Teenagers can go from cuddles to closed doors so fast it feels personal, and that’s where many parent-teen conversations start to break down. We dig into what’s really happening during adolescent brain development, why emotions run hotter than logic, and why fitting in can suddenly matter more than our opinion. Along the way, I share the book that helped me make sense of it all, “Blame My Brain,” plus the hard-earned reminder that most of us are doing better than we think, even when it feels messy.

I also bring in skills from my background as a hostage and crisis negotiator, because the same foundations work at home: listening without fixing, being present, and using reflective language to show you understand their world before you push your agenda. We talk about how easily we attach meaning to teen pushback, disrespect, authority, “they’re doing this on purpose” and how that story can trigger a reaction that turns a small moment into a full-blown argument.

Then we get practical. You’ll hear a simple emotional regulation tool called the 90-second rule, how Batari’s box explains escalating conflict, and why “walking away” can be a parenting strategy rather than avoidance. We also cover calm follow-up conversations, setting boundaries that separate feelings from behaviour, and the question many parents forget to ask: what are you doing to look after you?

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Resources & support (UK)

• Samaritans: 116 123 (free, 24/7)
• Shout: Text 85258 (free, 24/7)
• PAPYRUS HOPELINEUK (under 35s): 0800 068 4141

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