Atlanta-based counselor specializing in adolescent mental health Robert Vore on ministering to our high schoolers, college students, and emerging adults.
Robert's tips for helping teenagers and young adults cope with difficulty and disappointment:
1) Validate their emotions. Then, after calm is restored (minutes or hours or days later), challenge the harmful thoughts.
2) Facilitate safe social interactions whenever possible. A Zoom movie night, online social gaming, phone calls with friends, digital hangouts.
3) Lean into the context of your own setting and struggles. Don't just minister to your teen, also check in on how YOU are doing and make sure you aren't coming in hot or anxious to their struggles.
Resources for further reading, from Robert (with notes!):
The Teenage Brain by Frances Jensen // if folks are wanting to learn more about the neuroscience of adolescence but in a way that’s written to be understandable for parents (and by extension, people ministering to youth).
Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense Emotions // this one is super practical, focusing on how to interact with adolescents
The Stressed Years of Their Lives by B. Janet Hibbs & Anthony Rostain // I *highly* recommend this one for folks who work with your late high school/college-aged kids. The first few chapters in particular gives one of the best overviews of the current state of college kids (and the factors that go into that) that I’ve read.
Under Pressure by Lisa Damour // focuses mostly on girls & anxiety, but still great [information for parents of any teenager]