the summer…

Like how much of your summer vacation is going to be spent wrestling your kid into sunscreen and camp t-shirts with tags…

Wrestling them out of the pool…

And refereeing when they try to police the whole town for splashing during water play…

And yet, here you are.

Summer isn’t meant to be spent daydreaming about breaks from the chaos.

Summer IS your break. It’s meant to be enjoyed!

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Highly Sensitive Children want to do it right the first time. 

And when they don’t have the skills to manage failure, this can create a host of problems in their lives. 

School refusal. 

Homework refusal.

Soccer practice meltdowns.

Screams of “I’m so stupid!” and “I might as well not even try!” and “I would rather die than do homework!” ringing through the house.

You name it. You already know it, afterall, don’t you? 

So then you wonder, how bad is this? 

What do I need to do to break my child out of this prison in their own heart?

How much time do I have before this becomes how she handles problems permanently?

So you rush to reassure: “It’s not that bad- we can do it sweetie, let’s take it one problem at a time.”

Or you investigate: “What about this homework makes this so hard?”

Or you lose your cool: “Enough! You made a commitment to soccer and you will play out the whole season! We are a family of people who keep their commitments!”

But that all makes it worse. The screams turn into full out meltdowns.

Throwing the pencil.

Ripping the paper.

Homework just is not making it home, you’re late to soccer practice, and your child starts threatening themselves.

You may feel the urge to back off, let your child “fail” and see if that helps– relieve the pressure if you will. 

I don't advise either end of the pendulum here. Listen to today's episode to learn why.

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call

A lot of professionals and parents imply that because you have a HSC, meltdowns are just going to be apart of your world. Meltdowns are not synonymous with being highly sensitive. Join me as we discuss the reasons why kids have meltdowns and the parent-child relationship role in that. 

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call

It’s heartbreaking when your other kids tell you they’re trying to have patience, 

But they secretly want to punch their sister for her overwhelming meltdowns… 

And then your mind starts to race with all the questions….

How did it come to this? 

How is aggression now an acceptable solution in my home?

Haven't I been spending ALL this time trying to teach my HSC that it isn’t?

Why do my other kids feel like the only way to get her to stop is to whack her?

How do they feel knowing that this isn’t really an answer– trapped because they would never do it? 

Angry and powerless?

Resentful?

Ignored?

All of the above? 

It’s hard enough living under the weight of the meltdown cycle,

But the guilt you carry for feeling like you are neglecting your other child’s emotional needs is exceptionally profound. 

It’s not like you can tell your kid,

“Sorry your sister keeps freaking out, I don’t know how to make it stop.”

It feels like both options are wrong.

     A. Should you chastise your HSC for feeling their big feelings (albeit unhealthily)? 

     B. Or tell your non-HSC to shove their emotions and keep tiptoeing around the meltdowns like you do?

If this were a test,

Congrats. Both answers here ARE wrong. But that’s because you haven’t seen option C yet.

     C. Break the meltdown cycle altogether.

It is absolutely possible to do,

Your children’s sibling relationship can be spared from disappointment and heartbreak,

And YOU can stop playing referee.

Listen to today's episode to learn more.

If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps

If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5steps_teen

If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: megghanthompsoncoaching.com/call