Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack

You know you probably shouldn’t watch. A celebrity melting down. A viral argument. A stranger losing it in a parking lot while someone films. Some part of you knows it’s none of your business, and yet, you watch the whole thing. Maybe you even send it to a friend.

So why are public meltdowns so hard to look away from?

In this episode, Dr. Jeremy Pollack breaks down the neuroscience behind our fascination with other people’s public conflicts. Our brains are wired to detect threats, and negativity bias naturally pulls our attention toward anything that seems dangerous, unpredictable, or socially significant.

For most of human history, paying attention to conflict within the group was useful information. Who’s angry? Who’s dangerous? Who broke the rules? What does this mean for me?

But there’s an important distinction: watching this kind of drama doesn’t necessarily feel good. In fact, it often makes us uncomfortable. The pull isn’t always about pleasure; it’s about information, and that discomfort can actually be part of what keeps our attention locked in.

The problem is that this ancient system evolved to keep track of a relatively small social world. Today, technology can feed it an endless stream of conflict involving strangers whose lives have little or nothing to do with ours, and our brains aren’t particularly good at recognizing the difference.

This episode draws from Jeremy’s new book, Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts.

📘 Get Wired for Peace:
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Dealing with conflict on your team or in your workplace? Pollack Peacebuilding Systems helps organizations resolve conflict, strengthen communication, and build healthier workplaces.

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About Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D.
Jeremy is a social-organizational psychologist and the founder of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems. His work focuses on helping people and organizations understand conflict more deeply and use practical, neuroscience-informed strategies to handle it more effectively.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
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Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

Why do online arguments seem to go nowhere?

You start with the hope of having a thoughtful discussion. Minutes later, you're frustrated, the other person is even more entrenched, and neither of you has changed your mind.

In this episode, Dr. Jeremy Pollack explains why that's not simply a failure of communication, it's the way our brains respond to online interaction. Drawing on neuroscience, he explores how text strips away tone, facial expressions, body language, and other essential cues our brains rely on to interpret meaning. Without them, we naturally fill in the blanks with our own assumptions, often interpreting neutral messages as hostile or dismissive.

Dr. Pollack also explores how anonymity, public audiences, and social media dynamics make productive conflict resolution even more difficult, creating environments that often reward winning over understanding.

You'll learn:

• Why our brains misinterpret written communication
• How online environments amplify conflict
• Why public debates make changing minds even harder
• A simple rule for deciding when a difficult conversation should happen offline instead

This episode is based on one of the seven neuroscience-based principles from Jeremy's book, Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts, offering practical insights you can use in your work, relationships, and everyday conversations.

📘 Learn more about Wired for Peace: https://a.co/d/02XFwbCC

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

If your organization is looking to improve communication, reduce conflict, and build healthier workplace cultures, learn more at https://pollackpeacebuilding.com.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
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Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

Why do calm, reasonable people sometimes become furious behind the wheel?

In this episode, Jeremy Pollack explores the neuroscience of road rage and explains why driving creates the perfect conditions for our brain's threat response to take over. Learn how biases like hostile attribution bias and the fundamental attribution error cause us to interpret other drivers' actions as personal attacks, why stress makes these reactions even more likely, and how nervous system regulation can help interrupt the cycle.

Most importantly, Jeremy shares one surprisingly simple strategy that can dramatically reduce the likelihood of road rage before your drive even begins.

Whether you're interested in neuroscience, conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, or simply becoming a calmer driver, this episode offers practical, research-informed insights you can apply immediately.

To learn more, visit pollackpeacebuilding.com or explore Jeremy's book, Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
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Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

Why do fear-based political messages work so well? The answer has less to do with politics than with neuroscience.

In this episode, Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D., explores how fear-based messaging can shape the brain and why it is such a powerful tool for influencing beliefs and behavior.

Drawing on neuroscience and the principles from his new book, Wired for Peace, Jeremy explains how neuroplasticity allows the brain to form new patterns during moments of heightened emotional arousal. When political leaders, media personalities, or online influencers repeatedly frame the world as dangerous and present themselves as the source of safety, they may be conditioning audiences to associate them with nervous system regulation.

This episode explores:

• How fear accelerates the brain's learning process
• Why threat-based messaging is so persuasive
• How the same psychological mechanisms extend beyond politics into media and online content
• A practical way to become more aware of these patterns without disengaging from important issues

Rather than telling you what to think, this conversation offers a framework for understanding how our brains respond to fear and how greater awareness can help us make more intentional choices.

📘 Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts is available now.

If you're looking to build healthier conflict dynamics within your team or organization, learn more about Pollack Peacebuilding Systems and schedule a free consultation at pollackpeacebuilding.com.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
📣 Subscribe & Share:
 If this episode resonated, share it with a colleague or leader. Follow Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack for practical tools that create healthier, more effective workplaces.

Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

The way organizations handle conflict is about to change, and the companies that recognize it first will have a significant advantage.

