Dorothy is on the pod today and she imparts some modern elder wisdom upon my podcast. She shares stories of her life starting in the middle, finding her partner into her late 30s and adopting a girl from China as an Asian American woman who grew up in Brooklyn, New York. We talk Asian representation in American media, dissecting parental trauma, and the ever changing notion of what it means to be human. Timestamps: Deciding to adopt a child (3:00), biological versus logical families (3:30), divorces (11:00), what makes a marriage work (12:20), John Gottman (14:18), humans are dynamic (19:50), the wisdom of modern elders (21:20), growing up in the 1980s (22:45), what makes a lifetime (30:30), social life during the pandemic and introversion (33:10), choosing adoption (37:25), telling your child she is adopted (42:45), Joy Luck Club and Asian representation (48:40), Crazy Rich Asians (49:55), getting called a “Jap” (56:45), throwing out the old school playbook (59:45), parental trauma (1:08:58), and more. Dorothy is looking to talk to 100 Asianx womxn who burn their playbook and play by their own rules. If you are interested, you can reach her at [email protected]. Thank you everyone for listening, and as always, I’ll see you on the next episode.