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There is a particular kind of exhaustion that sleep does not touch. A bone-deep, soul-level fatigue that builds quietly over years - sometimes decades - of saying yes when every part of you meant no. Of smoothing things over. Of absorbing what wasn't yours to carry. Of keeping the peace at the cost of keeping yourself.
In this episode, Tara Hegerty names what so many women have felt but never had language for: that people pleasing is not a personality trait. It is a survival response - wired into the nervous system early, passed down through generations, and held in the body long after the original threat has gone.
This conversation goes deep. Into the family systems that first taught us to shrink. Into the good girl conditioning that centuries of history handed us. Into the very real, very physical cost that chronic self-abandonment takes on the body. And into what it actually looks like to shift the pattern - not just understand it, but clear it at the root.
In this episode, you'll receive:
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If this episode stirred something in you, there are several ways to go deeper with Tara.
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There is a particular kind of exhaustion that sleep does not touch. A bone-deep, soul-level fatigue that builds quietly over years - sometimes decades - of saying yes when every part of you meant no. Of smoothing things over. Of absorbing what wasn't yours to carry. Of keeping the peace at the cost of keeping yourself.
In this episode, Tara Hegerty names what so many women have felt but never had language for: that people pleasing is not a personality trait. It is a survival response - wired into the nervous system early, passed down through generations, and held in the body long after the original threat has gone.
This conversation goes deep. Into the family systems that first taught us to shrink. Into the good girl conditioning that centuries of history handed us. Into the very real, very physical cost that chronic self-abandonment takes on the body. And into what it actually looks like to shift the pattern - not just understand it, but clear it at the root.
In this episode, you'll receive:
Sacred Offerings
If this episode stirred something in you, there are several ways to go deeper with Tara.
Listen & Connect