Unresolved workplace conflict costs U.S. businesses an estimated $359 billion every year in lost productivity. Not because of lawsuits or turnover, but because people struggle to navigate tension effectively.

In this episode, Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D., shares his prediction for how conflict resolution will evolve over the next decade and why traditional communication and conflict training often falls short. The missing piece? Most approaches assume people stay calm and rational during conflict. Neuroscience tells us otherwise.

Drawing from his new book, Wired for Peace, Jeremy explores:

• Why conventional conflict training is quietly failing
• The three forces already reshaping how organizations approach conflict
• The shift forward-thinking leaders should prepare for now
• The one question every leader should ask before investing in another communication workshop

Whether you lead a team, manage an organization, or simply want a better way to navigate difficult conversations, this episode offers a practical, science-based perspective on the future of conflict resolution.

📘 Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts is available now.

If your organization is ready to transform the way it handles conflict, learn more about Pollack Peacebuilding Systems and schedule a free consultation at pollackpeacebuilding.com.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
📣 Subscribe & Share:
 If this episode resonated, share it with a colleague or leader. Follow Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack for practical tools that create healthier, more effective workplaces.

Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

What if the conflict you're dealing with isn't really about the schedule, the budget, or that comment someone made in a meeting?

Most conflicts begin on the surface, but they're driven by something much deeper. In this episode, Dr. Jeremy Pollack introduces the SAPIEN Model—a neuroscience-informed framework for understanding the six core psychological needs that shape human behavior and drive conflict.

You'll learn how threats to these needs can trigger the brain in ways that closely resemble threats to physical survival, making even small disagreements feel intensely personal.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What the six psychological needs in the SAPIEN Model are:
• Safety
• Affiliation
• Positive Self-Concept
• Independence
• Engaging Activities
• Noble Pursuits
• Why unmet psychological needs often lie beneath everyday disagreements
• How understanding these needs makes conflict more predictable and more solvable
• The one simple question you can ask to uncover what's really driving almost any conflict, whether it's your own or someone else's

Once you begin to recognize these six needs, conflict stops feeling random and starts becoming readable. That shift can transform the way you approach difficult conversations at work, at home, and everywhere in between.

This episode explores one of the foundational ideas behind Jeremy's book, Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts.

If you're interested in building healthier relationships, leading more effectively, or resolving conflict with greater confidence, this episode offers a practical framework you can begin using immediately.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
📣 Subscribe & Share:

 If this episode resonated, share it with a colleague or leader. Follow Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack for practical tools that create healthier, more effective workplaces.

Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

Why do some people seem able to step into almost any conflict and help people find a way forward? It isn't magic. It's actually a set of learnable skills.

In this episode, Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D., introduces the 5 Cs of Conflict Resolution—the essential capacities that professional peacebuilders rely on to navigate difficult conversations and transform conflict into collaboration.

You'll learn how curiosity, communication, care, collaboration, and creativity work together to create better outcomes, whether you're leading a team, navigating workplace disagreements, or working through conflict at home.

These five skills all depend on your prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain responsible for thoughtful decision-making, empathy, and problem-solving. When stress or conflict escalates, that part of the brain becomes less accessible, making it harder to respond the way you want to. That's why understanding the neuroscience behind conflict is just as important as learning conflict resolution techniques.

This episode explores one of the seven neuroscience-based principles from Jeremy's new book, Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts, offering practical insights you can begin applying immediately.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The five core skills every effective peacebuilder develops
• Why curiosity is often more powerful than persuasion
• How neuroscience explains why conflict can derail good communication
• The hidden prerequisite that makes all five Cs possible
• Practical ways to improve conflict resolution in leadership, work, and everyday life

📘 Get your copy of Wired for Peace: https://a.co/d/02XFwbCC

📘 Get your copy of Wired for Peace: https://a.co/d/02XFwbCC

🤝 Looking to improve conflict resolution in your organization? Learn more about Pollack Peacebuilding Systems or schedule a free consultation at https://pollackpeacebuilding.com.

Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D., is a social-organizational psychologist, speaker, author, and the founder of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems. Through neuroscience-based training and consulting, he helps leaders, teams, and organizations transform conflict into opportunities for stronger communication, collaboration, and lasting peace.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
📣 Subscribe & Share:
 If this episode resonated, share it with a colleague or leader. Follow Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack for practical tools that create healthier, more effective workplaces.

Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

What if the person who frustrates you most could actually help you become better at handling conflict?

In this episode, Dr. Jeremy Pollack introduces a surprising neuroscience-based exercise that uses a controlled trigger, like a podcaster, news anchor, or public figure who reliably irritates you, to train your brain to respond more calmly and constructively during real-life disagreements.

