Parentless Podcast

23, With Love and Tomatoes, Part 1


Missouri author Cindy McIntyre spends some time with me on today's episode. This is part 1 of 2.

Cindy is Parentless and explores both of her parents lives and their deaths. Cindy has used her experiences to put magic into the world in the form of her books, which can be purchased on Amazon.

Cindy shares about her experience with a few "signs" over the years, what led her to begin writing letters to her parents and then eventually writing her books.

Cindy's mother passed away soon after Thanksgiving, so the holidays are difficult for Cindy. Despite her aversion to poinsettias, she wishes it could be Christmas all year! It's this outlook on life and the will to continue going that has helped Cindy battle her grief and turn it into something that may help others.

Cindy's Books:

Eulogies Unspoken: Stories of Worth
Caring for Dad: With Love and Tomatoes
Love at the Center of Grief

Follow her on instagram for more info, and her books can be purchased on Amazon.com

Instagram: @missouriauthorcindymcintyre

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

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22, Twenty-Two Good Years

Andrew loves his mama. The lunch lady. The kind, caring lunch lady that helped kids for 20 years as she made impression after impression on all the kids that came through her lunch line.

She was a pillar in his life, and in life and in death instilled values in him that have helped him to be more knowledgeable and wise than his 22 years should allow.

Mama wanted Andrew to do whatever made him happy, and Andrew shares with us what it is that makes him most happy these days.

Andrew's advice: Anything is possible!

If you're a busy professional looking to get some motivation and reach your goals, Andrew is your guy. Follow him on instagram and Facebook for more info.

Instagram: @avonreinfitness
Facebook: Andrew VonRein

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

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21, Joshua Tree

Katy Dolle is a lot of things, including crying behind her sunglasses after a rough therapy session or two. She's also a filmmaker and actress based in LA, and most recently has started her own mental health podcast, Crying Behind Sunglasses.

Katy discusses the loss of her dad, and the impact it had on her life. Her father made the choice to leave their family when she and her brother were little. After dealing with this initial loss and abandonment, she had planned to get back in touch with her father after she turned 18 - but that chance was taken from her when her father passed away due to effects of alcoholism.

Katy takes us through her coping mechanisms, her career, and her family life. Be sure to check out her short film on Amazon, We'll Never Make It, as well as her work with the #finddancingman campaign.

Website: cryingbehindpod.com
Instagram: @katydolle @cryingbehindpod

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

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20, She Was Coquette

Martine Jean is a Haitian-American filmmaker, producer and podcaster. She has spent time in Florida, and practiced law in Ohio, but eventually gave way to the warmth of Sunny California, where she now calls home.

Martine knew her mother. She even lived with her at one point in her life. But it was as an adult in the U.S., and not as a child in Haiti. Martine did not experience the nurturing side of her mother (Veronique) like others were able to. Every Mother's Day, Veronique's friends reach out to Martine and share their memories of Martine's mother with her. This sounds like a kind thing to do, however Martine has to live with the knowledge that her mother had the ability to be nurturing to others and not her own daughter.

Despite this daunting knowledge, Martine is free. She's free because she has forgiven herself and she has forgiven her mother. "It is what it is," and what it is is not Martine's fault. She has created a successful career in L.A., a feat in itself. She exhibits features of her mother daily, in her taste for coffee and her usage of perfume, both of which continue to be helpful in preparing Martine for a hard days work.

Martine shares some insights on how her job as a producer has changed, and what challenges Covid-19 brings to the world of reality TV. Martine's podcast, Film Bug, explores film producers and their experiences, it's a must-listen for an inside look at some of your favorite shows and movies! Visit her website to view her work or listen to Film Bug.

Website: martinejean.com
Instagram: @melangemedia

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share?

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You are not alone.

19, The Box of Ashes

(Grand)Daughter, Sister, Mom, Scientist, Comedian, Double Batman, Double Parentless...the list goes on and on. Amber Webster, Phoenix based comedian speaks out on what it's like to live life after witnessing her father kill her mother when she was just 1 year old. A month later, her father killed himself, and in doing so created an open ended case file. There were no witnesses - the courts chose not to accept the testimonies of Amber and her sister due to their ages.

