Parenting Paused

On last week's episode, we talked about how what you love in your child you love in yourself, and what you don't like in your child, you don't like in yourself. Everyone is pretty familiar with the negative side of this- calling your child lazy, rude, and entitled- is what you hate in yourself.

In this week's episode, Leslie dives into the positive traits, and how you might be taking over the traits you love in your child.

See what it might be like to own the qualities you love in yourself, rather than projecting them onto your child.

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In this week's episode, Leslie breaks down how you most likely abandoned certain traits that are a part of your human experience. What happens when you see those abandoned traits in your child? Do you judge them? Act out on them? Tune in to hear more about how to work with that and hear how Leslie learned about being an efficiency expert from her daughter.

Are you truly connecting with your child? Or are you engulfing them, projecting your need for connection onto them, during your attempts to connect?

In conscious parenting, oftentimes importance is placed on connection with your child. This can feel very enticing for a parent with a void, or an unmet need to feel loved.

Then what happens is an "over connection" – basically connecting using your need to connect and feel loved as a guide, without considering the child and their needs or preferences.

Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how too much connection leads to unhealthy separation and signs your child might be exhibiting to tell you they feel engulfed.

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This week on Parenting Paused, Leslie shares a saying in the Purejoy view that goes- talk to the feelings, not the story. We live in a culture that values concepts. We have tons of stories about many different things that have happened in our lives, our memories, and what we think is gonna happen in the future.

And yet, often those stories are driven by feelings.

Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how to talk to the feelings and not the story.

"Be Kind!" has become a very common phrase. But what does it really mean?

The message being sent is really "be NICE" - which is often applied as abandoning yourself to take care of someone else's thoughts and feelings.

Tune into this week's podcast to hear Leslie offer an alternative view of kindness that will transform your parenting.

As a child, when you expressed big desires, you might have been criticized by your caregivers.

You likely internalized that critical voice and use it whenever you meet the intensity of your own big desire inside.

Tune into this week's Parenting Paused Podcast to deep dive into the origins of your self-aggression and how it shows up in your parenting today.

You want your child to be FREE to be fully themselves.That's what conscious parents are supposed to want, right?!

It sounds great… but how does that really look? How can you love your child fully, for who they are, when they are doing things that drive you crazy?

…and what about that nagging fear that if you let them fully be free, they might not want a connection with you?

That thought can really sting!

In this week's Parenting Paused Podcast episode Leslie Potter breaks down the idea that we should love our children for who they are - how to do it and what it TRULY means.

Last week we were taking a look at how young conclusions might be showing up in your parenting. Emotional blackmailing is about what happens when you unconsciously, in an attempt to stay safe, use emotionally manipulative tactics to get what you want! Tune into this episode to hear alternatives and what it looks like to set healthy personal boundaries instead. www.purejoyparenting.com/safeseat