To emphasize personality functioning minimizes the power of love in parenting.  

There is a misperception in parenting – you are smart if you can describe your kid’s personality really well.   

Shaping, reinforcing, instructing, teaching, guiding, instilling, strength-building are all more important jobs as parents than coming up with descriptions of your child’s personality.  

Conflict is Good

Since the beginning of time, siblings have fought.  Everybody in my generation who had siblings

Arguing is a part of life. 

I’ve taken some time to look at sibling conflict from a

I see conflict as good and I encourage arguing.   

2. Praise effort more than results.

3. Count to 10, breath, take a step back – be like an eagle taking a broad perspective, not a snake that strikes out.

4. Identify clearly want you want the child to do with clear expectations.  Communicate everything, assume nothing….

5. Take time to discuss how all actions have consequences; my favorite intervention for poor behavior is behavioral rehearsals – asking children to re-do their response or behavior.  

Dealing with kids and their fickle friendships can range from an inconvenience to a nightmare. 

One client said to me, “My daughter is having a

If we had a bug in our ear, we could receive feedback