Rather than avoiding conflict, you'll learn how to use manageable moments of tension to recondition your nervous system, build emotional resilience, and prepare for the conversations that matter most.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why certain people trigger such strong emotional reactions
• How your brain conditions itself to associate conflict with threat
• A four-step process for rewiring your response to difficult conversations
• Why self-regulation is more effective than suppressing your emotions
• How to transform conflict from something you dread into an opportunity for growth

This episode explores one of the seven neuroscience-based principles from Dr. Jeremy Pollack's book, Wired for Peace: Using Seven Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts.

Whether you're navigating workplace disagreements, family tension, or challenging conversations in everyday life, this practical exercise will help you strengthen your ability to stay calm, curious, and constructive when conflict arises.

Resources

• Wired for Peace: Using Seven Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts
• Learn more about Pollack Peacebuilding Systems or schedule a complimentary consultation at PollackPeacebuilding.com

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who wants to build greater resilience and confidence in difficult conversations.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
📣 Subscribe & Share:
 If this episode resonated, share it with a colleague or leader. Follow Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack for practical tools that create healthier, more effective workplaces.

Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

Why do so many conflict resolution strategies work for a while only to fall apart when emotions run high?

According to Dr. Jeremy Pollack, the missing piece isn't better communication. It's understanding the brain and the nervous system. Until we address conflict at that level, lasting resolution remains difficult to achieve.

In this foundational episode, Dr. Pollack introduces the seven neuroscience-based principles that form the core of his Wired for Peace framework. Drawing on years of experience mediating conflicts between executives, business partners, workplace teams, couples, and families, he explains how understanding the brain can fundamentally change the way we approach disagreement.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why conflict resolution begins with regulating the nervous system
• How to retrain your brain to see conflict as an opportunity rather than a threat
• Why curiosity is more powerful than certainty during difficult conversations
• How trust is built through small, consistent moments, not grand gestures
• The difference between care and trust, and why both matter
• Why humans are biologically wired for collaboration
• How creative thinking helps break through seemingly impossible conflicts

These seven principles form the foundation of Dr. Jeremy Pollack's book, Wired for Peace: Using Seven Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts, offering a practical, science-based roadmap for resolving conflict in the workplace, at home, and in every important relationship.

Whether you're a leader, manager, HR professional, mediator, or simply someone who wants to navigate conflict with greater confidence and clarity, this episode provides a powerful introduction to a neuroscience-based approach to building lasting peace.

Resources

• Wired for Peace: Using Seven Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts
• Learn more about Pollack Peacebuilding Systems or schedule a complimentary consultation at PollackPeacebuilding.com

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to transform the way they think about conflict.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me
🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
📣 Subscribe & Share:
 If this episode resonated, share it with a colleague or leader. Follow Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack for practical tools that create healthier, more effective workplaces.

Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn

We've all heard that empathy is the key to resolving conflict. But what if the version of empathy most people practice is actually making difficult conversations harder?

In this episode, Dr. Jeremy Pollack challenges one of the most common assumptions in conflict resolution. Drawing on neuroscience and peace psychology, he explains why absorbing another person's emotions can leave both people dysregulated and why a different approach is far more effective.

Rather than taking on someone else's emotional state, you'll learn how to understand the deeper psychological needs driving their behavior, allowing you to stay calm, think clearly, and respond more skillfully during conflict.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The difference between emotional empathy and genuine understanding
• Why emotional empathy can intensify conflict instead of resolving it
• How empathy fatigue contributes to burnout for leaders, managers, and HR professionals
• The four core psychological needs that often lie beneath conflict
• A practical shift that helps you remain compassionate without becoming emotionally overwhelmed

This episode explores one of the seven neuroscience-based principles from Dr. Jeremy Pollack's book, Wired for Peace: Using Seven Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts.

Whether you're leading a team, managing workplace conflict, or navigating challenging personal relationships, this conversation offers a more sustainable way to build trust, reduce defensiveness, and resolve conflict without carrying everyone else's emotions.

Resources

• Wired for Peace: Using Seven Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts
• Learn more about Pollack Peacebuilding Systems or schedule a complimentary consultation at PollackPeacebuilding.com

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who wants to approach conflict with greater clarity, compassion, and resilience.

🎧 Listen now to learn how building conflict competency can transform tension into trust, alignment, and stronger performance.

Connect with Me

🌐 Website: PollackPeacebuilding.com
🌐 Dr. Pollack’s Courses: peacefulleadersacademy.com/courses/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 LinkedIn: Jeremy Pollack 
📣 Subscribe & Share:
 If this episode resonated, share it with a colleague or leader. Follow Peacebuilding with Dr. Pollack for practical tools that create healthier, more effective workplaces.

Host: Dr. Jeremy Pollack from Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

More from Dr. Pollack: 

• Peaceful Leaders Academy
• Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict
• FREE e-book: The Ultimate 12-Step Guide to Coworker Mediation: Free Ebook - Pollack Peacebuilding Systems

Connect with Dr. Pollack on social media: Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn