Peas in Progress

You might have noticed there was NO podcast episode in the month of November, and for good reason. Even if you didn’t notice or aren’t caught up, we are talking about the end of a long/difficult season of life. It’s been one thing after another for Team Bolden and the struggle has been real.

We’re no strangers to life’s challenges so we’re here to share what’s been going on and how we’ve made the best of it all. Consider this a love letter to you from some humans to another. Let’s do this together.

Follow Brandon’s new content stream: @embolden.yourself

Follow Amy Beth: @thatveganwife

Have you ever called yourself a "people pleaser" or know someone who has?

We’re BACK with Season 2 of Peas in Progress and this time with special guest, Ahdri Kent, People Pleasing Addiction Recovery Guide. With Ahdri’s “whimsdom”, we’re here to share why & how People Pleasing can affect all areas of your life. It’s a sneaky little “personality trait” that comes with a heavy load of consequences and believe it or not, but it’s something we can heal from.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Guest Introduction: Ahdri Kent, People Pleasing Addiction Recovery Guide

02:41 - Peas in Progress Introduction/Disclaimer

03:19 - Ahdri introduces herSELF

06:52 - How Ahdri got HERE

19:02 - Brandon breaks down People Pleasing patterns

28:23 - How People Pleasing can ruin your life

36:45 - Screw awareness

41:42 - Something that can destroy your world deserves your attention (Ahdri explains)

50:05 - The first step to recovery

59:53 - Amy Beth gets honest about her people pleasing recovery

1:05:22 - Ahdri explains the mental block behind a People Pleaser’s recovery

1:06:46 - Brandon talks “change”

1:11:02 - What are the “symptoms” of People Pleasing?

1:21:50 - “Oh shit, I’m a People Pleaser. What do I do?”

1:35:53 - Outro & How to find/work with Ahdri

Okay, so this episode is talking about Veganism and whether or not Amy Beth & Brandon both subscribe to the same outlook on this whole thing. It's NOT the "V-Word" you were led to believe, but if you did get it, they got into this lifestyle, AND be sharing a snippet from LA Talk Radio giving a little more insight into "why Vegan School." Enrollment is FREE.

Listen in as Amy Beth & Brandon dig deeper into the idea of plant-based living & give tips for "Veganners," so you'll want to stick around till the end!

TIMESTAMPS

00:01 - ThatVeganWife talks about Vegan School on LA Talk Radio

5:29 - Peas In Progress Intro/Disclaimer

6:10 - Where have we been lately?

7:45 - What it really means to "go vegan."

9:10 - Amy Beth shares her Vegan Story

17:17 - [MUSIC BREAK] Morning Coffee by Not Yourself

17:45 - Brandon shares his Plant-"bae"sed Story

24:30 - [MUSIC BREAK] Getsomerest/sleepwell by quickly quickly

25:15 - How our past shaped us

32:20 - Are we BOTH Vegan? Question, answered.

33:35 - [MUSIC BREAK] 90s Mindz by Dr. Drumah

33:52 - Tips for "Veganners"

42:45 - Why Vegan School?

MUSIC CREDITS

Intro & Outro: in my life by datfootdive

Humans are naturally social creatures which means every one of us has had some form of relationship with another human being at one time in their lives or another. Don't let #Instagram fool you, relationships can look pretty than what actually happens.... But what happens when the honeymoon phase is over? How does the relationship thrive then? In this episode, we're diving into what relationships look like, how expectations & boundaries can be set, and even some of our own personal favorite relationship moments with each other. You'll want to stick around until the end where we'll have a musical performance from one half of Peas in Progress you don't want to miss.

Timestamps:

00:01 - Bloopers Reel Beginning

1:24 - Peas in Progress Intro/Adult Content Disclaimer/Subscribe!!

3:12 - Foundations of Relationships

23:05 - Practical Relationship Advice That Anybody Can Benefit From

41:25 - Vegan School Announcement! (Enroll for FREE April 1, 2019: link)

42: 45 - Things We've Learned from our Own Relationship(s)

54:01 - Our BEST Relationship Moments We Haven't Told You About

57:01 - Makeout Music (featured by: artists' info)

57:36: Amy Beth's most memorable moment

1:10:28 - The End

1:11:10 - BONUS MATERIAL: Brandon's Birthday Song

1:14:11 - The real, “The End”

Music Credits:

Srolang by Melodiesinfonie (00:01)

LuvnYou by Ian Ewing (23:05)

Maldives by Roman Müller @romanmuellermusic (41:25)

Who’s That by BROCKBEATS (54:01)

Ladybug by Sulmberville (57:01)

90s Mindz by Dr. Drumah - (1:10:28)

After sharing our experiences with you all, it's a good thing to educationally explain some of the concepts and situations that we faced. In this episode, Brandon & Amy Beth lead a discussion on different types of culturally sensitive issues including that of white privilege, redlining, and systemic racism. This topic can be uncomfortable for some people, so we advise bringing your listening & learning ears to the conversation. While this will be our last podcast (for now) on this topic, we highly encourage self-exploration into this topic. A list of resources you can learn from is listed below the Time Stamps.

