Parenting for the Future

Navigating conversations about identity, diversity, and justice can be fraught with linguistic traps and emotional landmines. On this episode we learn from Kenji Yoshino, Professor of Law at NYU School of Law and Faculty Director of the school's Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion and Belonging how to have nuanced and empathetic conversations about our differences, whether in our workplaces, our social circles, or in our homes and how to teach our children this skill so that they can thrive in a diverse and complex world.

Studies have shown that 69-90% of us will experience at least one serious traumatic event during our lifetimes. The sudden death of a loved one. A debilitating illness. A natural disaster. War. What differentiates us? How we respond; how resilient we are. Our guest today has found that extremely resilient people share the 10 attributes we discuss in this episode. As we reflect on the personal and global challenges we have all faced in 2023 and look forward to the new year, understanding how we can not only become more resilient but teach our children to develop resilience, is undoubtedly one of the most important lessons we can learn.

On October 24, 2023 a bipartisan coalition of 32 US. Attorneys Generals filed a Federal lawsuit against Meta alleging that the company knowingly designed and deployed harmful features at Instagram, Facebook, and its other social media platforms to induce young children and teenagers into addictive and compulsive social media use contributing significantly to a youth mental health crisis. The suit also alleges that Meta has repeatedly misled the public about the substantial dangers of its platform's use. But in 2021 before these lawsuits, an anonymous employee of Facebook filed a series of complaints with the US. Federal government, claiming that Facebook had been misleading the public and investors about the impact of its services on the mental health of children and young adults. That employee later revealed herself to be Frances Hogan, and she is our guest today.

As we enter the holiday season where our kids are likely to spend more time than usual on screens, this conversation is more important than ever.

"Some of issues parents expected to confront when their child was in their early twenties. have been pushed later.

I think it's safe to say that many parents expected to still be providing some financial assistance to their child when their child was in their early twenties. Don't think that many parents expected to be doing it when their child was 30, and I think that from the young person's point of view they probably expect to be getting some help from their parents while they were still in college and right out of college, but I'm sure that they didn't expect that to be having to go to their mother and father and ask for financial help on the over 30 or 32, and that is going on today. And so I think the shifting timetable of the transition to adulthood has really made this an important topic and parents are perplexed"

• Distinguished University Professor and

Laura H. Carnell Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience, Temple University

• Education/Degree:
• AB in Psychology, Vassar College
• Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies Cornell University

" The truth is Congress has so completely failed. They Haven't passed a Privacy law since Mark Zuckerberg was in diapers. It's pathetic. Shame on them! This has reshaped everybody's lives, and they just sat there, and because of their political partisanship, the fact There's not a federal privacy, law, or Laws regulating social media platforms is a joke. Absolute abject failure of our political system in the twenty-first century."

• Founder and CEO, Common Sense Media
• Co-Founder, Center for the next generation
• Education/Degree
• BA, Stanford University
• J.D., Stanford Law School

'When I work with the athletes and talk about toolboxes, I think helping them build tool belts that give them the arsenal. So when? Not if but when the headwind blows. Oh, I got this! I have agency over my destiny. I get to decide what's next for me, (remove Petal's sound) Yes, I'm gonna need help along the way and support, of course, but I'm not gonna let any setback, not making the team or that coach not liking me, determine my future. "

• Peak Performance Coach
• Motivational Speaker
• Co-host: "Raising Athletes" Podcast
• Education/Degree:
• BA, College of William and Mary

"Complex care typically refers to the children at the very tip, who are the sickest and the book is really written to be more, all inclusive, because many children, while they may not be complex, they have chronic health conditions which cause a lot of increased work for their families. "

• Director of Pediatrics at the Atria Institute in New York City
• Education/Degree:
• BA, Harvard University
• MD, Vagelos College of physicians and Surgeons, Columbia University

"The ability to introspect to work through problems. This is one of the reasons we are so successful as a species. The ability to introspect is how we learn from our problems and plan for the future is what allows us in part to build spaceships that literally land SUVs nowadays on other planets like Mars. but, on the other hand, people struggle enormously with introspection to the point that they become overly angry, anxious, and depressed. And so we've got this remarkable tool. but it's really unwieldy. Sometimes it helps us. Sometimes it hurts us."

• Professor, University of Michigan's Psychology Department and Russ school of Business
• Founder and Director of the Emotion and Self Control Lab, University of Michigan
• Education/Degree:
• Ph.D. Columbia University
• BA University of Pennsylvania

"Well, if we break money down to its simplest components, right? And how we handle it, what do we do with our money. We really do 3 things right. We spend it.

we save it, we give it away. And if you think about what actually goes into the decisions around each of those you know. They're all about emotions and behaviors. spending is about modesty and prudence and thrift, or it's about greed and envy. saving is about delayed gratification. Patience. giving is generosity. It's a sense of gratitude. So

it's easy to think about this as a sort of you know, hard mathematical science, but I prefer to think of it as a social science. Money is about behavior as much as it is about numbers and math."

• "Your Money" Columnist, The New York Times
• Education/Degree
• BA, American Studies, Amherst College