17: Parenting with Ashley Gobeil

Ashley Gobeil specializes in Counseling Psychology and works in the fields of family therapy, school counseling, domestic violence, and all things pertaining to childhood trauma. She is truly an expert in healing children and adults. In this episode, Ashley shares how to create behavioral changes for children and families as a whole, different parenting skills we need to develop such as compassionate empathy for our children, and how long it actually takes for our frontal lobes to fully develop. We discuss how to turn our frustration and anger into empathy, as well as how easily children mirror our behavior, which can be a very good way to change bad habits in both parents and children. It’s imperative as a parent to learn how to effectively observe your child. Many parents want a shut-off button when their child starts to act out, but Ashley makes it evident that there’s no one-solves-all solution for that. We must learn and adapt from our child’s behavior in order to understand how they feel and also build trust with them.   Key Takeaways: [3:44] Creating behavioral changes for families and children [6:53] Parenting skills needed to shift behavior in our kids with ADHD [10:02] How long it takes for a child’s frontal lobe to develop [11:55] How to turn anger into compassion [20:01] How to apply our knowledge into practice [24:30] Children can mirror the healthy habits of parents How To Connect With Ashley: Jumpstart for Parenting: https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd   Memorable Quotes: “The way we approach our parenting, it actually must change if we really want to create behavioral change for children with ADHD.” “Compliance doesn’t actually support healthy emotional regulation. We really want to be thinking about how we can build and support our kids with ADHD, to continue with that emotional regulation so they can eventually self-soothe and self-regulate.” “Compassionate empathy… that real skill in our parenting that is genuine empathy flows from us to our children when they’re struggling… If they could do well, they would.” “If they’ve been in the habit of responding a certain way to a certain situation, it’s going to be a habit.” “That’s the beauty of the brain and that’s the beauty of children and the parent-to-child relationship because we can co-soothe them. We can co-regulate. We can change our approach to be more responsive and therapeutic.” Dana Kay Resources:   Website - https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/adhdthriveinstitute  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/74302454/  Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/adhdthriveinstitute/ Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute     International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD - https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/    Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl     ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd     ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program - https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/