Time Stamps:

00:01 - Discussion Disclaimer with Amy Beth

00:53 - Peas in Progress Intro

01:31 - Explaining our Experience / What keeps us from talking about racism?

13:01 - Who decided Race? / Brandon reads from the book: White Fragility by Robin Diangelo (pg 17)

15:04 - Defining Racism / Googled terms you should be familiar with

25:50 - Cultural Appropriation: The Harlem Shake

26:53 - The Harlem Shake: https://youtu.be/qV0LHCHf-pE

27:27 - The ORIGINAL Harlem Shake: https://youtu.be/Mdeu5aGwwWI

28:41 - Defining Experiences / More terms you should know

33:51 - The Politics of Race / The Story of Jackie Robinson // Amy Beth Reads from the book: White Fragility (pg 26)

35:16 - Let's talk about this

36:10 - White Supremacy (read from White Fragility page 30-31)

38:20 - How Can We Move Forward With ALL This?

43:43 - Closing with a quote from Robin Diangelo

Anti-Racism Resources:

Book: White Fragility by Robin Diangelo

Book: White Rage by Carol Anderson, PhD

Podcast: Episode 34 - Black and White: Racism in America from The Liturgists Podcast in Podcasts:

Youtube: How to Talk About Race, Identity, & Activism Online with Franchesca Ramsey & Marie Forleo

Anti-Racism Self-Work Resource: Me and White Supremacy Work Book created by Layla F. Saad: https://www.meandwhitesupremacybook.com/book

Social Activists & Educators to follow & learn from on Instagram:

@readlikearockstar

@theconsciouskid

@nowhitesaviors

@laylafsaad

@diversereads

@rachel.cargle

Song Credits:

Intro & Outro: in my life by datfootdive: https://spoti.fi/2UNajYZ

Green Leaves by Kupla: https://spoti.fi/2TEQSl6

Numero Uno by Mister Carver: https://spoti.fi/2I4OLpe

Layers by MARTIN $KY: https://spoti.fi/2E1lFmF

90s Mindz by Dr. Drummah: https://spoti.fi/2taKWom

Racism; it’s a buzzword that catches headlines in the never-ending news cycle these days and it’s also something we’ve encountered frequently throughout this journey together. In this first of a two part series, we share our personal experiences individually and as a couple in regards to discrimination based on stereotypes.

Important Note: We are risking a lot by sharing our experience in podcast form, so if you're coming to the table to listen, do simply that. Everyone has their right to express their own experiences in their own unique way, and we boldly invite you to the table for a different kind of conversation. Encouraging words and genuine questions are welcome. However, we do not tolerate hate speech or words without thought, so if you have questions, asking them mindfully & try not to dehumanize us in the process.

References to historical stories read are included below in the Time Stamps.

Time Stamps:

0:01: Important Note from Brandon

1:26: Welcome

2:04: Our Collective Racial Experience as a Couple

23:34: B Reads Historical Reference - The Story of Ossian Sweet (from Carol Anderson’s, White Rage: The Unspoken Truth of Our Racial Divide, p56)

29:55: Brandon reflects on Ossian Sweet

31:20: Amy Beth Shares the White Experience

41:35: Amy Beth Reads Historical Reference - The Behind the Scenes Story of President Reagan (from Carol Anderson’s, White Rage: The Unspoken Truth of Our Racial Divide, p124)

46:10: Amy Beth reflects on Reagan

47:35: Brandon Shares the Black Experience

1:08:21: IN CLOSING - Talking About Race With One Another

Learn more about Peas in Progress by clicking HERE. Send us feedback and podcast topic ideas: [email protected].

Song Credits:

- in my life by datfootdive

- Ancestry by Axian, Kuranes

- sorry by chief.

- 90s Mindz by Dr. Drumah

If you have experienced enough to know, life can be difficult. And for this newlywed couple, making strides towards great things came with obstacles & challenges… all at once it seemed. Listen to Peas in Progress tell the you the early stories about how life stunk, in more ways than one. Hence the name “Farts & Fried Rice,” as this is the stinkiest part of our journey so far.

I bet you’re wondering, “how did you all meet? How did your relationship start?” Well this is that story. From the time we had our first lunch, to the time Amy Beth’s roommate planted the “girlfriend” seed, to the time we got married, and everything in between, this is probably our FAVORITE time in our relationship. Someone want to make a movie out of our lives? It’s pretty action packed.

Welcome to our FIRST episode! In this one, we'll be laying the foundation of who we are by telling the tales of how we were before we became friends & were married.