Amber was raised by her maternal grand(Dad) and grand(Mom) after this horrific incident. She has embraced and encompassed what life has offered her, yet at times still yearns for what life has taken away from her. She has questions she may never get answered, but may be searching for soon. She has chosen to let her life circumstances enhance her love for the quirky, and she has a has seen more dead bodies than your average Double Batman.

Amber's advice: If you're looking to find relief from past trauma, you may find Somatic Therapy helpful.

Instagram: amberwebster623

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share?

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You are not alone.

18, Cons: The Life of the Party

Welcome to Hawaii, where Antonia Agbannawag‘s smile shines so bright, you wouldn’t guess she keeps a playlist called, “Crying on Purpose,” and sometimes intentionally cranks the volume on the angriest sounding music she can find.

Her father, lovingly referred to as “Cons” by his friends and fam, was a hard working man that wanted the best for his family. He set a great example and left an incredible physical void in the lives of those who knew him when he suffered a massive heart attack when Antonia was just 8 yrs old.

Antonia shares her journey with us, what she's learned, and how she has now turned to helping others remember their loved ones with her new business, The DL Company.

Antonia’s advice: Find those bright spots, and hold on to them, and celebrate them.

Instagram: @thedl.company
Etsy: theDLcompany
Website: thedl.company

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share?

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Voicemail: 623.396.6069

You are not alone.

17, My Protector

Blaiz remembers her mother, her best friend, her role model and her protector, Raquel. Raquel loved to laugh, and she passed down her cooking skills to her children. Even her grandchildren know that all it takes sometimes is "a pinch!" Blaiz looks just like her mother and people tell her this all the time. Blaize walks us through a near death experience she had where she literally felt the presence of her protector. She is on year 4 without her mom, and she has a hopeful message for others that have lost a parent.

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share?

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You are not alone.

16, Solidarity of Mom

Joe Loya, bank robber, thief, menacer, son, brother.
Joe Loya, former bank robber, son, brother, husband, dad, teacher, writer, actor, mentor...

The list of things Joe Loya IS versus what he used to be is incredibly long. Check out Joe's full story on the 2020 podcast The Score: Bank Robber Diaries, or in his memoir, The Man Who Outgrew His Prison Cell.

Joe remembers his sweet mother, Bess, and the long lasting lesson she taught him while sitting at the dinner table. Bess passed away when Joe was 9, and 50 years later, she lives through him. After years of enduring his father's abuse and other traumas, 16 year old Joe tried to kill his father in self defense after a vicious beating. Spoiler Alert: His father survived and they have built an amazing relationship over time.

Joe discusses his life now as a father homeschooling his daughter, a husband and a co-parent, his relationship with his father, his work in Hollywood, and upcoming projects.

Instagram: @loya.joe @thescore.podcast
Website: https://www.joeloya.ltd

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

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You are not alone.

15, He Was Kind of a Coaching Legend

Robert "Rob" Wilson lost both his parents. In two very different, very stressful situations.

Rob, Norm, Big Willie, Mr. Wilson, Coach...however you know him...this guy knows how to roll with the punts that life has given him.

Rob followed in his father's footsteps and now says of his father, "He's kind of a coaching legend." These sentiments are echoed throughout the Western Kansas communities that were blessed to know the presence of Coach Robert "Bob" Wilson.

Rob talks about he and Bob's friendly relationship while coaching opposite each other, and the moment that his dad decided to become his high school football coach.

Not long after his father's sudden death, Rob's mother passed away after a long battle with cancer. Rob learned his love of cooking from her, and cherishes the last year a half of her life that they were able to spend together.

Rob's advice: No matter what happens Friday night, the sun is gonna come up Saturday morning.

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share?

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You are not alone.

14, She Would Be Stoked On It

Courtney experienced tragedy and trauma surrounding her mother’s death when she was 16. She left her hometown when she was 18, and has been making it on her own since. She’s now a 24 yr old vet tech. She has recently started trauma therapy, which has allowed her to begin learning more about herself and her actions as related to her life experiences. Courtney turns to comedy, good friends, and her boyfriend when the dark starts to close in, and she continues to work toward the light.

This is a Back Home Media production, recorded and produced in Phoenix, AZ.

Music by Colen Lococo and The Revolving Birds.

Like what you hear? Helped by what you heard? Have something to share?

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Voicemail: 623.396.6069

You are not alone.