We need to be open to a third force — another way of having an experience — so that we can defuse the psychic bomb of our personal history. 

This script is why we repeat dramas throughout our lives. When you introduce a third force — or a new way to do the script — you can finally step out of it. 

This is also why self-confrontation is critical to healing and growth. We cannot set up camp only in self-compassion. That’s only one path of the work. We have to create a tension to give us material to work with. 

So how do we do it? 

Time Stamps:

1:00--The idea of moving past repetitive conflicts

4:38--The three forces at work when moving into and through conflict

8:42--How Roy Kent got stuck in Ted Lasso

11:52--Three different ways we can listen

Show Notes:

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